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mixed signals. (pg. 5)
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
jaded is world-weary hehe, im just a misogynist :D
Once I have hooked a girl, i open up, and its all good.
I play games out of neccessity (if I want a date).
but right now...women are just too much fookin work. and add uber levels of stress to your life. If nothing else worry about them being happy will make you stress.
My viewpoint is that women are fragile in a LOT of ways, no matter how tough they act, and that the constant fretting over them (even if they never see any of it) is hard on a guy. I walk girls who are friends of friends back to their dorms/apartments after 7pm because I dont think women should walk alone on the streets. Im that kind of guy. I know there is messed up , and I want to protect them.
So basically it boils down to my techniques are utilized less and less as the relationship progresses, and are pretty much stopped after you both open up and just admit some .
Like I said hehe, this is why i am not dating right now. Its a pain in the ass @ first, and I want to supercharge my car right now, so I cant worry about it all |
well i actually agree with you in one respect - i really dont enjoy the part of the relationship that you are getting to know each other. it makes me not want to try anymore but i will anyway. |
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| UWM |
I'm kind of in the same ty situation with a girl.
We got on great, always have the best time together. I really haven't liked a girl like this in a long time. Problem 1 being she lives 2 1/2 hours away. Problem 2 is that she told me straight up she isn't a good person to date because she loses interest quickly. However she told me that she might feel different about that in my case.
I don't ing know what to do because I really like her but I don't want to end up getting my feelings involved and ing up our friendship. We know we both have more than friendship feelings for each other but we're pretty much fux0red.
hrhrhr. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
I'm kind of in the same ty situation with a girl.
We got on great, always have the best time together. I really haven't liked a girl like this in a long time. Problem 1 being she lives 2 1/2 hours away. Problem 2 is that she told me straight up she isn't a good person to date because she loses interest quickly. However she told me that she might feel different about that in my case.
I don't ing know what to do because I really like her but I don't want to end up getting my feelings involved and ing up our friendship. We know we both have more than friendship feelings for each other but we're pretty much fux0red.
hrhrhr. |
i've been in that situation too. i fell in love with my best friend. we got together. things were amazing. then he just lost interest, broke up with me and broke my heart. then started dating a girl who i thought was my friend. then 4 months later, deep into his new happy relationship tells me he made a mistake in breaking up with me but oh well cause he is so happy now.
*sigh* :( |
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| TranceGiant |
I reply because I had a smiliar situation and particularly because it was today that it kinda blew up in my face again.
So......Getting to know a girl who was the one to ask for my number. Dating 3 times which went pretty well-> great conversations + romantic kissing sessions. I tried to play the game though, as I've learned form my own experience, and not running too much after her. So you wait 2 days, 3, a week..until you call and find out that everything is okay, and u have a cool talk and bla bla. But then the same thing happens again and again. And you say to yourself " it, it's obvious she's not serious about this". After 2 weeks of silence you remember it's her b-day and you send an SMS message leading to a bewildered "how come you didnt contact me before?" message by her. You think "WTF?? ME(!!) not calling?"...and she's saying that she'll explain tomorrow. And again no call. So you finish it.
And then, half a year later, you see her on the street. And you freeze and stare at her as if she was an alien. And she passes you like you weren't even air, but vacuum. And you're hit by a thunderbolt, being "emptied" out and left so weak you almost collapse in the middle of the street. You fall in love retrospectively and wonder foever what else you could have done, and if it was for yours and her goddamn "pride" only, that such a potential was wasted.
And then you go online and write it down. :sadgreen: |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
i've been in that situation too. i fell in love with my best friend. we got together. things were amazing. then he just lost interest, broke up with me and broke my heart. then started dating a girl who i thought was my friend. then 4 months later, deep into his new happy relationship tells me he made a mistake in breaking up with me but oh well cause he is so happy now.
*sigh* :( |
I still at least have some reason to keep hope up though.
