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To tell the truth, or lie. (pg. 7)
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| ahlamalek |
yeah for christ sake, some people in here are so black or white... be perfect or live alone...:rolleyes:
looks like most of you guys haven't been in long relationships.
happen, be a man, manage it. |
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| failsafe |
| I didn't realize that long relationships meant cheating. Being a "man" has nothing to do with cheating and getting over it. Being a man has everything to do with respect, integrety, and honesty. Clearly things you know nothing of. |
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| Shad0wmaster |
| my ex and i had a similar situation once. we were in a long-distance relationship 3000 miles wide, and she made out not once, but TWICE with other people on two separate occasions. it goes without saying that i was pretty pissed when she told me about this. but i didn't break up with her, because i appreciated her being honest about it. it was definitely a stupid thing for you to have done, drunk or not, but if you and this girl are TRULY in love then you should do the honourable thing and tell her honestly. it will be painful but infinitely better than keeping it hidden from her and then having it come out behind your back. |
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| m0sh |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
it’s a perfect opportunity for her to do that and get back at you.
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meh that would be childish , I don't think that she needs to get "back" at him...
anyway just one more thing : I hate liars. |
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| Frost_Melt |
my opinion is your ed
kissing some chick mayeb but beddin
maybe in time she will forgive you but you dug your own grave i in hate lairs as well so you should tell her even though itll end your relationship, you have to take responibilty for your actions mate but yeh its really gonna hurt her so all you can do is buy loads of flowers or sumthin? soz mate |
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| getfoul |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
You’re in a relationship with the greatest girl in the world *Natalie*. 2 years go by, 5 years go by. You love her to absolute DEATH and she’s the best thing that has ever happened to you. You spend every day and night together thinking about each other, and you vowel to each other that you'll never do anything to hurt one another.
One night at party tho, you get trashed and do it with someone who you wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire. However, you love *Natalie* so much that you don't want to hurt her, knowing that it was a one time thing and the biggest mistake you've ever made, especially after voweling to her that you'll never hurt her. You know that if she found out, not only her world, but your world would be completely and utterly ing shattered.
So do you keep it from her, and lie (not that lieing is always a bad thing), or tell her the truth?
If someone did this to you, what would you want them to do?
Would you forgive them if it was truly the biggest mistake of their life and dearly loved them? |
looking over this and his other post, where does it specifically say he did this? all of this so far has been theoretical. |
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| GelatinPufF |
| quote: | Originally posted by getfoul
looking over this and his other post, where does it specifically say he did this? all of this so far has been theoretical. |
WTF? 6 PAGES??!?:eyespop: :eyes: :eyespop: :eyes:
:stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue:
-Wipes tears from cheeks-
Anyway, this entire thread had one purpose, and one purpose only, and that was to place YOU into a hypothetical situation, where you as a reader were asked to answer 3 relatively simplistic questions.
Did I ever say it was me? No. :rolleyes: Did just about everyone jump to their own idiotic conclusions and presume it was me? Why yes they did. :rolleyes:
Now there were two or three intelligible replies, with this being the first:
| quote: | Originally posted by SuperFarStucker
I call piss take, it's worded like a story for starters and it's just way to cliche.
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Cheers if it is true :) |
And this being the second:
| quote: | Originally posted by crchingtiger
lie.
i'm in a similar situation right now...
very very similar...
i know it would hurt my guy more than anything in the world to know this...
it would change everything
but the thing is...i needed to get it out of my system...
it's not like you love this other person, or even have feelings for them...
it's not like anything you shared with this other person was meaningful...
i look at it as a reality check...
now you know even better what you really want and that just helped put things in perspective...
i know it's a big deal...it's hard for me not to think about it either, but that's just part of life...it was a learning experience but i don't wanna tell him and have to deal with it every time we get in a fight and he brings it up you know? |
Well I'm sorry to hear that, but I can empathize with you. I know that 99% of people say "tell the truth" or "I would tell the truth" but I believe that if I were placed in such a precarious circumstance, where I truly loved the girl, and truly made the biggest mistake of my life which would emphasis: *never ever happen again*, I too would lie. Why? Well first of all I wouldn't want to loose her. Second of all I wouldn’t want to hurt her. And third of all, sure she could eventually find out if I lied, but I'd rather risk loosing this girl later, then loosing her sooner, which is what would most certainly happen if the truth were to be told.
And as for "voweling" mistake, forgive me, I'm ignorant:tongue2
Rob~:haha: |
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| GelatinPufF |
| quote: | Originally posted by m0sh
anyway just one more thing : I hate liars. |
Are you saying you would never ever lie? :rolleyes: |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
WTF? 6 PAGES??!?:eyespop: :eyes: :eyespop: :eyes:
:stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue: :stongue:
-Wipes tears from cheeks-
Anyway, this entire thread had one purpose, and one purpose only, and that was to place YOU into a hypothetical situation, where you as a reader were asked to answer 3 relatively simplistic questions.
Did I ever say it was me? No. :rolleyes: Did just about everyone jump to their own idiotic conclusions and presume it was me? Why yes they did. :rolleyes:
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:rolleyes: Your post blatantly implies that you're the one in this situation, and even if it wasn't, then how come you didn't react in this way in your previous posts in this thread after several posts drawing the conclusion that you're the one in this "hypothetical" :rolleyes: situation?
| quote: | Originally posted by Unknown DJ
your a twat for doing it, weather u wer drunk or not. u have made ur bed, now lie in it. |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
Not if she doesn't find out.
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| quote: | Originally posted by Unknown DJ
lol. well ur in a bit of a situation here. 5 years? ouch. but i hate lieing as well. but that also leads to one of lifes questions: "do you lie to make someone smile? or tell the truth and make them cry?"
if there is absolutly NO way in hell she could find out other then through you. id say lie. BUT can u live with the guilt? and the longer u leave not telling her, the more the guilt will build up, and the longer u put it off and eventually tell her, the more angry she will b at u for hiding it from her.
so if u can live with the guilt, i say dont tell her. it isnt technicaly lieing, its just not telling her. if she asks u if u did anything and u say no, then thats lieing.
so if u can deal with the guilt, i say dont tell her. just dont let it happern again. (as u can tell i hate cheaters) |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
Well said. And I have no idea. I even try to ask myself this question: what would I do if I was on the receiving end? What would I want her to do? Lie and never do it again? Or tell me the truth?
Now if she told me the truth, I honestly don’t know what I would do.
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That's two replies before you bothered to point out the fact that this situation wasn't about you after all(six pages later if I might add). So either you've started lying cos of all the heat you've gotten, or you need to wake the up and alert people sooner if they are straying from the original intention of this thread. In either case, you have noone but yourself to blame for all the ruckus and the assumptions in this thread. |
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| GelatinPufF |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sand Leaper
:rolleyes: Your post blatantly implies that you're the one in this situation, |
Right! It only "blatantly implies" what your narrow mind wants to believe. :rolleyes: |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
Right! It only "blatantly implies" what your narrow mind wants to believe. :rolleyes: |
Yea, my narrow mind along with every other narrow mind in this thread that drew the same conclusion as me.:rolleyes: Not to mention that your 2 next posts after the start of this thread back up that very same conclusion (like I already pointed out). |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
Right! It only "blatantly implies" what your narrow mind wants to believe. :rolleyes: |
oh give me a break, and quit using that stupid "rolleyes" face. you are so immature and really obnoxious for starting all this and then getting all technical about what EXACTLY was said. we are human, and I think it was perfectly normal that we all made the assumption that you did, in fact, cheat. grow up. |
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