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To tell the truth, or lie.
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| GelatinPufF |
You’re in a relationship with the greatest girl in the world *Natalie*. 2 years go by, 5 years go by. You love her to absolute DEATH and she’s the best thing that has ever happened to you. You spend every day and night together thinking about each other, and you vowel to each other that you'll never do anything to hurt one another.
One night at party tho, you get trashed and do it with someone who you wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire. However, you love *Natalie* so much that you don't want to hurt her, knowing that it was a one time thing and the biggest mistake you've ever made, especially after voweling to her that you'll never hurt her. You know that if she found out, not only her world, but your world would be completely and utterly ing shattered.
So do you keep it from her, and lie (not that lieing is always a bad thing), or tell her the truth?
If someone did this to you, what would you want them to do?
Would you forgive them if it was truly the biggest mistake of their life and dearly loved them? |
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| Unknown DJ |
your a twat for doing it, weather u wer drunk or not. u have made ur bed, now lie in it.
*edit* sory that sounds a bit harch, but if u loved her that much, u would have made sure it never happened. |
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| GelatinPufF |
| quote: | Originally posted by Unknown DJ
your a twat for doing it, weather u wer drunk or not. u have made ur bed, now lie in it.
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Not if she doesn't find out. |
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| Unknown DJ |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
Not if she doesn't find out. |
lol. well ur in a bit of a situation here. 5 years? ouch. but i hate lieing as well. but that also leads to one of lifes questions: "do you lie to make someone smile? or tell the truth and make them cry?"
if there is absolutly NO way in hell she could find out other then through you. id say lie. BUT can u live with the guilt? and the longer u leave not telling her, the more the guilt will build up, and the longer u put it off and eventually tell her, the more angry she will b at u for hiding it from her.
so if u can live with the guilt, i say dont tell her. it isnt technicaly lieing, its just not telling her. if she asks u if u did anything and u say no, then thats lieing.
so if u can deal with the guilt, i say dont tell her. just dont let it happern again. (as u can tell i hate cheaters) |
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| DJ RozzeR |
| i don't belive you could actually shag another girl from being that pissed, if you were that pissed then you would not of been able to perform ? the last time i was wasted i could not even walk never mind consent of having sex with someone. did you have sex or was it a quick finger pie ??. if you did have sex then i think your a total idiot, and a looser and you give men a bad name, spit ! . |
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| m0sh |
| Don't lie , tbh I can't lie to anyone it just don't feel right |
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| klingklang77 |
what's voweling? oh you mean vowing....
yeah you have to live with yourself and the guilt that comes along with it if you dont tell. you shouldnt have done it in the first place. but ask yourself WHY did you do it?
lieing will get you nowhere. |
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| Sand Leaper |
| Lie about it and you will only make matters 10x worse, plus you're gonna have to live with the guilt eating you up inside. Tell her and she might forgive you later. |
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| Maaz |
You already know the answer, you're just afraid of it ;)
I'm with Klingklang here: if you shagged another girl, you should ask yourself "why" first. |
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| GelatinPufF |
| quote: | Originally posted by Unknown DJ
lol. well ur in a bit of a situation here. 5 years? ouch. but i hate lieing as well. but that also leads to one of lifes questions: "do you lie to make someone smile? or tell the truth and make them cry?" |
Well said. And I have no idea. I even try to ask myself this question: what would I do if I was on the receiving end? What would I want her to do? Lie and never do it again? Or tell me the truth?
Now if she told me the truth, I honestly don’t know what I would do.
| quote: | Originally posted by DJ RozzeR
i don't belive you could actually shag another girl from being that pissed |
Well you don’t always get trashed from alcohol.
| quote: | Originally posted by klingklang77
lieing will get you nowhere. |
In some cases, the only way to get somewhere is to lie. Think about what would happen if one of your fat girlfriends asked you whether you think she’s fat or not?
| quote: | Originally posted by m0sh
Don't lie , tbh I can't lie to anyone it just don't feel right |
What about if the cops catch you doing 90 in a 70 zone, and ask you whether you’ve been speeding or not? |
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| Sand Leaper |
| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
What about if the cops catch you doing 90 in a 70 zone, and ask you whether you’ve been speeding or not? |
If you compare a traffic violation to cheating on your gf then there is something very wrong with you.
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In some cases, the only way to get somewhere is to lie. Think about what would happen if one of your fat girlfriends asked you whether you think she’s fat or not?
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Lying sure as hell wouldn't help her, so if she asked me I would tell her what I think and then maybe offer some helpful advice on how to lose weight. If she proceeded to bite my head off for pointing out the fact that she's overweight then she a) is in denial and needs help or b) has no respect for a friend's honest opinion (which after all is what she asked for). Either way lying will not help her in anyway whatsoever. |
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| astroboy |
| If there is absolutely NO way that she'll find out otherwise, just don't say anything. Guilt is transitory, it'll passvery quickly almost at the same time that you become sure that you'll never get caught. There are few couples that have no secrets from each other... these things build up over time. Just make sure you've learnt your lesson and won't do it again! Heck maybe when you're old and frail on your deathbed, you can tell her about your singular transgression. |
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