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Love: Geting over it/on with it (pg. 3)
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| tha_broad |
| quote: | Originally posted by naesean3
that is a sign of someone being a genuine/nice person - that can accomplish this - game playing must not be part of your repetoire - those who can maintain solid friendships afterwords - is generally a sign of a somewhat healthy relationship - those who cannot stay friends - the relationships were not that healthy to begin with....IMO |
not necessarily true. Maybe the constant reminders are too painful and bring back too many memories. The thoughts from before still linger. Especially if you put your all into that person, and your heart was broken by it, the memories and thoughts can sometimes be too much for a person to bear by the contact with that person... |
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| loca |
| quote: | Originally posted by drgoodvibe
I understand the need to ignore them, but whats the point of giving them bad looks? What does that really solve?
lol.. |
Answer to first comment: When someone has been a complete to you the entire relationship, i think it's only fair i give him bad looks considering i probably hate his guts :)
Second comment: what's so funny about me not being single for long may i ask? |
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| loca |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ashley
Same here! After I broke up with a guy, I seriously never spoke to them agian, I just started to hate them. Easy way to get over a guy.
But like you, I had never been in love before, but now that I am in love, I think that I would just die if we ever broke up. We've talked about taking breaks (at the peak point of an argument) then at the final moment, we're like, "no I can't go a week without seeing you", so I couldn't even imagine brekaing up with him. I think having you're heart broken would be one of the heardest things to overcome. |
Well it looks like we're both in the exact same position. We've both had our "let's take a break" moments after arguments but we never go through with it because we've been through so much already, and there's so much love between us, not to mention the fact that i can't live without him lol. It would be way harder getting over him :(:(:( I hope i never have to go through that :( |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by naesean3
that is a sign of someone being a genuine/nice person - that can accomplish this - game playing must not be part of your repetoire - those who can maintain solid friendships afterwords - is generally a sign of a somewhat healthy relationship - those who cannot stay friends - the relationships were not that healthy to begin with....IMO |
Totally agree! My exbfs who I'm not really friends with anymore, I don't really care to be friends with. Even that 2nd serious bf I was talking about, how we're sort of friends now. I'm fine with the fact that our friendship isn't the same as it used to be, b/c I don't really want it to be. I'm glad we had closure and worked things out, but I don't really want him as a big part of my life. The first one though, I love him as a friend, he's a genuinely great guy. And the third one...I don't know what I'd do without him in my life. |
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| naesean3 |
| quote: | Originally posted by tha_broad
not necessarily true. Maybe the constant reminders are too painful and bring back too many memories. The thoughts from before still linger. Especially if you put your all into that person, and your heart was broken by it, the memories and thoughts can sometimes be too much for a person to bear by the contact with that person... |
true - but if both people were respectful of each other in the relationship throughout (happens rarely - someone usually tries to upset the other inevitably)- it is much easier to stay friends when each party has dealt with their own personal issues/stake in said relationship. I have found that the relationships that had a mutual respect throughout - I have remained friends with - if they tried to vindicate themselves/or I them through petty attacks/calous remarks/cheating and lying - that is what sticks out in my mind/their mind and therefore makes it that more difficult to forgive and forget........and move on ;) |
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| Endlesswave |
| quote: | Originally posted by loca
Oh and then i just get a new boyfriend. For some reason i've never been single for more than a month since i started dating :D |
It's easier for women to do this. |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by tha_broad
not necessarily true. Maybe the constant reminders are too painful and bring back too many memories. The thoughts from before still linger. Especially if you put your all into that person, and your heart was broken by it, the memories and thoughts can sometimes be too much for a person to bear by the contact with that person... |
+1
My ex still tried to call me a few times, even 2 years after our relationship ended, but because we had no closure it was still too painful to even hear her voice...on a couple of occasions when I ran into her at uni I put on my poker face and was talking but I was totally distant...didn't want to give her my time of day. Before I gave her my all and she ditched me for someone else...Na-ah, no respect for you my dear. |
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| tha_broad |
| quote: | Originally posted by Endlesswave
It's easier for women to do this. |
Easier yes, but sometimes they still get called sluts for doing it. |
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| Callie5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by tha_broad
Easier yes, but sometimes they still get called sluts for doing it. |
MEH
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| loca |
| quote: | Originally posted by tha_broad
Easier yes, but sometimes they still get called sluts for doing it. |
Yet this same practice is perfectly acceptable for men. WHY?! :whip: |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by loca
Yet this same practice is perfectly acceptable for men. WHY?! :whip: |
Who says it's perfectly acceptable? |
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| drgoodvibe |
| quote: | Originally posted by loca
Answer to first comment: When someone has been a complete to you the entire relationship, i think it's only fair i give him bad looks considering i probably hate his guts :)
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ahh ok, that's totally valid then if he's been an a-hole and such.
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Second comment: what's so funny about me not being single for long may i ask? |
nothing really, I just find it personally amusing just becuase there are some people who just can't stay single guys or girls. I never could find a reason as to why some people just couldnt be alone for an extended period of time. Why is there a need to always be with someone? Or replace an ex with some new guy or girl? Is it easier to cope with a previous relationship that ended by getting a new one? |
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