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| failsafe |
| If you're morals are so e that you'd do that to her, then you should have at least have the decency to let her go and find happiness without gutter scum like you. If you claim it's "true love" then let her go. True love doesn't include deception, cheating, lies, etc. |
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| dj_Vendetta |
| well my boy, ur the WEASAL, that didled some gurl when you were "supposed" to be head over heals in love......sorry for sounding harsh but, I really have no respect for cheaters...it is terrible behavior. It has happened to me, by a gurl that I was pretty crazy about, she was with this loser of an x b.f from her small little home town when she was drunk :rolleyes: - the best thing u can do is tell her, cause if u like her that much, it will def. eat away at u, until u break down, or she finds out. You ed up and now its time to deal with it and as far as im concerned u deserve to be broken up with. |
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| crchingtiger |
lie.
i'm in a similar situation right now...
very very similar...
i know it would hurt my guy more than anything in the world to know this...
it would change everything
but the thing is...i needed to get it out of my system...
it's not like you love this other person, or even have feelings for them...
it's not like anything you shared with this other person was meaningful...
i look at it as a reality check...
now you know even better what you really want and that just helped put things in perspective...
i know it's a big deal...it's hard for me not to think about it either, but that's just part of life...it was a learning experience but i don't wanna tell him and have to deal with it every time we get in a fight and he brings it up you know? |
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| DJ Nuclear |
| quote: | Originally posted by crchingtiger
lie.
i'm in a similar situation right now...
very very similar...
i know it would hurt my guy more than anything in the world to know this...
it would change everything
but the thing is...i needed to get it out of my system...
it's not like you love this other person, or even have feelings for them...
it's not like anything you shared with this other person was meaningful...
i look at it as a reality check...
now you know even better what you really want and that just helped put things in perspective...
i know it's a big deal...it's hard for me not to think about it either, but that's just part of life...it was a learning experience but i don't wanna tell him and have to deal with it every time we get in a fight and he brings it up you know? |
If the other person loves you so much, wouldn't they at least be understanding that you feel it was a mistake and you feel guilty about it?
If you say this and go out and do it again every day for the next few months, I would understand dumping the person...but, humans are animals, boys and girls are designed to , both were never designed for extremely long term relationships, and in the end of it all, there is probably no one who doesn't slip up sometime in their relationship or marriage.
I don't respond to these relationship threads a lot...but I think if you cheat, you should immediately tell the other person and deal with it then and there. If it destroys your relationship, it does, but if you make it through it, you only come out stronger.
I think you should tell her, out of concern for you, your relationship, and most of all, her. |
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| UglyDave |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
You’re in a relationship with the greatest girl in the world *Natalie*. 2 years go by, 5 years go by. You love her to absolute
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If someone did this to you, what would you want them to do?
Would you forgive them if it was truly the biggest mistake of their life and dearly loved them? |
well aren't u an idiot for doin this? 5 years?
right here's my contribution, it's prob already been said.
neways:
she has a right to know. ur makin a fool of her by not tellin. esp if ne1 else knows about ur misbehavings..
if someone did it to me, i'd want to know, but i know that as soon as they told me i'd wish it were 5 seconds ago - back to the time where i didn't know.
u dont tell her:
-u live with the guilt and fear that she'll find out from a 3rd party for the rest of ur life.
u tell her:
-u risk losin her. def break her heart.
either way, we all do stupid things when we're drunk, u ed up and ur a ****** for doin it.
who knows, maybe u'll be lucky and discover she's been ridin round her then that way u can be in control of the situation.
David |
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| SuperFarStucker |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
You’re in a relationship with the greatest girl in the world *Natalie*. 2 years go by, 5 years go by. You love her to absolute DEATH and she’s the best thing that has ever happened to you. You spend every day and night together thinking about each other, and you vowel to each other that you'll never do anything to hurt one another.
One night at party tho, you get trashed and do it with someone who you wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire. However, you love *Natalie* so much that you don't want to hurt her, knowing that it was a one time thing and the biggest mistake you've ever made, especially after voweling to her that you'll never hurt her. You know that if she found out, not only her world, but your world would be completely and utterly ing shattered.
So do you keep it from her, and lie (not that lieing is always a bad thing), or tell her the truth?
If someone did this to you, what would you want them to do?
Would you forgive them if it was truly the biggest mistake of their life and dearly loved them? |
I call piss take, it's worded like a story for starters and it's just way to cliche.
