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| Arbiter |
Girls get judged as well, but many guys are just satisfied to be getting some and also men are less likely to chat about what they think of their partner's prowess. So you hear about it a lot less.
It has always been my opinion that if someone is bad in bed you should tell them. If they don't want to hear it, or aren't interested in trying to improve, then they aren't worth your time. |
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| tribu |
| quote: | Originally posted by beats and beeps
What does a sex feel like? |
Imagine sticking your dick into a wet warm crevice, which creates a vacuum around the entire emerseped portion. Said vacuume gently pulls on the surface area while insertion/removal generates a pleasant friction. Most feeling (but certainly not all) is on the sides and underside of the penis' head. |
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| lücid |
generally speaking, it's easy to make a guy cum, and it's difficult to make a girl cum. a lot of guys only focus on their own orgasm, thus forgetting about the girls' pleasure. this selfishness makes them bad in bed. also, guys may prematurely ejaculate and go soft. no girl wants a one-pump-chump.
if a girl is just laying there like a dead fish it is probably due to inexperience and not knowing what to do. some girls are really shy about making mistakes because sex is such an intimate, personal activity.
i agree with Arbiter, in that you should tell someone if they are bad in bed. i never understood the point of faking an orgasm. i'd be hurting a guy more in the longrun if i made him think he was the best lover. i've always told guys very honestly (and sometimes maybe too bluntly, lol) what they need to improve on.
i could go on and on about this topic, but i'd rather go have sex. |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by kypez
Interesting thread, as ive been reading it i picked something up that my gf has an issue with. She is very selfconcious of herself and she thinks im gonna judge her by her physical presence. She has a great body but doesnt think so herself. She feels slightly unconfortable lying without clothes on or anything like that. Can something be done about confidence like this? |
Hey thats pretty common.
Many girls that a bit uncomfortable with their bodies, and especially uncomfortable nude, can often have trouble orgasming as well, and generally enjoying life, and sex, as much as they could.
Its important to understand that fixing this takes time.
Some of things I can recommend doing:
- Talk about it together. Ask them why they have body image issues, what makes them notice it, what makes it better. Be mature, caring and understanding. Bad body image and low self esteem go hand in hand, and you'll find that it rarely has anything to do with something physical. Quite often people have these problems and then when they talk about it they have a look at themselves and begin to change. Never put pressure on, or make her feel ordinary.
- Try and increase the time spent naked. Like instead of sex being an event, like somone makes a move clothes come off then you have sex and then its over and clothes go back on, make it more of a process. Be naked, even half naked for a couple hours before you have sex, and after if possible, if she tried to speed things up just say that there is no hurry today. This might require a few drinks at first for her to be comfortable.
- Go to a solarium. Girls are much more comfortable with their bodies when they have a tan. White legs are especially off putting for most girls. So pay $10 twice a week and get brown together, its quite good fun to boot.
- Try and ensure that she has something to cover her tummy up with at first. It might be a pillow, but get her naked and let her have a small security blanket at first at least, after a while she will lose it.
- Get a black light for the bedroom. Awesome for sex for girls with body image issues. I've met girls that hate sex in the light they hate their bodies that bad, and thats a real relationship killer. I even had a girl tell me no doggy style if its not in the dark, and I'm sure there are worse cases out there.
- Throw the odd compliment around. "You have such a hot ass", "I love touching your legs", " you are sexy". Before, during and after sex is a good time.
- Shut your eyes the whole time when you have sex a bit here and there.
Good luck, its a tough one. I knew a girl so self conscious she couldn't even have sex. Her nervousness made her opening squeeze so tight she had to go to hospital after sex. If a girl has a skin disease its often a sign that they have bad body image issues. |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
When it comes to sex why is it the guy who's always getting judged whether he's good or not? What does the girl do besides lay there, make some noise, and give the guy some encouragement? |
I love good sex, I love GREAT sex even more!;) |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
generally speaking, it's easy to make a guy cum, and it's difficult to make a girl cum. a lot of guys only focus on their own orgasm, thus forgetting about the girls' pleasure. this selfishness makes them bad in bed. also, guys may prematurely ejaculate and go soft. no girl wants a one-pump-chump.
