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Male-Female Friendships (pg. 13)
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| elFreak |
| yeah i am, but only because of my religion. |
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| AnotherWay83 |
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
Getting with someone that there is sexual attraction with has nothing to do with priorities. The only time that it eats up all of your time, is if the person in question has 0 interest in you.
The dynamics of attraction are pretty simple if it is shared attraction. Stop putting that on a pedestal. |
well said i agree |
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| StanVoid |
| what about male-male friendships? how do i know if the other dude doesn't have alterior motives? |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
who is talking about feelings here?
i am talking only about a little squeak squeak yeehaw bang pop face pirate.
The people who stay virgins (unwillingly) into their late 20's and beyond, usually do so because they are completely inept at inter personal behaviors and have severe confidence issues. I am not calling yohan a virgin, but the excuses he used are textbook ones from these same people.
It is not a priority.
I have no time.
and so on.
all of these just translate into : I fear rejection. |
or conservative bible thumping fundie christian? (or other wacky religious types) |
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| elFreak |
that is why i added the unwillingly part.
I knew a guy who was a virgin at 27 years old. It had nothing to do with looks, some women showed interest. The guy was so socially inept that every time a woman expressed any interest in him, he would shut it down and become a total spazz. It was pretty funny, considering he was not shy in professional environments, and was pretty successful. The confidence issue only went to with women. It was pretty hilarious, considering that all interest sexually was always initiated by women.
we like to laugh at him sometimes, and always ask if he was raped as a child. |
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| itsmekika |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
what about male-male friendships? how do i know if the other dude doesn't have alterior motives? |
LMFAO:toothless |
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| colonelcrisp |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
what about male-male friendships? how do i know if the other dude doesn't have alterior motives? |
bend over drop your trousers and give him the come hither motion over your shoulder...... if it feels like your pooping backwards, he is probably into you..... or most likely in you..... |
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| Akridrot |
Weird and awkward will occur if you are friends with someone and you vehemently deny that you want to have sex with them or be in a relationship with them for months or years, then suddenly explode with the confession that you've had the strongest feelings for them forever and you'd love nothing more than to be with them. Both men and women would be creeped out by that.
The fearing rejection thing is only true for some men. Some guys are like me: lazy when it comes to getting . As long as I have access to one box, I feel fine. It's just too much mental effort (and money) to personally convince all those different women to want me. I'd rather become much more successful first, so that they will all actively seek me and I can choose. See, I'm realistic about all of this. :D
Right now, I have some good female friends who have boyfriends or who aren't interested and know that I would like them doggystyle with my two index fingers in their mouth stretching their face into a smile as they repeatedly moan. If I find the girl attractive, I want her to know that I find her attractive and think about her like a pervert if we're friends. It actually adds some humor to the relationship sometimes.
If she's telling me "Nah, I don't want to do that with you. I don't think of you in that way." and I remain friends with her for legitimate reasons, like her personality and intelligence, then she knows I'm not some spineless coward who's only sticking around in the hopes of getting some. I let all of them know that I'm taken but something can be arranged if they want. ;)
After middle school, secret crushes on people became more and more childish. You're a goddamned child if you like someone and then say "NO!!!!! I don't really like her!" with your arms crossed because you're too embarrassed to admit it. |
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| Akridrot |
| Don't listen to everything that dog, elfreak, says. But at the same time, don't lie to yourself. |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
that is why i added the unwillingly part.
I knew a guy who was a virgin at 27 years old. It had nothing to do with looks, some women showed interest. The guy was so socially inept that every time a woman expressed any interest in him, he would shut it down and become a total spazz. It was pretty funny, considering he was not shy in professional environments, and was pretty successful. The confidence issue only went to with women. It was pretty hilarious, considering that all interest sexually was always initiated by women.
we like to laugh at him sometimes, and always ask if he was raped as a child. |
haha. totally sounds like me, except i'm fugly as hell (my eyes are too slanty) so very few girls are interested in me and i'm an introvert
but in all honesty, i think it's selfish for me to put through a girl as a soldier's spouse. how many girls would think they have a future with a dude who might get shot every couple of years?
still havent met a girl who would be mentally strong enough to take something like that (and long distance thing sucks) |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yohan
haha. totally sounds like me, except i'm fugly as hell (my eyes are too slanty) so very few girls are interested in me and i'm an introvert |
ffs man, get that out of your head. of all things you could be subconscious about it's your eyes? that's the best feature on me dude :p |
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