Making up excuses for cheating on your significant other does nothing to further or justify yourself. Redemption can only come from admittance of guilt, anyone who tells you otherwise.... obviously doesn't have the same core values as I! If your SO cannot handle your transgression than so be it. It shines on you greedily to attempt to hide something from them. Almost any rational being will have a lot more respect for somebody that admits to something before getting "caught" than vice versa.
Pain is transitory, lies or uncovered truths last indefinetely. I couldn't do it, but you do whatever you think is right. Your values, not mine
A lot of people post for opinions to gain rapport for the "easy" way out as many people can identify with the "easy way." If that was your sole intent I'm sure you've gloriously succeeded and can be on your to a pseudo guilt free concious.
Cheers if it is true :) |
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| SuperFarStucker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Unknown DJ
lol. well ur in a bit of a situation here. 5 years? ouch. but i hate lieing as well. but that also leads to one of lifes questions: "do you lie to make someone smile? or tell the truth and make them cry?"
if there is absolutly NO way in hell she could find out other then through you. id say lie. BUT can u live with the guilt? and the longer u leave not telling her, the more the guilt will build up, and the longer u put it off and eventually tell her, the more angry she will b at u for hiding it from her.
so if u can live with the guilt, i say dont tell her. it isnt technicaly lieing, its just not telling her. if she asks u if u did anything and u say no, then thats lieing.
so if u can deal with the guilt, i say dont tell her. just dont let it happern again. (as u can tell i hate cheaters) |
You tell the truth and save the unvested apologies. Unless it's law enforcement. Then you lie and laugh while your lawyer gets you off or your draconian (in most cases) punishment mitigated. "But sir, that's not cocaine, it's powdered sugar"
Thumbs up for drug laws!!!!!! |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i actually think that's a great idea by Nuclear...think about it...she will be hurt, however, it is human nature that she will get mad and want you to hurt as well. it’s a perfect opportunity for her to do that and get back at you. and on top of all that, u will be getting a taste of your own medicine, which is what you deserve Mr. GELATINPUFF, |
I agree good idea but here's a twist he has to be in the room and watch... wait a sec he might enjoy that... :stongue: |
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| SuperFarStucker |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i actually think that's a great idea by Nuclear...think about it...she will be hurt, however, it is human nature that she will get mad and want you to hurt as well. it’s a perfect opportunity for her to do that and get back at you. and on top of all that, u will be getting a taste of your own medicine, which is what you deserve Mr. GELATINPUFF, you ungreatful, lying, cheating sack of .
hahaha jk (about the sack of part). |
Is it really human nature to seek vengeance when you have been wronged by someone close? If so, do wise people give into their primal urges? Do our "instincts" know best?
I'd say no in all cases. It is human nature to think about things and come up with the best possible course of action. This doesn't always work out right. People are often blinded by their prejudices, anger and emnity. To give into this urge is to rescind yourself to a beast. |
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| BTG |
| my advice is just keep doing it. eventually, you wont even fell bad about it. and nobody gets hurt, and you dont have any guilt. |
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| Dmatrox |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
You’re in a relationship with the greatest girl in the world *Natalie*. 2 years go by, 5 years go by. You love her to absolute DEATH and she’s the best thing that has ever happened to you. You spend every day and night together thinking about each other, and you vowel to each other that you'll never do anything to hurt one another.
One night at party tho, you get trashed and do it with someone who you wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire. However, you love *Natalie* so much that you don't want to hurt her, knowing that it was a one time thing and the biggest mistake you've ever made, especially after voweling to her that you'll never hurt her. You know that if she found out, not only her world, but your world would be completely and utterly ing shattered.
So do you keep it from her, and lie (not that lieing is always a bad thing), or tell her the truth?
If someone did this to you, what would you want them to do?
Would you forgive them if it was truly the biggest mistake of their life and dearly loved them? |
1. Were there any witnesses?
2. Were there witnesses that know *natalie*?
if so, she will find out one day
You're a jeck for what you did, what the were you thinking. |
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| {b.s.e.} |
| It's not like someone hasn't cheated on their partner in the history of mankind (or in the last 30 seconds for that matter) :rolleyes:. If you want an honest relationship with her you have to tell her, or repress it far into your mind and live with the guilt or whatever emotion you don't want to face. |
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