if a girl is just laying there like a dead fish it is probably due to inexperience and not knowing what to do. some girls are really shy about making mistakes because sex is such an intimate, personal activity.
i agree with Arbiter, in that you should tell someone if they are bad in bed. i never understood the point of faking an orgasm. i'd be hurting a guy more in the longrun if i made him think he was the best lover. i've always told guys very honestly (and sometimes maybe too bluntly, lol) what they need to improve on.
i could go on and on about this topic, but i'd rather go have sex. |
i don't know about other guys...but i'm glad to hear you're so honest...i mean ...i wish i could have girls i date tell me what they like if i'm not doing it...i wouldn't mind a little instruction. i mean...i just want to get it right hehehe...
so good job...honesty is good hehehe... |
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| JayD |
Can't girls orgasm quietly w/ their eye's closed, licking lips, thrusting, etc? All girls orgasm differently no (in question is if one can have a "calm" orgasm to the overly eccentric fake ones).
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| Billabong |
| I find you need to use an obscene amount of foreplay to get a girl excited, its like trying to preheat the oven, but for 1 hour. All the while they are moaning and loving it, but there joy always seems to be greater. |
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| kypez |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Hey thats pretty common.
Many girls that a bit uncomfortable with their bodies, and especially uncomfortable nude, can often have trouble orgasming as well, and generally enjoying life, and sex, as much as they could.
Its important to understand that fixing this takes time.
Some of things I can recommend doing:
- Talk about it together. Ask them why they have body image issues, what makes them notice it, what makes it better. Be mature, caring and understanding. Bad body image and low self esteem go hand in hand, and you'll find that it rarely has anything to do with something physical. Quite often people have these problems and then when they talk about it they have a look at themselves and begin to change. Never put pressure on, or make her feel ordinary.
- Try and increase the time spent naked. Like instead of sex being an event, like somone makes a move clothes come off then you have sex and then its over and clothes go back on, make it more of a process. Be naked, even half naked for a couple hours before you have sex, and after if possible, if she tried to speed things up just say that there is no hurry today. This might require a few drinks at first for her to be comfortable.
- Go to a solarium. Girls are much more comfortable with their bodies when they have a tan. White legs are especially off putting for most girls. So pay $10 twice a week and get brown together, its quite good fun to boot.
- Try and ensure that she has something to cover her tummy up with at first. It might be a pillow, but get her naked and let her have a small security blanket at first at least, after a while she will lose it.
- Get a black light for the bedroom. Awesome for sex for girls with body image issues. I've met girls that hate sex in the light they hate their bodies that bad, and thats a real relationship killer. I even had a girl tell me no doggy style if its not in the dark, and I'm sure there are worse cases out there.
- Throw the odd compliment around. "You have such a hot ass", "I love touching your legs", " you are sexy". Before, during and after sex is a good time.
- Shut your eyes the whole time when you have sex a bit here and there.
Good luck, its a tough one. I knew a girl so self conscious she couldn't even have sex. Her nervousness made her opening squeeze so tight she had to go to hospital after sex. If a girl has a skin disease its often a sign that they have bad body image issues. |
Thanks for the advice, i think ideas like talking to her . Shes not too bad its just once in a while she makes indirect comments about it. It frustrates me but i dont show it at all. I just want her to be confident about herself. Shes a beautiful girl and she could be way more beautiful if she was more happy about the way she looks. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I have the best orgasms when my bf sticks his finger in my ass. Sometimes two fingers. He said he put three in there once, but I obviously couldn't tell. We were 69ing and I was wearing stockings and these hot brazilian panties that laced up in the back like a corset. |
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| {b.s.e.} |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I have the best orgasms when my bf sticks his finger in my ass. Sometimes two fingers. He said he put three in there once, but I obviously couldn't tell. We were 69ing and I was wearing stockings and these hot brazilian panties that laced up in the back like a corset. |
where was the hot wax? |
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| smokeape |
If I get a nut (expected), that's cool. If my partner gets a nut in the process (sometimes not expected), that's cool as well, but won't really change the way I normally do business. Has to be something going on other than course of business to make things different for both partners I believe.
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