|
Best way to talk to a girl? (pg. 8)
|
View this Thread in Original format
| DJ Chrono |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spirit5
21, and I never really had a girlfriend. |
Lol, from your posts you sound exactly the same as me. I was probably worse than you though at talking to girls, and never had any form of relationship until my current girlfriend. Even when girls would talk to me I would just not know what to say and be akward.
ANyways, the way I got a girlfriend despite being like that, was through the internet ;) I got to know my girlfriend through sending emails, chatting on MSN, and once I was sure she was a genuinely nice girl, met her in person, and just went from there. Now we've been going out over a year and a half. After you get to know someone really well over the internet it is alot easier to talk in person, that's for sure.
Not everyone is good at face-to-face situations, especially with girls who you don't know, and no matter what kind of advice people give you for it on here, it's going to be hard to do. It's not like you can just change your personality right? Might as well just accept the way you are and work around it. Not trying to suggest you can't improve yourself, but I know it's hard to do. |
|
|
| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by luisjb82
I'm sorry dog, my bad...
well my advice is what Akridrot said, just work on your social skills little by little and be patient, it doesn't come overnight.
You'll get used to it and when you gain more experience reading people it will be a like a switch for you and you will automatically say the right things to a girl at the right moment... flirting can't be taught but it can be mastered, all you need is more practice. |
Yeah I definitely need to work on some of my social skills and flirting. Seems like when I tried flirting in the past, it always fired back on me and scared the girl off... |
|
|
| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ Chrono
ANyways, the way I got a girlfriend despite being like that, was through the internet ;) I got to know my girlfriend through sending emails, chatting on MSN, and once I was sure she was a genuinely nice girl, met her in person, and just went from there. Now we've been going out over a year and a half. After you get to know someone really well over the internet it is alot easier to talk in person, that's for sure. |
Actually I have met plenty of girls in the past on the net. The last girl I met a few months back...it was on MySpace. The other one, was on this website about Wicca, yeah I was getting into it my freshman year in high school. I just wanted some info from someone locally, and she winded up performing at a talent show at my school..and that's where we met. I've said that I would never meet anyone else online, but it seems like i've gotten hurt or my head/heart messsed with plenty of times with either girls i've met online or offline...like at school or church...it's like a pattern..makes me think i'm cursed. I don't tell myself that and meet someone and think I do everything right and BOOM it happens again... |
|
|
| Vivid Boy |
| you can always use my pick up line, "yo what up, i got a dick, wanna ?! first swallow this birth control pill slut" |
|
|
| Slixter |
| quote: | [i][b] B)it's not JUST about them, it's about you too - remember YOUR needs!
|
In my experience,(especially as of late) it's always about them and they really don't care about your needs as long as theirs are cared for... |
|
|
| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
you can always use my pick up line, "yo what up, i got a dick, wanna ?! first swallow this birth control pill slut" |
As opposed to "I've got an 8-ball and a hard-on. You do the math." ? |
|
|
| luisjb82 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spirit5
Yeah I definitely need to work on some of my social skills and flirting. Seems like when I tried flirting in the past, it always fired back on me and scared the girl off... |
Probably because you were thinking too much or you actually cared too much... remember girls come and go every time. Just try to keep your cool when talking to them and be yourself, be confident on who you are and your own value. Be secure but don't get cocky, be flirtatious (spell check) but not vulgar... be aware of the small details, chicks dig that... but most important, remember girls come and go, don't get so worked up if didn't work out with a chick, simply move on and even if you get a gf pretty fast, keep on meeting people and working on your social skills so you expand your circle of friends |
|
|
| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
As opposed to "I've got an 8-ball and a hard-on. You do the math." ? |
i thought that said do you do meth?
i wasgonna use that |
|
|
| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
i thought that said do you do meth?
i wasgonna use that |
Your variation would work equally as well. |
|
|
| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slixter
In my experience,(especially as of late) it's always about them and they really don't care about your needs as long as theirs are cared for... |
I think you missed the point. |
|
|
| Spirit5 |
| quote: | Originally posted by luisjb82
Probably because you were thinking too much or you actually cared too much... remember girls come and go every time. Just try to keep your cool when talking to them and be yourself, be confident on who you are and your own value. Be secure but don't get cocky, be flirtatious (spell check) but not vulgar... be aware of the small details, chicks dig that... but most important, remember girls come and go, don't get so worked up if didn't work out with a chick, simply move on and even if you get a gf pretty fast, keep on meeting people and working on your social skills so you expand your circle of friends |
Yeah i'll keep working at it. It just seems so easy for other people. For me though, it's tough. It was easier when I was little actually. Seems like somewhere along the lines as I got older...it got harder. I actually had many girls as friends when I was little, and many friends period. I think i've been posting more on TA lately because i've felt a little more lonely because there is literally NO ONE to hang with or talk to in real life. I'm not really depressed or anything though. I've been in what I call a state of "blah", not super happy, nor super sad. Just kind of "there" I guess....I tried being involved in a political campaign to hopefully meet some people, but I winded up doing stuff mostly by myself or meeting older people, not people my age I could hang out with. So that was a disapointment..and I don't think the woman has much of a chance anyways. |
|
|
| Slixter |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I think you missed the point. |
not at all...just saying what I've experienced as of late...not a take on the whole gender...just personal experience that's all.. |
|
|
|
|
