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Being a "good" aunt/uncle. (pg. 2)
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
Sorta like how being fake-bi is in?
I dunno, I've never kids even when I was a kid. I wanted to play by myself to talk to the parents of my friends because I thought their stories were more interesting. |
yea i was the same way. lol maybe you'll change when you get older.
i find kids to be refreshing. if you want someone to call it like they see it, talk to a 10 year old:stongue: |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
every chick in her early 20s says she hates kids lol it's like the thing to do or say or something?
anyway i love kids and i'm great with them.
jenny i see your point. all the kids know of me is what i can send them now because they live far. so i guess i should start buying them little things or something once in a while...i dunno. it's like, "here's a useless toy you won't remember or play with longer than a week" lol |
You know what though? Why not save that money, and either put it away for them, or take on awesome day trips to like the zoo/amusement park/whatever...for those times that you actually DO get to see them? They will remember that, and the time spent with you - BONDING no less - much more than some ty toy. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
yea i was the same way. lol maybe you'll change when you get older.
i find kids to be refreshing. if you want someone to call it like they see it, talk to a 10 year old:stongue: |
Everyone says that to me 'you'll change when you get older'. I just... don't see myself changing on that. I didn't like other kids as a kid, I never really warmed up to them as I got older, either.
I'm too selfish for one and too impatient to put up with them. |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renzo
I'm not an uncle, but being a respectable role model is more important than any toy. Try to visit them more often, Jamie. |
I agree with the respectable role model thing, but then won't Jamie visiting them more just all of that up? |
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| Renzo |
| Banora, you didn't like other kids as a kid? Did you have sophisticated conversations with adults on the fall of the Soviet Union, the stock market, and diversifying your portfolio? |
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| Slylee |
i was a party girl in my early 20s and there was no way i could see myself having kids. but once you start entering your late 20s, you settle down w/ the partying (or at least you should lol) and you start to be able to see yourself with some kids...especially if you're with the right guy.
but having kids isn't for everyone, that's true. i'd be more inclined to believe a 28 year old say "i don't want kids" than a 21 year old. that's all i'm saying. you WILL change and grow up and have a different view when you get older. most people do.
jenny good idea. i'm kinda waiting until they are old enough to come visit me type of thing and then i can take them to the beach and snorkel and do cool stuff that i know my sister will never introduce them to.
i just think it's ridiculous how people act about new babies in the family. i personally will tell family members and friends "DONT bombard me with a ton of toys" my kids aren't going to have a lot of toys. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renzo
Banora, you didn't like other kids as a kid? Did you have sophisticated conversations with adults on the fall of the Soviet Union, the stock market, and diversifying your portfolio? |
Probably not, but I always found adults more fascinating than kids. I liked to hear their stories and experiences.
| quote: | | you WILL change and grow up and have a different view when you get older. most people do. |
Eh, I really can't see myself ever settling down... I'd rather work and travel than take care of some kid that will rob me of my money and destroyed my body and vagina. |
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| winston |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
so my sis has two spoiled rotten ing brat kids (so cute though) and i'm not the type of aunt (or person in general) to just buy a bunch of meaningless toys and ship them off all the time or be known as the aunt who always has gifts because quite frankly, those kids need another toy like they need a hole in the head and i just refuse to spend my money on GARBAGE that they won't play with or even if they do play with it, they have a MILLION toys already.
but sometimes i feel guilty that i don't send them stuff all the time or whatever. am i supposed to? they are 2 and 4 and have enough toys to supply a 3rd world country with. and my sister does a ty, half assed job at raising them and i just don't respect her or anything that she does with them. i know that i'll have a chance to "shine" or make more of an impression when they are older and can visit me sorta thing. but for now, i don't really play a huge role in their life or buy them crap all the time.
i mean honestly, when i visit her, the kids just want to go outside and play with a ball and be active and i think they appreciate that so much more that i get off my ass and take them for walks and play with them outside. my sister is fat and lazy and likes to plop them in front of the tube and buy them toys, so she can carry out her own selfish agenda.
i guess i'm saying that sometimes i feel guilty for not really buying my neice and nephew toys all the time or playing a big role in their life because they live far and i can't stand the way my sister raises them etc.. |
I grew up with four brats in my house, two nieces and two nephews, they were and still are like brothers to me. My sister comes from two different marriages (two kids for each marriage), they are great kids! At first, my sister (with very little experience re: raising kids) used to spend money frivolously on toys and the such; she'd never hear the end of it from my mom.
After they all grew up into teenagers my sister had to work harder to pay for their education (her last husband is the most financially conscious of the two), so times were rough; sometimes, my beautiful nephews and nieces wouldn't know what they'd have for dinner, this taught them not to take anything for granted, not even dinner.
Today, my sister has no money to send her kids to expensive schools so it's a 'survival of the fittest' kind of situation where anyone who wants to make it has to work for it. sounds american? that's because it is an American story... |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renzo
Banora, you didn't like other kids as a kid? Did you have sophisticated conversations with adults on the fall of the Soviet Union, the stock market, and diversifying your portfolio? |
no that's not what she meant. i used to do the same thing at parties (like i middle school). i was always in the kitchen helping the mom or just observing the "adult conversations". i dunno why i was like that. i prefered adult company from an early age. |
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| Renzo |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
Probably not, but I always found adults more fascinating than kids. I liked to hear their stories and experiences. |
Kids aren't supposed to be fascinating. They're kids. |
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renzo
Kids aren't supposed to be fascinating. They're kids. |
Though my grandma does like to remind me when I was 5 I was in love with this book about deep space and would talk to everyone I came across (mostly adults) about super massive stars collapsing upon themselves and forming black-holes.
My interests weren't just limited to Ken fondling Barbie's cold, plastic tit. I wanted to talk to adults because they seemed more interested in what I liked: the world, the universe, general going-ons.
I always asked a lot of questions (which got me in trouble with teachers pretty often). I was never talked to like a child, pretty much everyone talked to me like an adult and explained things in an adult way. |
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| Renzo |
| That's interesting, because I talk to every adult like if they're a child. But then again, I'm a cocky . |
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