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Friday 271: Post, You Mofos! (pg. 11)
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
You don't need weights to work out, and a treadmill makes running way less painful.A stationary bike and stairmaster are other great things to have in the house. 2nd hand ones abound on all of those Karen social media marketplaces, and some are pretty cheap if it is a money thing.
Your problem isn't your back pain, that is your crutch. Your problem is you believe and buy your excuses.
This intervention is boring, now. Someone do something funny.
I only look a bit like Tony Robbins, I'm not him. |
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| Zoso |
Man, no disrespect, but you are way off base on this. I LOVED working out and jogging. Those were the only real, functional stress relievers that I had. I used to have bouts with back pain 2 to 4 times a year...I always had, since I could remember. Then just over 5 years ago, I noticed that for the entire month of December, the pain was there almost daily. This month marks 5.5 years of constant, daily, debilitating pain. I mean to the point my quality of life has decreased. I WANT to work out. I want to feel good again and have the stress relief. The problem is I have tried to lift, dropping from my 40 lb. each hex weights to the 25 lb. each hex weights, but within a few days of even a mild session I am down for 2 weeks.
We live on a 70 acre farm, and I have a trail for walking that I keep mowed through the pasture. It's exactly .35 miles, so 3 laps is a mile. I walk that as often as I can, but that's my limit now.
You can call it a crutch or an excuse. I just hope you never have to experience it anything like it. There is no "just get over it" or "just work through it". It's life-alteringly debilitating. |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
No offense, but nothing about you exudes any sort of glimmer of confidence in yourself.
Im a recovered drug addict/alcoholic that hit several huge obstacles in life but still managed to power through it all through will. You're a guy that looks to be enabled in his bitching to people he doesn't know on the internet and thinks life is over at 43.
"It's not because I'm not trying" is what most people that aren't trying say when confronted lol. |
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| Zoso |
I understand that. But this is not a confidence thing, Jay. I am stating that, until 5 years ago, I did in fact exercise daily, with a combination of weight training and walking/jogging...I even got up to jogging two 5km runs a week some weeks.
Then, chronic/debilitating pain set in, and it occurs daily. Jogging actually aggravates it worse than lifting. The only "exercise" activity that I can do now that does not make the pain more intense is walking, which I try to do daily.
Again, nothing to do with confidence or the lack thereof. I was actually very proud of the progress I had made, as I had worked out regularly for just over 12 years when the chronic pain started. I miss jogging the most, as the endorphins that released were, to me, the best stress relief I have ever experienced.
I am not trying to be argumentative or to make excuses. I am simply stating: I used to work out, then I developed debilitating pain that prevents it. I worked out at home, alone, so the only thing not having confidence would have prevented was working out in a gym, which I NEVER did during those 12 years. I used free weights, a dual station Weider Power Stack cable/pulley machine, and a dead end road for the walking/jogging. Confidence or the lack thereof did not impact that scenario at all. |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
| Sounds like victimspeak to me |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Somatic stress response. Cortisol is a bitch. You really need CBT. I bet you could find some cheap(er than therapy with a doctor in person) modules online, or an app or something. |
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| Ted Promo |
| Try getting into gangbangs. I used to have anxiety until I internet searched for local gangbangs and began to locally gangbang. Now I don't have anxiety because I'm so busy in a gangbang. |
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| Zoso |
I think some issues got conflated, here. I was initially attempting to imply that I would never come out of my introvert/social anxiety shell or become "confident enough" to travel/see the world/etc.
It shifted then to lifestyle change (read: exercise) as a way to gain confidence. But I had already, for a 12 year period, exercised consistently, and that had nothing to do with my anxiety...or my confidence. I did it because I enjoyed it, and it relieved stress.
I then developed daily, chronic/debilitating pain, which is greatly amplified by the exercises I had done for 12 years. So, other than walking, I have abandoned those activities.
Somehow things shifted to "he has all these issues because he's not confident; he's not confident because he doesn't exercise/change his lifestyle".
I was simply trying to explain 1.) exercise has nothing to do with my confidence levels; 2.) I did exercise daily for 12 years and loved it; 3.) I can no longer do those daily exercises due to chronic pain, which so far has remained undiagnosed by multiple doctors. Truly, it is that simple. |
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| Dykes_on_Jay |
| Yet there is some real advice in this thread (wtf TA) that you haven't tried. Especially Ted's. |
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| Zoso |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dykes_on_Jay
Yet there is some real advice in this thread (wtf TA) that you haven't tried. Especially Ted's. |
I agree. There is advice I haven't tried. And I am not opposed, on the face of it, to new advice. I was stating that the "exercise to gain confidence" advice isn't in play because 1.) chronic pain and 2.) I already did exercise, and it in no way had any impact on my overall psychology/personality.
Yes, it relieves stresses brought on by daily life/routine, but it did not change the anxiety part of me...that part that just locks up and goes into panic attack mode at the thought of things like traveling. Even during the peak of my exercising/fitness days, you could have said, "We're driving to Florida tomorrow" and I'd have gone into full blown panic attack mode, looking for ANY way possible to get out of it. Then, somehow, things spiraled into the "you're lying, you never tried exercising, sounds like victim blaming, etc." stuff, which I did not understand. |
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| Ted Promo |
Were you fiscally prescient and wanted to get in on the ground floor you can send me money. I'm creating an app called TRAINRUNNERS. It's sole intent is to link people up for local gangbangs. There are apps out there that cater to general sinful behavior and lasciviousness for those with looser morals. TRAINRUNNERS will specialize in gangbangs.
Give me money. |
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