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My Confusion ( Girls ) (pg. 22)
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| quote: | Originally posted by Enraptured
wow, if "absent-minded" ever becomes a successful angle... I am IN LIKE FREAKIN' FLYNN, dude... I have the worst memory ever. I'm good with names and faces, and phone numbers, which is good, but everything, and i mean EVERYTHING else is pretty sketchy... :rolleyes: |
Hmm, so another one like me :D Suddenly I don't feel so alone ;)
I noticed that this summer, since it has been a relaxing one and one without stress, my short term memory was so good that I could keep track of EVERYTHING that was going to be done in the next month down to the hour. Now with university and stress being all over the place, I can't even remmeber whom I've asked what or talked about, it's terrible. I don't think it's helping at all with girls, so I have to concentrate on the conversation to make most of it, whereas before I could casually waltz in and out and make witty jokes and whatnot :P Stress = less girls, very simple :(
| quote: | I have to say, I kind of like where I am right now. It's very cliche to say it, but there's more to life than sex... I know, I know, that's what everyone who isn't getting any says... but seriously, I've done the loooong-relationship thing, and it had it's moments... good and bad. It is important to remember that being alone, and being lonely are completely different. It's easy to start freaking out about not "finding" someone, trust me, I've done it! You have to be able to take a step back and say,
"Hey! I have friends and I have time."
Trust me, those are the only two things you need. When you run out of either, that's when you should start worrying!
I hope all this drivel is actually helping someone! :happy2: |
Amen! I couldn't agree more to that. Actually, my dad gave me a long talk one day about the subject, and you wouldn't believe just how much it had changed me. The next day I was a whole new person, I wouldn't let a minute go to waste, especially when women were in question ;) Luckily stress does not hurt that, so I'm still in good standing in the good fight ;) |
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| quote: | Originally posted by Sierra
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Sierra is a girl, 100%
Read that , it's brilliant. |
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| jdjd |
Alright guys listen up this is what you do:
You walk into the club and find a hot girl you want then walk up, stand right in front of her, stop for a minute and look her up and down then say "whats up"
she will probably say "hi" or maybe nothing
then you say something about her that stands out, maybe look at her chest or something and comment on what she wearing
she will probably smile or if you lucky start talking a bit
then you say "listen i think you sexy, you want to dance with me" or ask to sit down
if she says she doesnt want to then take her hand and look at her close and say "i want to get to know you, what do you think of me and you hooking up"
she will probably say "i dunno"
then you say "why dont we go sit down, i just wanna talk to you for a minute"
at that point you should have convinced her to chat, so there you go.. worst case scenario youre chatting with the girl alone you will bag her in no time :D :haha: |
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| infinity HiGH |
^^^^
worst.advice.ever :p |
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| Enraptured |
| I dunno Infinity, that advice came from the "pimp zone"... hmmm, maybe something to try? I have to say, when I was at PVD I bought about ten people I didn't know freezies, I was pretty f*cked up, though, but as I recall I got a few smiles from some pretty girls for that! After, I went around like a freezie sniper, just lightly touching it to exposed skin wherever I saw it... I'm sure I almost got slapped a few times, but mostly they just smiled... If you want to approach at a club, I think it's easier than you think. It's all a matter of confidence, as I'm sure someone noted before. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by jdjd
Alright guys listen up this is what you do:
You walk into the club and find a hot girl you want then walk up, stand right in front of her, stop for a minute and look her up and down then say "whats up"
she will probably say "hi" or maybe nothing
then you say something about her that stands out, maybe look at her chest or something and comment on what she wearing
she will probably smile or if you lucky start talking a bit
then you say "listen i think you sexy, you want to dance with me" or ask to sit down
if she says she doesnt want to then take her hand and look at her close and say "i want to get to know you, what do you think of me and you hooking up"
she will probably say "i dunno"
then you say "why dont we go sit down, i just wanna talk to you for a minute"
at that point you should have convinced her to chat, so there you go.. worst case scenario youre chatting with the girl alone you will bag her in no time :D :haha: |
I guess your "pimp" avatar isn't there just for kicks :D hahahaha If you're lucky she won't break a glass off the side of the counter and try to stab you repeatedly ;P I suggest everyone here try this advice at least once just to get the feel for "what not to do" :D ahah good one mate! |
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| bass drive |
ok I am not single, but I am wondering what does "find who you are" exactly mean?
