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why are boys so inconsiderate sometimes? (pg. 7)
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| fr0st |
| Im telling you the uncertainty of a girl is the most ing brutal thing.... As i said before guys are predictiable as the rise of the sun..... Where as a girl is radom like the ing lotto... |
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| sandstorm03 |
| chance in winning powerball 1:120,526,770 I think ill take my chances :tongue2 |
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| LuNaSeA |
| quote: | Originally posted by politicsofdancin
The REASON why i'am upset about this is because i'am WORRIED. I don't know what happened to him??? It is harder in our situation because he is thousands of miles away from me. I can't drive to his house to make sure he got home OK. I think it was very inconsiderate of him. |
girl, i've been in the same boat as you for about.. over 8 months now. in this type of relationship, everything is based on trust. if the mice wanna play while the cat's away, they certainly will...who is going to stop them? u have to really know the person and even at that extent, you're still taking a risk.. and in *serious* international long ass distance relationships, calling one another and letting each other know what you're doing, where you are is everything.. not only cuz they want to feel they're part of your life while they are physically not with you but it also builds trust and fidelity through consistency and communication.. |
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| politicsofdancin |
| quote: | Originally posted by LuNaSeA
girl, i've been in the same boat as you for about.. over 8 months now. in this type of relationship, everything is based on trust. if the mice wanna play while the cat's away, they certainly will...who is going to stop them? u have to really know the person and even at that extent, you're still taking a risk.. and in *serious* international long ass distance relationships, calling one another and letting each other know what you're doing, where you are is everything.. not only cuz they want to feel they're part of your life while they are physically not with you but it also builds trust and fidelity through consistency and communication.. |
*sigh dani...i COMPLETELY agree with you! but for some reason he is not or having a hard time seeing this. :( how am i supposed to fully be secure with this relationship when he doesn't show me that he is not willing put some EXTRA effort? And to promise me a time so we can speak and doesn't keep his word...i just don't know. i'am having such a hard time with this :( |
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| TranceMe |
ugh long distance too...I did it for 2 years...and it was the same problem over and over and he wouldn't keep his promises to call blah blah and it only got worse...and it got to the point where he just admited he didn't want to put enough effort into the relationship....what a waste...guys don't change...and if someone really likes u a lot they'll call you same goes for girls...
kick him to the curb.. |
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| sandstorm03 |
get out!:D
where r u anyway |
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| pyro264jb |
| some nuty ladies up in this ;) |
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| Sunshine79 |
| quote: | Originally posted by politicsofdancin
*sigh dani...i COMPLETELY agree with you! but for some reason he is not or having a hard time seeing this. :( how am i supposed to fully be secure with this relationship when he doesn't show me that he is not willing put some EXTRA effort? And to promise me a time so we can speak and doesn't keep his word...i just don't know. i'am having such a hard time with this :( |
Indy, I totally understand where you are at! And Dani, too. As much as I miss JP (everyday), I don't miss worrying and waiting for him to call. And let me tell you, that boy HATED calling. I think I can count on my fingers how many times we spoke on the phone. thank god for internet! :p
but, both of you are great girls with solid relationships. After reading through this thread, I see that it's natural for us girls to worry and natural for boys to just not get it. I had a long talk with Pat last night and we came to some sort of understanding. He is either not going to get so crunked that he can't call OR, if he is, his boys will let me know he's ok if his phone's ringing and he isn't answering.
perhaps i DO worry too much. I think this is probably fair to say. I have just gone through a lot of losses in my life and I guess I freak out a bit.
we are okay...for now... I feel way better today. indy, I hope your man called at some point! you know i am here to listen if he didn't!
love you all!
-bree |
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| drizzt81 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sunshine79
ok, this is for all you guys out there.
maybe someone can help me understand the male mind a little bit better.
how hard is it to call your girlfriend and tell her you are ok when you go out without her?
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i think this largely depends on multiple factors:
- how sober one is
- whether one is having a lot of fun
- cell phone reception
- personality, some people are more dependable than others
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| holycow24 |
hey everyone,
wow, it was really interesting reading this thread. apparently i've got the brain of a guy, cuz in my relationship i'm always the one getting yelled at for not calling. it's a control issue with me... even though i love and care about my boyfriend, as soon as i feel like he is trying to control me, I back away and i stop calling or don't return a few emails or whatever... kind of like a defense mechanism. i'll go out and he'll have no idea where i've gone or when i'll be back. poor guy! i don't do it as much now, but then again he lives in new york now, and his first couple weeks here we were living together.
one thing i've learned to do, though, is NOT give him a time when i'll be home. rather, i give him a vague time of day. "i'll be home by sunrise or so" or whatever. and if he calls, i answer so that he doesn't have to be worried.
at any rate... it sounds to me like it's really something that can be worked out if you just keep communicating with each other, and find a balance of some kind. the fact that you are living together does make it more complicated, and puts more responsibility on him as far as letting you know where he is. maybe there's a way he can let you know at the beginning of the night that he might crash at a friend's place or something, before he's trashed.
as far as long distance is concerned... i just did it for almost a year and UGH, i HATED being so attached to the phone. my bf would get mad at me if i forgot to charge my celly for a day, and i would get mad at him for calling too much. thank goodness he is in new york now...
Rachel :) |
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| keithos27 |
| holycow24: so you have a bf but you want to marry jan johnston? :conf: :) |
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| stevebutabi |
| quote: | | why are boys so inconsiderate sometimes? |
because girls go for guys who are s. |
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