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why are boys so inconsiderate sometimes? (pg. 2)
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| sandstorm03 |
I dont think sitting and talking with him is going to change anything. Im sure he knows what you want him to do. I dont think age has much to do with it either.
I think its more likely for a younger guy to call then an older one. But i think as he gets older, he will stay out less. |
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| EyesOfExtasy |
| If he doesnt know your phone number by heart, does he know you at all enough to love you. Think about that. Also where there is a will there is a way. When someone truly wants to do something they will find any means possible of accomplishing it. If he was stranded out somewhere and his car broke down (for example) I am sure his ass would remember someones number and find a payphone and call them. This just shows me that he isnt taking it that seriously. Dammit he isnt even my boyfriends and its pissing me off all the way over here in NY. Give it one more try if you really care about him, not to say thats its all about you, or vice versa, but if you cant give and take on both behalfs then the relationship isnt going to work anyway and you are probably wasting your time. Find a new more mature and caring person that will be happy to hear your voice and call you make sure you are not worried. :p You deserve better....hang in there girl, and aim me anytime if u need someone to talk to...my sn is eyesofextasy. I am always online ;) |
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| sandstorm03 |
| quote: | | Find a new more mature and caring person that will be happy to hear your voice and call you make sure you are not worried. |
imo people like that may get "boring", i guess thats what you want when your 26+, but girls 18-19 definately dont want that. |
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| vadushka!!! |
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| trancebrat |
| First of all...I'm sorry that you are going through this. My ex used to do the exact same thing. He would never change so I kicked him out. The relationship ended due to much bigger issues, but the lack of respect was more than apparent. He didn't do it when we first got together but after we lived together for two years he started to go out more and more. Out of sight out of mind does not play well with me. I am horrible about calling people so I don't need or want someone that calls me all the time, but when you live with someone you have an obligation to that person. It should not be an issue to let the person that you live with know that you are not coming home that night. It is common courtesy and shows respect for the other person. Waking up and realizing that your loved one did not come home is not a good feeling. No one should have to worry about another persons whereabouts at 6am unless it cannot be avoided. It takes a minute to pick up a phone and call someone. If my ex would have just taken one minute out of his life to call me and tell me that he was not coming home we would have argued less than we did. I decided that I was better off without the stress. I'm not saying that should be the solution to your situation, but you two really need to sit down and talk. |
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| klingklang77 |
men suck [/rant]
have you told him everything that you have told us? your best bet would be to sit down and talk it out. |
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| EyesOfExtasy |
| quote: | Originally posted by sandstorm03
imo people like that may get "boring", i guess thats what you want when your 26+, but girls 18-19 definately dont want that. |
Well, I am 23 and my bf is 26 we live together too. We usually go out together. We have no problems with that. But when we go out seperately we known where each other is and have an estimated time in mind when the other will be home. There has never been a night where he has not come home, if there was I am sure there would be a good reson for it and I would expect a call. When you are late to work do you not call in? When you are out sick do you fail to call as well? That is just a prime example of lack of responsibility. If your job is important enough to call because it pays you, your girl should be important enough because she loves you. If you dont care about that then why are you with there. Lay that line on him Bree. |
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| sandstorm03 |
| quote: | | When you are late to work do you not call in? |
I have enough freedom that i dont have to call in, but if im over an hour late i do just to be kind. But its not like im doing something else @ 7 in the morning when im driving to work. Im not pre-ocupied enjoying my self at night. |
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| keithos27 |
| quote: | Originally posted by EyesOfExtasy
Well, I am 23 and my bf is 26 we live together too. We usually go out together. We have no problems with that. But when we go out seperately we known where each other is and have an estimated time in mind when the other will be home. There has never been a night where he has not come home, if there was I am sure there would be a good reson for it and I would expect a call. When you are late to work do you not call in? When you are out sick do you fail to call as well? That is just a prime example of lack of responsibility. If your job is important enough to call because it pays you, your girl should be important enough because she loves you. If you dont care about that then why are you with there. Lay that line on him Bree. |
Good example. Trust and communication... foundations. |
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| Sunshine79 |
| quote: | Originally posted by klingklang77
men suck [/rant]
have you told him everything that you have told us? your best bet would be to sit down and talk it out. |
i have told him. in many ways. over and over.
this happens every single week.
he said to me today: "this is the way i am....you know i love you with all my heart"
it gets a little more complicated than that as I have spoken to him on AIM this morning. but, at any rate, i DO believe in communcation but it's gotta be a two way street. i have done my part.
o man im such a disaster at work. this is terrible |
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| Sunshine79 |
| quote: | Originally posted by sandstorm03
I have enough freedom that i dont have to call in, but if im over an hour late i do just to be kind. But its not like im doing something else @ 7 in the morning when im driving to work. Im not pre-ocupied enjoying my self at night. |
i find your points interesting, Lee, since you are a guy and close to my bf's age. Even though I don't necessarily like them..perhaps you are able to make me understand him somehow. |
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