I guess I am a "go with the flow" kinda guy, and all this talk about finding the self is confusing me heh |
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| quote: | Originally posted by Enraptured
I dunno Infinity, that advice came from the "pimp zone"... hmmm, maybe something to try? I have to say, when I was at PVD I bought about ten people I didn't know freezies, I was pretty f*cked up, though, but as I recall I got a few smiles from some pretty girls for that! After, I went around like a freezie sniper, just lightly touching it to exposed skin wherever I saw it... I'm sure I almost got slapped a few times, but mostly they just smiled... If you want to approach at a club, I think it's easier than you think. It's all a matter of confidence, as I'm sure someone noted before. |
Hmm, I agree to some extent. While having confidence is deffinitely a positive thing in case of approaching strangers, it shouldn't be something that you're aware of. What I found out is that girls tend to be less affraid of an approach if it's something that sorta happens along the way.
I guess an example would be like this: You're waiting at the bar to get your drink, while the two girls are talking about something interesting, so from the side you throw in a comment, a little thing goes, and voila! However, if you don't think about the interaction starting up in the first place, then your confidence is naturally displayed and put to use, rather than just feeling damn good and feeling like you might make some sort of a point by doing it all :P
Maybe I'm crazy, but if a girl was to approach me, I'd much rather that it be through some sort of a conversation rather than if she were to hit on me directly :P Could explain why girls tell me I'm easily approachable ;) Then again maybe because I'm hard to read, but always speak openly :D |
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| quote: | Originally posted by bass drive
ok I am not single, but I am wondering what does "find who you are" exactly mean?
I guess I am a "go with the flow" kinda guy, and all this talk about finding the self is confusing me heh |
Actually buddy, you've got a point :D I find that thinking too much about any subject leads to the crushing of one's confidence and overall feeling of bliss, so like they say "ignorance is bliss" I say we just go with the flow :P ... kinda goes along with the above post ;) |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by bass drive
ok I am not single, but I am wondering what does "find who you are" exactly mean?
I guess I am a "go with the flow" kinda guy, and all this talk about finding the self is confusing me heh |
Passive. Exactly what you shouldn't be. I'd be surprised if that works very well for ya.
Ask any girl, they'll tell you they like a guy that "knows what he wants." To know what you want, you have to know what you are. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Passive. Exactly what you shouldn't be. I'd be surprised if that works very well for ya.
Ask any girl, they'll tell you they like a guy that "knows what he wants." To know what you want, you have to know what you are. |
You should know what you want/like but you shouldn't think of picking up a girl as a desparate last stand against all of the universe like most men do :toothless which is exactly why I say be casual and consider it like as if you're talking to someone you know well :P Most girls will find that non-threatening and will feel more comfortable around you. Now that's a simple answer ;) |
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| Enraptured |
I'm going to have to go with Diginut on this one, MOST of the girls I've talked to about this agree, without being aggressive, that they like a guy who knows what he wants...
and as for finding who you are, it's different for everyone, maybe you are already "centred" in yourself, ie: know what you want, how to get it... or maybe you don't care, but I think that you're fooling yourself if you say that!
Thinking too much=bad. I agree. Intuition and impulse are usually right, I mean nine times out of ten, if you are getting some kind of vibe from a girl, you're right about it. It's just not always appropriate, like if she's your FRENCH TEACHER or something, you probably shouldn't make that move... :happy2: and I definitely agree that I'd rather a girl approach me with convo over a "direct hit"... but I think you'll find that the fairer sex tend to be more subtle than that...:whip: heh heh, which is funny because guys, as a general rule, don't GET subtle... like me for instance! :p
Well, bedtime, keep posting gentlemen, I like where this is going! |
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