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My Confusion ( Girls ) (pg. 3)
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| Rocco |
| quote: | Originally posted by Skipper
Just don't think about it so much. Go out and enjoy the people you're with.
Great people come into your life when you're least expecting it. So go out, have a good time, and let things happen naturally. There's no set of rules for human interaction, so you're wasting your time looking for them. |
pretty much the same thing that came to mind... almost word for word.
if it's meant to be, chances are it will happen and that's the end of that. There isn't much i can add cuz Sarah pretty much summed it all up. |
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| Mel David |
I've found that dance clubs are not really good for meeting girls. You're probably better off going to an R&B club.
Have you tried flirting with Maccas chicks?
Check out chicks at supermarkets tend to be really flirty as well.
Just ask for their number and then take them out. ;)
Amusement parks are also goldmines for chicks. |
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| igottaknow |
1st of all don't move this thread to the chillout room! That's the quickest way to kill an intelligent discussion.
Like others have previously said: body language, confidence, eye contact, and a relaxed attitude are essential qualities for landing a girl. I had a friend who embodied these characteristics and let me tell you he had all the women he could handle and then some.
But its not as simple as turning on light switch to be more charasmatic and confindent. Some are born with it but others need to "work" at it. Last night I was reading book on public speaking at borders. The author stressed that how you say something is more important than what you say. Body language and confidence, which can be achieved through relaxation exercises and positive visualization, are key to success. Deep breathing and other yoga techniques can be used to reduce anxiety. Positive imprinting, imagining yourself succeding before you do something, becomes a self fulfilling prophesy. |
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| Spyder |
| quote: | Originally posted by LiL_Kandi_AngeL
like i say to all my friends who are single and ask the same questions is...
Stop looking.. it will find you when the time is right, and when you least expect it.
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i'll drink to that
no matter how much you try the more you look the less you'll find...
it's always gona be the last place you look... so why bother trying to find it it will find you just like losing tape.. when you need it the most at a certin moment it's not there.. but when you dont need it it's always there..
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| dEsidEL |
| quote: | Originally posted by Skipper
I find it funny how most (if not all?) replies in this thread are by males.
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dun ya know .. ? TA first started off as a male support group .. do a search for "male sob stories" in the chillout room and u'll find like a million threads .. ;)
i guess trance has a tendacy to attack a lotta single men or something ..
| quote: | Originally posted by Endlesswave
I usually have an insanely hard time when it comes to talking to women at a club or in similar circumstances. (Even if they smile at me, it's like I can't smile on command, it has to happen naturally even if I think the girl is really cute). It's bizarre. All I know is just fight the urge to do nothing and approach the girl, this is what I am trying to do...I figure a simple "Hi, what's up?" and strike up a convo about the club they're at, music etc. Who knows, might work, might not. If it doesn't, no big loss, continue to do your own thing.
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BIGUPS TO THA DJ KURFEW!
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| Vivid Boy |
| oh ya another piece of advice..if u start taklking to some girl in a club and she asks if u want to go for a drink say no....i watch many a person fall for this trick..they go buy the girl a drink and before they have time to turn around and say cheers the girl is gone with her drink...ive fallen for this once luckily im a vengeful mother****** and i saw the same girl later on in the night told her to come for another drink ordered it got the drinks and said "this ones on you thnx." and took off |
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| Pixiechick |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spyder
i'll drink to that
no matter how much you try the more you look the less you'll find...
it's always gona be the last place you look... so why bother trying to find it it will find you just like losing tape.. when you need it the most at a certin moment it's not there.. but when you dont need it it's always there..
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Amen to that is all I have to say... All men that I have been involved with came into my life when I LEAST expected it... and how did I know that it might work? You just get a feeling, that excited, butterflies in your tummy, nervous feeling that is so deliriously fun! It is very hard to not look at times, I do agree, but if you can just turn off your conscious mind and go with the flow, you'd be amazed at what might happen! |
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| Dr. Z |
| #1: Get out of your pants. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Pixiechick
Amen to that is all I have to say... All men that I have been involved with came into my life when I LEAST expected it... and how did I know that it might work? You just get a feeling, that excited, butterflies in your tummy, nervous feeling that is so deliriously fun! It is very hard to not look at times, I do agree, but if you can just turn off your conscious mind and go with the flow, you'd be amazed at what might happen! |
and that dude would have never came into ur life if he didnt approach u...u girls can wait for it because guys approach girls not visa versa (well its rare)...so if we wait for the perfect girl to come running into us by fluke itll never come...this is to the guy who started this post...dont take these women advice...theyre talking abt their part in the game, the male part of the game is way different, we're on the offensive theyre on the defence...thats twhy they keep saying wait and itll just happen...cause they dont have to do any work....now get out thre take my advice in other posts and play ur part of the game...be the man who just appeared into these girls lives be the man that gives them butterflies in the stomach...take control! |
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| Skipper |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
oh ya another piece of advice..if u start taklking to some girl in a club and she asks if u want to go for a drink say no....i watch many a person fall for this trick..they go buy the girl a drink and before they have time to turn around and say cheers the girl is gone with her drink... |
ahahaha. I have done this.
Not to nice, innocent genuine guys though. I only do this to the creeps who talk to me and talk to me and follow me around a club and then BEG to buy me a drink, as if it's a last resort - "ok, maybe if I buy her a drink she'll feel obliged to stay and talk to me."
If they don't take the hint the first time, second time, etc...then hopefully they'll take the hint when I walk off with the drink they just bought me. |
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| drgoodvibe |
| It aint a game, peoples feelings (including yours) are at stake.. Though in some small part I do agree with VividBoy, if you want someone you have to be pro-active and let them know, without really letting them know. My understanding (of which there is none concerning girls) is that the more you push forward, the more the girl moves backward.. so stop.. move backward and watch the girl move forward.. (yea that made sense right?) It's about confidence in the end, I've read many a philosophical book, stating that you are what you think, If you believe that your a great guy (without being concieted or egotistic) then others will believe this too. Don't analyze, live your life, be yourself, believe in yourself and above all have fun, that's what in the end .. is attractive! |
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| Vivid Boy |
| well i totally agree with u...but thats a different stage in the game thats after u approach and sold urself and the girl is intrested..u do the backing off during the phone talk....man i have a whole manual on this lol... |
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