She and I go to school at different universities and are both very busy. She came up this past weekend just to visit me. She also told me that she wouldn't have time to be up here for a long time but after spending time together she is going to come back as soon as she can.
And she's moving here for good in December so I guess we'll see what happens then.
It's just so hard when you both know you care alot for the other person but there's nothing you can do about it.
* Yeah and guys who claim they made mistakes about breaking up with you are probably just starting to lose interest in the new girl and likely try and score some action with the ex * |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by TranceGiant
I reply because I had a smiliar situation and particularly because it was today that it kinda blew up in my face again.
So......Getting to know a girl who was the one to ask for my number. Dating 3 times which went pretty well-> great conversations + romantic kissing sessions. I tried to play the game though, as I've learned form my own experience, and not running too much after her. So you wait 2 days, 3, a week..until you call and find out that everything is okay, and u have a cool talk and bla bla. But then the same thing happens again and again. And you say to yourself " it, it's obvious she's not serious about this". After 2 weeks of silence you remember it's her b-day and you send an SMS message leading to a bewildered "how come you didnt contact me before?" message by her. You think "WTF?? ME(!!) not calling?"...and she's saying that she'll explain tomorrow. And again no call. So you finish it.
And then, half a year later, you see her on the street. And you freeze and stare at her as if she was an alien. And she passes you like you weren't even air, but vacuum. And you're hit by a thunderbolt, being "emptied" out and left so weak you almost collapse in the middle of the street. You fall in love retrospectively and wonder foever what else you could have done, and if it was for yours and her goddamn "pride" only, that such a potential was wasted.
And then you go online and write it down. :sadgreen: |
she ed it up, not you. it is like a golden rule that not just one person should be making the phone calls in the initial getting together. you did it right. i guess your only other alternative would have been to be open with her and ask her why she didnt call you and that you took offense to that. and it isnt too late to try again. if you approach her she wont just walk away. (unless she is a mega bitch in which case she doesnt deserve you) |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
* Yeah and guys who claim they made mistakes about breaking up with you are probably just starting to lose interest in the new girl and likely try and score some action with the ex * |
yeah well he can kiss my ass. and to top it off she posts about her sex games on one of the other message boards i post on. i dont need to see that. if i was in a relationship i dont think i'd want the internet to know about my sex life either. i stopped talking to him shortly after he got like that with me. it was leading me on and i didnt need to relive that breakup. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
yeah well he can kiss my ass. and to top it off she posts about her sex games on one of the other message boards i post on. i dont need to see that. if i was in a relationship i dont think i'd want the internet to know about my sex life either. i stopped talking to him shortly after he got like that with me. it was leading me on and i didnt need to relive that breakup. |
Yeah he can pretty much kiss your ass.
It's guys like him who give the rest of us a bad name. |
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| TranceGiant |
I actually did tell her, during this very last conversation, that I didn't understand her waiting for me to call. I asked whether it's her special "way" to handle it, or if it got generally trendy to be called by the guy , or if she's no interested anyway. Whereupon she said it's not like I think, and that she'd tell me the next day (whereupn she did NOT call).
And about re-approaching...I dont think so. Some things get damaged but can be repaired. Some thing are ed for good. |
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| butterfly |
| quote: | Originally posted by TranceGiant
I actually did tell her, during this very last conversation, that I didn't understand her waiting for me to call. I asked whether it's her special "way" to handle it, or if it got generally trendy to be called by the guy , or if she's no interested anyway. Whereupon she said it's not like I think, and that she'd tell me the next day (whereupn she did NOT call).
And about re-approaching...I dont think so. Some things get damaged but can be repaired. Some thing are ed for good. |
well hopefully you will find a new one who is not ed in the head. |
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| TranceGiant |
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
well hopefully you will find a new one who is not ed in the head. |
;)
In a perfect world I'd fall in love with those "not ed up" women only. It's not perfect, though. |
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