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My Confusion ( Girls ) (pg. 23)
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| Prod |
| quote: | Originally posted by Enraptured
I'm going to have to go with Diginut on this one, MOST of the girls I've talked to about this agree, without being aggressive, that they like a guy who knows what he wants...
and as for finding who you are, it's different for everyone, maybe you are already "centred" in yourself, ie: know what you want, how to get it... or maybe you don't care, but I think that you're fooling yourself if you say that!
Thinking too much=bad. I agree. Intuition and impulse are usually right, I mean nine times out of ten, if you are getting some kind of vibe from a girl, you're right about it. It's just not always appropriate, like if she's your FRENCH TEACHER or something, you probably shouldn't make that move... :happy2: and I definitely agree that I'd rather a girl approach me with convo over a "direct hit"... but I think you'll find that the fairer sex tend to be more subtle than that...:whip: heh heh, which is funny because guys, as a general rule, don't GET subtle... like me for instance! :p
Well, bedtime, keep posting gentlemen, I like where this is going! |
Problem is, we can't agree on this topic because of its nature. We've all dealt with different people, and we've all had different experiences, so to try to agree on a common ground certainly won't work :P
One thing I noticed is that people are drawn to other people who are much like them in the subconscious, which is exactly why I have had the experiences I have, and you've had expereinces with people who tend to be more agressive. Since we're different people, we flow in different crowds, which is exactly why we're both singing two different songs (well, trance in general unites us :D haha) so before any more arguments arise, here's my point:
Ah screw it, I'm too tired to draw another thought, g'night folks! ;) |
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| rabbitjoker |
Just don't look like this and all will be way too well:
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| jdjd |
Im glad you guys like my plan.. im telling you its golden..
It has never failed |
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| bass drive |
I am not ignorat, I am just easy going :D
| quote: | | Ask any girl, they'll tell you they like a guy that "knows what he wants." To know what you want, you have to know what you are. |
ok I know what I want, it's just all this talk about finding the self is new to me..
so finding the self = knwoing what you want?
well, what I want for now, is to finsih uni and travel alittle :D
2nd this is not about girls.
I noticed alot of you guys talk like 40 yr olds
in my opinion most girls my age [20] don't know what they want (well they know, but it's constantly changing)
any more input is appreciated
sorry to hijack the thread :happy2: |
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| brunette |
| "true luck consists not in holding the best of the cards at the table; luckiest is he who knows just when to rise and go home" |
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| Boy trance |
| quote: | Originally posted by brunette
"true luck consists not in holding the best of the cards at the table; luckiest is he who knows just when to rise and go home" |
Oh I like that! Very wise too... |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Prod
You should know what you want/like but you shouldn't think of picking up a girl as a desparate last stand against all of the universe like most men do :toothless which is exactly why I say be casual and consider it like as if you're talking to someone you know well :P Most girls will find that non-threatening and will feel more comfortable around you. Now that's a simple answer ;) |
Desperation has a lot to do with guys not knowing what they want. Knowing what you want involves knowing what kind of response you're expecting, what kind of things you want her to be able to talk about, etc. One guy on here (can't remember who) wore a shirt that said "Talk Nerdy to Me". I said, "does that ever actually work?" He said "Not often, but when it does it's the type of people I'm looking for." That's knowing what you want, knowing you can afford to be picky, knowing that you think they're hot but it's THEIR loss if they don't want to talk to someone who's smart, successful, great in bed, etc.
| quote: | | One thing I noticed is that people are drawn to other people who are much like them in the subconscious, which is exactly why I have had the experiences I have, and you've had expereinces with people who tend to be more agressive. |
I'm sorry but I just don't buy that. Now I could see you saying that, in a longer-term relationship, personality traits can often turn out to be more important than common interests, which is true for me at least - most of the girls I "click" with are also cynical, sarcastic, pretty intelligent, etc.
But if what you're trying to say is that there's some divine force guiding us toward people who are the same "deep down", then that's simply not true.
I'll give you an example of why it isn't. There's this girl in my class, and it's pretty obvious that she likes me. And you know, she's kind of cute herself. Not "my eyes glaze over and I start sporting wood every time she's in the room" cute, just more like "wouldn't mind having her sit next to me" cute. So why don't I ask her out on a real date? Because I can't talk to her. Not because I'm afraid, but because she is as shy as shy gets, and we simply can't hold up a conversation for more than 2 minutes. I have tried, several times, but it just doesn't work. She's in the same program as me so we undoubtedly have common interests, but it would never work because I simply don't have the patience to walk her through every conversation.
What you guys have to understand is that when a girl thinks you're cute, it's most likely this same category of cute. Only a select few guys will ever enter a girl's mind as "Oh my god, me now" cute - just "Hmm, he seems okay" cute. That means you have a chance - not a sure thing. If she's really hot, then you're probably more attracted to her than she is to you, but if she's somewhat attracted to you then you're fine as long as you do the footwork! But even if you do the footwork, if you come across as a blubbering idiot having nothing to say for yourself, then you lose. She's not going to be attracted to you based on how much you want her, it's going to be based on who you are.
Being a wuss is not "being yourself." And if you consider yourself to be particularly shy, then that is one occasion where you shouldn't be "yourself." |
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| Prod |
| I never said anything about common interests, I meant personality driven. Interests are fine, but when you meet new people you know right away if you can "click" with them or not, I'm not sure if it's just by looking at their face, or the gut instinct, but you somehow feel right or wrong by talking to this person, exactly what you said about that girl :P So if they seem right, there is usually no problem holding up a conversation, else, you won't be able to tollerate the uneasy silence for more than a minute :D |
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| Sierra |
| quote: | Originally posted by bass drive
what they want (well they know, but it's constantly changing)
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No matter what stage a girl is in her dating life, she will always want "the basics" or as I like to call them, the 3 C's:
Cock, Cash, Car. |
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| Prod |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sierra
No matter what stage a girl is in her dating life, she will always want "the basics" or as I like to call them, the 3 C's:
Cock, Cash, Car. |
Well, I've got the 1st and the 3rd, but I'm broke as hell :P Well, the third ain't too muhc of a car, but hell, it's my own (i own, my insurance, my plates, blah blah blah). How many people my age can say that! ha! :toothless |
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| Sierra |
| quote: | Originally posted by Prod
Well, I've got the 1st and the 3rd, but I'm broke as hell :P Well, the third ain't too muhc of a car, but hell, it's my own (i own, my insurance, my plates, blah blah blah). How many people my age can say that! ha! :toothless |
Thank god you didn't say "well the 1st isn't much of a cock" |
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| Crazy Serb |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sierra
No matter what stage a girl is in her dating life, she will always want "the basics" or as I like to call them, the 3 C's:
Cock, Cash, Car. |
Hahahaha! So true and so not!
| quote: | Originally posted by brunette
"true luck consists not in holding the best of the cards at the table; luckiest is he who knows just when to rise and go home" |
And she enlightens us with a wise thought... nice. |
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