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| NiteMer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
see and i think this probably comes mostly from like you said being self-concious or also just inexperience. i've been with girls that are constantly worried about getting pregnant...and that worry just doesn't allow them to really get crazy...especially after a time it did get crazy in some drunken monkey ing...the condom breaks... that's scary for me too hehehe |
Only reason I know this is that there is one girl I slept with that laid there lifeless, pretty much. But I know she had a good time, because of two things. She was devastated when I told her I was pursuing another option, and her friends indicated it. |
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| töbias |
Most women judge men quite harshly in bed, whereas they have heaps on confidence in their own ability, even if they are a dud root.
Sex is one area where most women believe they rock, mainly because men often view sex like pizza, ie there is no such thing as bad pizza. And because most men will do anything for sex and sleep with pretty much anything if given the opportunity your average woman has had nothing but compliments, guys being excited to get into their pants, guys hitting on them everyday, so even your worst lay or moderately ugly girl thinks they rock in bed, and you can imagine how confident the hot attractive girls are in bed, and ironically they are often the worst in bed.
I think it mainly comes down to today's society as women are the dominant players. Many women often expect men to do all the work in personal relationships. Its the man's responsibility to meet the girl, take the first steps, make the first move, take control of sex. Many women are pretty much content to sit back and go along for the ride.
Personally I hate that, and like confident women that ensure its not a one way street of affection and intimacy. And if the girl is too scared to make moves then they need some pushing. Most girls will do whatever you ask if you do it in the right way.
I think that most women will rate sex more for the passion involved than if they come or not, or whether you last 4 hours. If you are constantly trying to rip pieces off them before and during sex, don't take it too seriously by having a little fun, smiling and enjoying yourself, be a bit bossy like tell them 'i want all the neighbours to hear you you, scream louder', 'thats it, thats the spot, yeah', pull her hair a bit, pull your dick out and play with your hands for a bit then start again, and don't do a woodpecker, and they'll be keen to come back for more.
Many women have sex, especially random sex experiences, because it makes them feel wanted and attractive, so work hard to make them feel wanted and you'll get buckets of sex. |
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| Michael19 |
i had sex with a bucket once.
it was rather enjoyable |
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| Slylee |
to be perfectly honest, i can't really relate to this thread, because when it comes to sex, i dont ever dish out details with girlfriends. i mean first off, i dont really have a lot of close girlfriends, but if i did, i sure as hell wouldn't be discussing which guys are "good in the sack" or talking about my boyfriend's penis cuz it's none of their business...that's very trashy and i dont really care to hear other girls' stories either. i never understood girls who just sit around and yack about their sex life.
so yea, i dont ever see myself complaining about a guy not being good in bed or anything like that. i would just keep it to myself.
eric, i know what you mean about some girls just not being able to open up though..it usually takes me a while to get comfortable, but once i am, forget about it. but i guess you guys are just talking about like casual sex with girls you meet out and stuff. i'm talking about like when you first get involved with your bf/gf. |
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| JayD |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
the trick is that once in a while, like every couple of weeks or longer, you go out and get a little drunk or yayed up, and have a real kink session. that will keep him satisfied for a couple weeks and he wont mind doing all the work in the time between. :D |
Works in relationships maybe.. Not first time though unless your one of those guys that likes to bang chicks when they're ed.
If sex sucks the first time a guys not really going to want to waist his time for another sucky lay and visa versa I'm sure.
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
to be perfectly honest, i can't really relate to this thread, because when it comes to sex, i dont ever dish out details with girlfriends. |
You expect us to actually believe that? |
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| Slylee |
| yea i was talking about my relationship w/ my boyfriend:) i never understood people (girls especially) who go out clubbing and meet a hot guy and go home with him...or have sex with him after haning out like once. mental stimulation is everything, so if i dont really know someone as a person, then i can't get into the sex. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
You expect us to actually believe that? |
i dont expect you to do anything...i'm being honest. it makes me feel uncomfortable to sit there and listen about someone else's detailed sex life. it's kind of annoying. |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i dont expect you to do anything...i'm being honest. it makes me feel uncomfortable to sit there and listen about someone else's detailed sex life. it's kind of annoying. |
Its even worse if its one of your friends and everytime you see them you get mental visions of yesterday's discussions.
Not feeling a need to talk about it can often mean you are on a good thing, so tis good. |
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| igottaknow |
| My friends and I don't give detailed descriptions either but, we might allude to a girl's prowess in the oral arts or give her a thumbs up for bedroom nastyness. |
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| AntronVee |
Honestly, I think it takes girls longer to learn how to "perform well" in the sack for a couple reasons. Some of them just can't really cut loose for whatever reason, and some seem to think sex simply consists of them lying there. This could be due to the fact that it's very uncommon for guys to go around telling girls they've had sex with that the girl was crap in bed. We tell our friends, but we don't tell the girl...kinda funny, but that's how it seems to work.
| quote: | Originally posted by NiteMer
And then there are easy O's. They are the best. They could lay there like a log and their contractions would be doing enough work anyway. Cheers to the easy O! |
Haha, true that...but also cheers to the girls who gasm real hard and damn near fall off the bed. That's just a blast. |
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| kypez |
| Interesting thread, as ive been reading it i picked something up that my gf has an issue with. She is very selfconcious of herself and she thinks im gonna judge her by her physical presence. She has a great body but doesnt think so herself. She feels slightly unconfortable lying without clothes on or anything like that. Can something be done about confidence like this? |
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