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| The17sss |
Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards.
Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently.
So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them.
You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know.
It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile?
Anyone else get where I'm coming from? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| It's amazing because there are certain developmental milestones one can expect as an infant ages. The presence or absence of certain reflexes is one major indicator early on, hence why every little movement or coo, or whatever the is so awesome and exciting to new parents. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
It's amazing because there are certain developmental milestones one can expect as an infant ages. The presence or absence of certain reflexes is one major indicator early on, hence why every little movement or coo, or whatever the is so awesome and exciting to new parents. |
It's even more bizarre for me when I see people who don't have kids to get all gooey around other peoples' kids. I'm a really emotional person too, which freaks me out in that I can't find emotion for babies and little kids. |
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| Akridrot |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards.
Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently.
So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them.
You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know.
It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile?
Anyone else get where I'm coming from? |
You friggin' , there was a study that said talking "goo goo gaga" to your baby was not as helpful as talking to it in plain english, because when you talk in plain english, the baby develops language skills faster.
I'm also pretty sure that you will be fascinated too when a baby human being comes out of your vagina (or penis). Not a cat, not a frog, not a moose, but another human being.
Have you no compassion? |
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| Renzo |
| Holy , were you raised by wolves? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
It's even more bizarre for me when I see people who don't have kids to get all gooey around other peoples' kids. I'm a really emotional person too, which freaks me out in that I can't find emotion for babies and little kids. |
Meh w/e. Kids aren't for everyone. |
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| Lebezniatnikov |
What's the difference between a Cadillac and a pile of dead babies?
the17sss doesn't have a Cadillac in his garage. :o |
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| Akridrot |
Wait. I've figured it out. The17sss is Rorshach. :wtf:
Seriously, think about it. Look at his ing title. :wtf: |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renzo
Holy , were you raised by wolves? |
:p This is my dilemma. I have a great family, loving parents, and so on... which gives all indications that I should be fine in that arena. I love my cats even though they don't really understand what I'm talking about, so maybe there's hope. |
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| Akridrot |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
:p This is my dilemma. I have a great family, loving parents, and so on... which gives all indications that I should be fine in that arena. I love my cats even though they don't really understand what I'm talking about, so maybe there's hope. |
Shut up, liar! You're a masked anti-hero. You don't have a family! |
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| woscar |
| You won't understand it until you have one of your own. ;) |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov
the17sss doesn't have a Cadillac in his garage. :o |
:haha: |
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