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Can men and women be just friends? (pg. 6)
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
You already said that men and women can't be friends so there isn't anything to maintain...right?
Sorry to hear that you guys think most guys are shallow. I would think at least one of you would be at least somewhat amused that I stood up for an obviously small percentage of the male population. It's apparent that some guys are clearly simple minded, but I do honestly think there are guys out there that genuinely enjoy being friends with people without the idea of sex or dating involved. |
well i assume that if you have been friends with a guy over the extent of many different relationships and you have not dated him, then it would seem that one or both of your subconcious sexual attractions have been suppressed to a point that will not allow them to date and therefore remain "just friends"...
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| Mebot |
| thank god for robots |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Think about it this way. When you get in your car you realize that you might get in an accident right? But are you sitting there thinking OH MY GOD I MIGHT GET IN AN ACCIDENT. or are you just prepared for that possibility and then its totally in the back of your mind until something happens.
Thats how men work. You can go on friendship auto pilot and as long as things remain totally normal no thoughts. but you get drunk and slip him some tongue...hell be grabbing your tit and dry humping you so fast your head will spin.
Im sorry if you hate men because of that, but hey. |
First of all, I don't drink. When I did drink there was no amount of alcohol in the world that would have made me kiss someone that I wasn't already attracted to. Argue that all you want. I know myself...you don't. I don't hate men...never said that. I have some amazing male friends.
And guys wonder why some of their girlfriends don't want them hanging out with girls. I'm not like that, but you have clearly proven right here that men cannot be trusted with the opposite sex. |
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| diego |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mebot
thank god for robots |
what the hell has that got to do with anything? |
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| Thunder5 |
No way...
There is always some sexual tension. :) |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
well i assume that if you have been friends with a guy over the extent of many different relationships and you have not dated him, then it would seem that one or both of your subconcious sexual attractions have been suppressed to a point that will not allow them to date and therefore remain "just friends"...
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My God...are you sexually attracted to everyone that's in your life? Then quit using that term with me. |
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| Mebot |
| quote: | Originally posted by diego
what the hell has that got to do with anything? |
just trying to ease tensions before this turns even more ugly
but its actually an interesting conversation, really |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
Oh...and I am not naive...I am just more open minded. Once again...my best friend is a guy. Hell yeah I take offense to the that you people have been writing. I don't need a damn theory to tell me about my everyday life. I'm done...continue to bash me. |
i didn't mean to offend you TB. i really don't know you so i can't judge you with harsh generalizations, it was really all in good fun. i do think that some of what i was saying is true, but i also think that a lot of it stems from insecurity. so i ask you...being a woman and i always have problems talking to my girlfriend about it without getting into a fight...how can i stop being so jealous? |
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| Massive84 |
trancebrat like orbax said it mite work female towards to male, but male towards female, it mite not
so far we heard only female saying yes it's possible, since you say i know what i am talking about, i got a best friend which is a male
yet i have no male saying i got a best friend which is a female, and even if i am gonne see that ..i am more intrested, if he had or has some feelings for her.
am sure there are people that can handle it, but ya truth is truth, most males , if they get attracted and such i think they try it to take it to the next level..
as for your fascade question, you should ask your friend, not me i can't answer that. |
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| diego |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mebot
but its actually an interesting conversation, really |
it is indeed, hehe, |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Massive84
as for your fascade question, you should ask your friend, not me i can't answer that. |
I already know the answer...I wasn't literally asking it as a question although it did appear that way. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i didn't mean to offend you TB. i really don't know you so i can't judge you with harsh generalizations, it was really all in good fun. i do think that some of what i was saying is true, but i also think that a lot of it stems from insecurity. so i ask you...being a woman and i always have problems talking to my girlfriend about it without getting into a fight...how can i stop being so jealous? |
That's the problem. Jealousy. If people quit being so close minded to the idea of being friends with people of the opposite sex then "real true" friendship wouldn't be so taboo. This entire conversation is the reason why women do NOT trust men. You guys have done nothing but validate that feeling for every woman in the world that has ever felt that way. The next time your girl acts all funny about some girl that you are friends with...do me a favor and don't lie and say "she's just a friend". According to you guys...it's not possible. |
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