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Cheaters (pg. 11)
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| VDub |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
i really think that my friends know my issues. they know it's hard to get to know me and get at all close to me. they also know that i am reasonable about many things. it may be cuz i was raised as an only child. i dunno. lol, i agree, it is a problem tho. trust me. |
Also, this is pretty sad....
I know plenty of ppl that were only kids and they didn't have these issues...
I also know ppl that have siblings and they have plenty of problems... |
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| FunkyCrew |
I think there is a big difference in cultural upbringing where Margs and I grew up, respectively
barely anyone anyone in my primary school days had a sibling - it was too expensive! |
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| cammaxwell |
| Although I agree cheating is wrong......I would still bang Miss Pie!!!!! |
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| Skipper |
| quote: | Originally posted by VDub
That's a little harsh isn't it? Considering how many "friends" you have here reading this post...
Does RJ know you feel that way?? |
I'm a friend of hers and I don't consider it harsh. The reality is that people have faults. Everyone has insecurities, issues, etc. It is a balance between protecting yourself from repeatedly being wronged/aggravated/offended by other people's actions and accepting/forgiving them as part of who they are. I have friends that are chronically late and it drives me nuts, but then I do things that drive them crazy too. It's ok though because there are so many other good things about the other person, and as you get to know someone's faults you accept them and work around them. The difficulty comes when the thing that they do is never going to change and you can't get past it.
Relationships or friendships where the expectation is that the other person is infallible never end well - like when someone goes out and cheats, perhaps over and over, and the other party has no clue because the cheater never felt able to have a discussion about how they were tempted or unhappy or whatever. It takes a lot of courage to admit what you are and are not capable of to someone you care about - you risk disappointing them and being abandoned. But when both people can do it and work through it, it's amazing. If I can't be in a relationship like that, I'd rather not be in one at all. |
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| VDub |
| quote: | Originally posted by cammaxwell
Although I agree cheating is wrong......I would still bang Miss Pie!!!!! |
Correction...
Miss Pie would bang you... |
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| Spin Laden |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stilez
I wouldn't necessarily say that someone who cheats is insecure. Egotistical & self centred? YES.
Many people who stay in abusive or ty long term relationships just for the sake of being in one & not being alone are insecure imo. I think Cheaters are the scum of the earth & are all about 'themselves' & whatever makes THEM happy. I despise cheaters, just as much as people who are relationship addicts. Both have issues. One needs the attention of many to feed their self worth, while the other seeks constant monogamous relationships 1 after the other because of fear of being alone.
Time alone, with no one, is the greatest time for personal growth in preparation for your next serious relationship that might turn out to be 'THE ONE'. |
best quote in this thread, imo, even 'pan Betty gots to agree. |
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| Spin Laden |
| quote: | Originally posted by Skipper
I'm a friend of hers and I don't consider it harsh. The reality is that people have faults. Everyone has insecurities, issues, etc. It is a balance between protecting yourself from repeatedly being wronged/aggravated/offended by other people's actions and accepting/forgiving them as part of who they are. I have friends that are chronically late and it drives me nuts, but then I do things that drive them crazy too. It's ok though because there are so many other good things about the other person, and as you get to know someone's faults you accept them and work around them. The difficulty comes when the thing that they do is never going to change and you can't get past it.
Relationships or friendships where the expectation is that the other person is infallible never end well - like when someone goes out and cheats, perhaps over and over, and the other party has no clue because the cheater never felt able to have a discussion about how they were tempted or unhappy or whatever. It takes a lot of courage to admit what you are and are not capable of to someone you care about - you risk disappointing them and being abandoned. But when both people can do it and work through it, it's amazing. If I can't be in a relationship like that, I'd rather not be in one at all. |
also very good quote, says Dr Philth, very mature viewpoints, indeed.
These quotes would be perfect with some ASOT playing in the background |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by cammaxwell
Although I agree cheating is wrong......I would still bang Miss Pie!!!!! |
That's why Mrs. Hazard and I discussed it and I have a free pass to bang Jenny if I ever get the chance
You hear that Jenny?
call me:gsmile: |
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| Skipper |
| quote: | Originally posted by Stilez
I wouldn't necessarily say that someone who cheats is insecure. Egotistical & self centred? YES.
Many people who stay in abusive or ty long term relationships just for the sake of being in one & not being alone are insecure imo. I think Cheaters are the scum of the earth & are all about 'themselves' & whatever makes THEM happy. I despise cheaters, just as much as people who are relationship addicts. Both have issues. One needs the attention of many to feed their self worth, while the other seeks constant monogamous relationships 1 after the other because of fear of being alone.
Time alone, with no one, is the greatest time for personal growth in preparation for your next serious relationship that might turn out to be 'THE ONE'. |
Most bang on thing I have read in this thread. I agree 100%. Although I'd add that the person who stays with a cheater isn't necessarily insecure, if both parties are being open and honest about working through the whole mess together. |
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| Spin Laden |
| ok, I'm surprised no one has referenced Ronnie and Sammi yet. :conf: |
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| Swamper |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
i am cynical, if i cut out every out of my life, i will be all alone, so now i don't trust anyone and go along with my life not getting my feelings involved and not stressing about it. everyone is an ass. |
I'd rather cut out the s and trust those that I keep around instead of wasting time with 'empty' relationships. For the most part, I've been lucky, but there have been a few instances where people really crossed the line and I had no qualms about dropping contact with them. It's harder to do this if you have mutual friends.
In terms of cheating: I cheated when I was younger and then later had it come back to me with future gfs... so I learned my lesson :) I agree that it's one thing if you cheat just before an eventual breakup and a whole other if you live a double life for a long period of time - I have no tolerance for that. It just seems so exhausting.
One gal I know, has been banging a married dude (who has kids) for a good 6+ months now. She has her own kids and she's totally in love with the guy... however I can't see it ending nicely. The funny thing is, after her divorce she went on a man-hating binge and didn't even have sex for a few years. I never expected her to hook up with a married guy lol |
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| GGM |
You get what you give...
Treat others the way you'd like to be treated...
What goes around comes around...
^^^Thats all I have to say to people who lack morals and do things like cheat. You can watch it time and time again the bad crap people pull.
Most common example that comes to mind is friends I have that cheat. They don't necessarily get cheated on themselves but they are generally the most jealous and untrusting (of others) you will find. They get away with cheating easily because their partner trusts them and something clicks in their head subconsciously and says "hey if I'm cheating, maybe they are too?". I've seen so many friends that cheat and suffer through huge jealousy issues that make them suffer far worse then the benefit they had received from cheating. At the end of the day if someone wants to cheat, lie, whatever.. Who cares, let them dig their own grave. Only person you have control over is yourself so if you don't approve of certain behaviour in others just don't let yourself do the same. |
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