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Can men and women be just friends? (pg. 9)
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by DarkAngel
Either I'm going crazy, or that remark was kinda rude and suggestive. :(
I know Lani, she ain't like that. She's TEH KEWLNESS.
As far as topic goes.....
It always depends on the people involved.
I'm friends with this one girl in the gym who is somewhat attractive but I'm not attracted to her in the least bit. I've had other girls as friends who I also felt the same way. |
Ah...our protective FLTA! DA...this is Tranc3 that we're talking about. Haven't you learned by now not to take that seriously? I have!
Now...Orbax is a whole different issue! ;) |
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| smokeape |
| quote: | Originally posted by magissa
hey guys im doing research on whether men and women can be friends without attraction getting in the the way. so if your over 18, heterosexual and have a friend of the opposite sex could you pleaseeeee do my online survey. hopefully we can finally get some answers!
thanks
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I won't fill out your online survey, but you obviously have not worked with men and women together in the workplace. My co-workers are some of my best friends and I hold no sexual attraction to the females. I do hold them up to performance standards. Thankfully, I've gotten rid of some of my supervisory duties so I don't impact careers any more. Always hated that part. Love working for me with no one below for a change and no cut in pay.
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Endlesswave
I just mean a guy and girl can never be friends because they will always thing of the POSSIBILITY of getting "in their pants". It is that possibility that s things up. Even if they have a b/f the person will still be "friends" with that person and talk to them. They will be thinking of eventually having that certain "possibity" will be open and they'll get the chance to have sex. Dunno of I made sense, I'm at work, brain if fuzzy...lol
However...there are always exceptions to the "rule". Just the majority (I think) would feel the way I and others here mentioned. |
It's the "they" part that I have a problem with. Good grief...I don't want all of my male friends walking around thinking that they stand a chance at sleeping with me. Not gonna happen. I don't need to think it over...I know who I would and wouldn't sleep with.
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| DarkAngel |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
Ah...our protective FLTA! DA...this is Tranc3 that we're talking about. Haven't you learned by now not to take that seriously? I have!
Now...Orbax is a whole different issue! ;) |
I love Lani as a best friend. And yeah, sometimes I'm overprotective, but hey, I'm an idiot, what do you expect. :toothless But a CARING idiot. :haha:
Tranc3: Hope it didn't come across the wrong way. if I wanted to be a flame I would have but that was far from the objective I was seeking. I'm cool as long as you are....
....and as long as you don't use an OMGHI2U girlie pic as your avatar again. :nervous:
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| sym |
| quote: | Originally posted by PinkLights
Hrmm...I'm gonna beg to differ bro, even tho I have no arguement with ur post, b/c most of it is true. EXCEPT for the fact that u said "a guy and a girl can never be just friends". I guess that's the male perspective. But, I, myself, have PLENTY of male friends [who I haven't/dont have sex with] . Matter o fact that's all I hang with. I only have a couple of female friends and 1 whom i actually HANG OUT WITH almost 24/7...And we [speaking of the guys] are not just hang out buddies, we confide in eachother, and talk on personal levels about everything. Whether it be 1 on 1 [which in most personal cases it is], or as a whole. Now, on the other hand, I HAVE had sex with a guy friend, but it, IN NO WAY, ruined our relationship AS FRIENDS. We both understood it was a 1 time thing, and we were just helping eachother out.It hasn't effected our friendship AT ALL. It's almost as if nothing ever happened. So in response to your question/survey, Amber, yes, it IS possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends....And I did the survey ;) |
The point is, at some point, at some time one of the parties in the friendship has thought, or is thinking about the other in a sexual fashion. So, therefore the relationship can never be truely just friendly. Sex always comes into it in some way, shape or form. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by sym
The point is, at some point, at some time one of the parties in the friendship has thought, or is thinking about the other in a sexual fashion. So, therefore the relationship can never be truely just friendly. Sex always comes into it in some way, shape or form. |
So you can't be friends?
Does that make sense to you?
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| sym |
I think it's saying that the relationship is ultimately doomed since one person feels differently about the other. I haven't read the theory in awhile, so I may be wrong. I don't really agree that the relationship is ultimately doomed because of this fact, but I think that their is some validity to it.
In a relationship between a man and a woman, both being heterosexual, I would say it is in inevitable that one will eventually think of the other in a sexual fashion, which can lead to the downfall of a relationship. |
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| Jiffy |
I've not read ALL of the replies, but I'm going to go ahead and give my opinion on this subject. Sorry if it's been repeated...
Yes. Men and women can be friends. Just friends. But, here's the tricky part... I think that men and women can be "just friends" even if they have sex.
I had a best friend who I regularly had sexual relations with. We were only friends. It was nice to know that if I wanted to "get some" that I had someone to call that I was comfortable with, and it was safe.
I'm not saying that EVERYONE is capable of having this type of relationship, but it has worked for me in the past.
Unfortunately my best friend died last November, so, that kind of changes things. |
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| sym |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jiffy
I've not read ALL of the replies, but I'm going to go ahead and give my opinion on this subject. Sorry if it's been repeated...
Yes. Men and women can be friends. Just friends. But, here's the tricky part... I think that men and women can be "just friends" even if they have sex.
I had a best friend who I regularly had sexual relations with. We were only friends. It was nice to know that if I wanted to "get some" that I had someone to call that I was comfortable with, and it was safe.
I'm not saying that EVERYONE is capable of having this type of relationship, but it has worked for me in the past.
Unfortunately my best friend died last November, so, that kind of changes things. |
Wow, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine what its like to loss a best friend, and hope im never able to...
Your situation you had though sounds like it'd be great if you were able to maintain it. I'd love to have that arrangement going on... |
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| Jiffy |
| quote: | Originally posted by sym
Wow, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine what its like to loss a best friend, and hope im never able to...
Your situation you had though sounds like it'd be great if you were able to maintain it. I'd love to have that arrangement going on... |
Thanks for your condolences. (spelling sucks tonight. daggum beer)
Yeah, we had a great situation going on for about 2 and a half years. hehe.
I'd highly suggest it, if you're mature enough to know how to separate your emotions and your desires. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jiffy
I've not read ALL of the replies, but I'm going to go ahead and give my opinion on this subject. Sorry if it's been repeated...
Yes. Men and women can be friends. Just friends. But, here's the tricky part... I think that men and women can be "just friends" even if they have sex.
I had a best friend who I regularly had sexual relations with. We were only friends. It was nice to know that if I wanted to "get some" that I had someone to call that I was comfortable with, and it was safe.
I'm not saying that EVERYONE is capable of having this type of relationship, but it has worked for me in the past.
Unfortunately my best friend died last November, so, that kind of changes things. |
Finally! Thank you for your post! I agree with both things that you wrote. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. :(
I have known my best friend for 18 years. I'm still waiting for our relationship to be "doomed".
One of my male best friends passed away last September. He and I never slept together. Anyone on here that would belittle that friendship is a close minded . |
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| enferno |
The ladder theory proves that as a negative . .
and everyone knows the ladder theory is quite correct |
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