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See, spinsteration is now the majority!!!........ (pg. 6)
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by EvilTree
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When in a relationship one has to step outside of themselves when making decisions and take into consideration their partner.
The thought process has to go beyond asking "am I comfortable with this?/do I think this is the right decision?" and move towards asking "would my partner be comfortable with this?/would my partner think this is the right decision?". This is part of what being in a serious relationship is about - consideration.
Regardless if you're comfortable or if you think it is the right decision - if your partner wouldn't agree then it would be prudent to avoid getting into the situation.
This goes for all things - not just infidelity. |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
When in a relationship one has to step outside of themself when making decisions and take into consideration their partner.
The thought process has to go beyond asking "am I comfortable with this?/do I think this is the right decision?" and move towards asking "would my partner be comfortable with this?/would my partner think this is the right decision?".
Regardless if you're comfortable or if you think it is the right decision - if your partner wouldn't agree then it would be prudent to avoid getting into the situation.
This goes for all things - not just infidelity. |
RJ speaks wisdom |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by urban_legend
Real Love is dead.
Society has ruined it.
No one can believe in it anymore. |
Pfft, I believe in it! :D |
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| StereoPrincess |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
The thought process has to go beyond asking "am I comfortable with this?/do I think this is the right decision?" and move towards asking "would my partner be comfortable with this?/would my partner think this is the right decision?". This is part of what being in a serious relationship is about - consideration.
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exactly.
what would urban's girlfriend even think of going with this girl to smoke a joint and drink in her hotel room? she would probably not feel comfortable with it. your partner may trust you not to do anything in that situation but why even place yourself in that situation at all, to cause feelings of uncomfortableness.
let's pretend that this happens and you go and tell your girlfriend. "hey, listen to this story, so and so, totally came on to me in her hotel room when we were smoking a joint and drinking. i left the room as soon as she came out naked out of the bathroom." if i was the girlfriend i would blow a fuse. 1) why did you even go the the hotel room? (i would be fuming) 2) why are you giving women the idea that they may have a chance with you. 3) why are you telling me in such a manner, as if to make me jealous and make it seem like other girls want you. |
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| English Rachel |
I just wondered what the wonderful Wiki had to say about 'relationships'.....
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationship
In intimate relationships there is often, but not always, an implicit or explicit agreement that the partners will not have sex with someone else - monogamy. The extent to which physical intimacy with other people is accepted may vary. For example, a husband may be more receptive to his wife being physically affectionate with her female friend if she has one, other than with her male friend (see also jealousy).
Main list: List of basic relationship topics
Adultery
Affection
Alternatives to marriage project
empathy
Concubinage
Courtship (Dating)
Forms of activity and interpersonal relations
Historical pederastic couples
Human bonding
Interpersonal communication
Interpersonal psychoanalysis
Monogamy, polyamory, polygamy, endogamy, exogamy
Single (relationship)
Social interaction
Social rejection |
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| urban_legend |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
you can't possibly think that you had nothing to do with either of these situations. i am not saying you were completely at fault but seriously, men can't be that blind? |
Ummmmm......I was at a work function, I was going to the bathroom in no way am I at fault.
As for the other one, yah I agreed to go up to a hotel room, but it was after a party and she was a friend.
Something tells me you dont trust men at all. If thats the case, I am sorryyou don't but I have to admit I don't trust women, I think they are worse then men when it comes to the cheating aspect. I told this girl and knew I was involved but that didnt seem to matter to her. PLus I left right away, so because I wanted to go up to a hotel room after a show, smoke a joint with someone I thought was my friend that puts myslef in a bad position? I dont think so, I deem myself very respectful and smart about the way I approach situations and I know better when to get the out. |
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| urban_legend |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
Alone in a hotel room to get high and drink? I don't think so.
Common sense man... |
SHE WAS A FRIEND. Oh no two people from different genders can't be friends together and hang out alone,there must by underlying tones there......gimmie a break. Not only that after a night of partying how good does a glass of wine and a joint sound? |
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| urban_legend |
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
that's what i am saying. either, he gives of a vibe to women that he is available (co-worker incident) or that he doesn't mind getting some on the side (friend incident).
trust me, no woman would get naked in front of you if there was no possible chance that you would return the feeling.
i am saying men are blind to the whole thing. i don't blame them either, they just aren't looking for it. i have had the "you know she likes you a lot" convo with guys and they just have no idea. they don't pick up on the subtle hints. |
Hahahahahah who are you kidding, women do some of the most retarded things when it comes to relationships or sex. She maybe wanted me so bad that she didnt care who I had, if she woulda have shown me she was better I met have left my other for her. thats what she could have been thinking, girls arent innocent you know. I am friendly and curtious, i never give off a "vibe" of availability. Thats a vibe of desperation. |
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| urban_legend |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Pfft, I believe in it! :D |
yah but your lucky, you got a good one and you have been together forever. I am happy for you Jen. I just need to find what you have. :( |
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| fairy godfather |
I am completely opposed to "spinsteration" especially where Rachel is concerned.
I believe the current trend toward "defenestration" is much more appropriate for her! |
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| Silky Johnson |
I'm gonna have to agee with Jay here. Women are scandalous ing whores. I wouldn't put it past A LOT of chicks I know that they would do something like that.
God women are stupid. That's the REAL reason why so many of them are alone. LOL.
I feel sorry for men. |
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| fairy godfather |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I'm gonna have to agee with Jay here. Women are scandalous ing whores. I wouldn't put it past A LOT of chicks I know that they would do something like that.
God women are stupid. That's the REAL reason why so many of them are alone. LOL.
I feel sorry for men. |
It's also why our side is gaining members at alarming rates! Our missionaries know many positions! |
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