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Best way to talk to a girl? (pg. 6)
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| Ry Diggs |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
where do you see yourself in 5 years? :disbelief |
what are you giving him a in job interview? lol |
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| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Seems to me you've got everything going for you except confidence. If you really know your self worth, then you should be approaching girls with a job interview mentality.
What I mean by that is, you are the employer, and they are the possible employees. Your self worth factors into that in the sense that when you have it, you look for specific things in girls to compliment your needs and desires.
This should bring you the confidence you need to talk to girls without being nervous.
Basically, forget about what girls might think of you...because A)most women aren't gonna be worth your time anyways, and B)it's not JUST about them, it's about you too - remember YOUR needs! If you can do that, you won't feel so foolish when talking to girls.
I hope that makes sense. |
It does make sense. But it just depends with me. Sometimes I'm really confident and meet someone and talk with them. Other times I have no confidence. I think after I meet a girl who messes with my head, and i've met many of them, it takes me a little while to start talking to girls. You know once someone brings you down and is untrustworthy, it makes you feel like everyone is like that. I think it's just a pattern and it's frusturating. And lately it's been pretty hard...but I think once school starts and I'm meeting more people things will be better...I hope. |
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| tc-fan |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
He's saying that, by presenting yourself to be "1 in a million" and "the perfect boyfriend", you aren't really displaying much in the line of modesty.
Pretty straightforward if you ask me. |
maybe cause her older boyfriends treat it her like . that why she said i am the perfect BF. |
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| asfdz |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonSun
Next time you masterbate, save it. And next time in class when the girl looks at you & smiles, throw it at her. |
I LOLD
Thank you! |
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| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aquarian
Blah - there's better sorts of people in college anyways. |
I'm sure there is, I just haven't met many of them. At the college i'm at, it's pretty much a place where people might hang out with people they knew from high school. It's not the type of college where you have people actively meeting each other or hooking up. The only place to meet people is if your in a sport but the sport I would do (track) is at another campus..which is almost an hour away. You could meet people in class, but not many of them have shown any desire to either hang out with me or go out with me, and I guess I haven't met anyone who I truly connected with enough to want to. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by tc-fan
maybe cause her older boyfriends treat it her like . that why she said i am the perfect BF. |
WHOOOOSH
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| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by tc-fan
maybe cause her older boyfriends treat it her like . that why she said i am the perfect BF. |
It was the same with me and the girl I had dated for three months...and that was five years ago. Her friends told me that I was one of her better boyfriends because I was in it for sex and I was much more respectful and nice. The same with the latest girl (from April)...whose parents told me I was one of the better guys she took home. |
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| Aquarian |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spirit5
I'm sure there is, I just haven't met many of them. At the college i'm at, |
Take a psych class. It's 90% girls - and the other 10% is guys trying to profit from the fact that it's 90% girls. |
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| luisjb82 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spirit5
but they were neither potentional girlfriends (didn't have a chance with them) nor do I talk to them any longer..unfortunitely.
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That is exactly your problem... you gotta build up your confidence man, you just can't go out and expect to get a girl if you already have that defeatist attitude. Mankind has gone so far because of people's dreams and desires, you always gotta aim for the best if you want to succeed at anything in life.
It doesn't come overnight, we all been there before, but you gotta work on your charm and to make it effective you gotta be genuine.. If you have potential problems about being too shy or whatever I suggest you read a book on body language so you can learn how to interpret women's every gestures... it's always a good help. |
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| Allied Nations |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spirit5
I'm sure there is, I just haven't met many of them. At the college i'm at, it's pretty much a place where people might hang out with people they knew from high school. It's not the type of college where you have people actively meeting each other or hooking up. The only place to meet people is if your in a sport but the sport I would do (track) is at another campus..which is almost an hour away. You could meet people in class, but not many of them have shown any desire to either hang out with me or go out with me, and I guess I haven't met anyone who I truly connected with enough to want to. |
Hmm. If you are heavily into music, or have any other passions, i suggest finding people with similar interests in your area. Has always worked for me. In india i had two groups of friends-
The people who I met through school and their out of school friends
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The people who were in the music scene who i met on my own. |
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| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aquarian
Take a psych class. It's 90% girls - and the other 10% is guys trying to profit from the fact that it's 90% girls. |
I'm actually a psych major..haha. So i've taken almost every psych class at my school..well I haven't take experimental or child development, because I really don't need them (not planning to be an experimental or child psychologist). |
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| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Allied Nations
Hmm. If you are heavily into music, or have any other passions, i suggest finding people with similar interests in your area. Has always worked for me. In india i had two groups of friends-
The people who I met through school and their out of school friends
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The people who were in the music scene who i met on my own. |
I really want to go to clubs that play my music but I have over protective parents who worry about me too much. I went to them for a little while two years ago, but they became paranoid when I didn't get home till 6:00 AM...haha and I haven't found anyone to go with me (they are more paranoid now about me going alone, the time I was with someone else...a trance producer/dj by the way...but now I dunno who i'd go with to a club). |
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