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What do you do if you have no goals in life? (pg. 9)
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| Domesticated |
| quote: | Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
No real interests and nothing that you seriously want to pursue or accomplish, no destinations or dreams in mind. No passions, no strong feelings about much of anything. No subject or field or endeavor that holds your enthusiasm for longer than a few days. What do you do if your life feels not all that bad or good, but simply like a rather boring, mediocre, and pointless dead end? |
If you can't afford to travel, go and join a sporting club or other society of some kind, even if it's as mainstream as a gym. As mundane as it may seem, go out and engage yourself in life and it will begin to seem interesting. Break the cycle of waking, wasting time on the internet, then going back to bed. Do something random with your friends like indoor rock climbing or a road trip to another city.
Also, as Fledz noted, telling yourself that you're happy actually works. Next time you go to a restaurant or fast-food outlet and the waiter asks in a monotone how you are , say "excellent, thank you for asking!" Their own reaction should also be interesting.
But yeah, travel is worthwhile. I've been backpacking for two months now and it's apparent to me just how many people do it for the sake of getting their heads on straight. I worked out the direction I wanted my lfe to move in quite some time ago, but many people find that the experience of travel gives them a new perspective. For someone like you, who appears to be quite introverted, I would guess that travelling and staying in hostels would do wonders for your social skills. I've never had a problem befriending strangers, but even the quietest mouse can't help but make friends travelling.
The only way to solve your problem is by helping yourself, as annoying as that may seem. You're clearly suffering from mild depression. A friend of mine has it quite badly, and he irritates me by refusing every social invitation I give on the grounds that he "can't be bothered," or that he might feel uncomfortable around certain people. Don't do this. Get out of the house as much as possible. |
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| zoogla |
| did someone say, "become a nurse" yet? |
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| Fledz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
Also, as Fledz noted, telling yourself that you're happy actually works. Next time you go to a restaurant or fast-food outlet and the waiter asks in a monotone how you are , say "excellent, thank you for asking!" Their own reaction should also be interesting.
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Actually yes, that's a good point. Receptionists in GPs offices are known as the "gatekeepers" in the pharmaceutical industry for a reason. It's amazing how many I can totally knock off their feet by just smiling and being incredibly friendly, especially when they aren't used to it. Positive actions by individuals result in positive actions by other individuals and consequently whole groups and communities. It's nothing that needs to be proven either, it just makes sense. |
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| Domesticated |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fledz
Actually yes, that's a good point. Receptionists in GPs offices are known as the "gatekeepers" in the pharmaceutical industry for a reason. It's amazing how many I can totally knock off their feet by just smiling and being incredibly friendly, especially when they aren't used to it. Positive actions by individuals result in positive actions by other individuals and consequently whole groups and communities. It's nothing that needs to be proven either, it just makes sense. |
People who abuse others to get their way make me laugh. If you're calling up your bank to fix a problem with your credit card, abusing the drone who answers isn't going to get you anywhere. It's just going to make them resent you.
If I needed someone to do something at work, my tactic was just to call them every hour and say "hey mate, I was just wondering how you were going with x?" Eventually the annoyance of me calling and being so polite all the time would become so great that they would just do what I wanted. |
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| Swamper |
I agree with the travelling sentiment -- it helps a lot to get out of your current environment/comfort zone/day-to-day monotony.
This thread actually has some decent replies... nice work c0r... now go listen to some more Trance. k thx bye |
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| enydo |
| I like Hal and Domesticated's advice. You can do it JiveBo, we believe! |
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| nefardec |
| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
People who abuse others to get their way make me laugh. If you're calling up your bank to fix a problem with your credit card, abusing the drone who answers isn't going to get you anywhere. It's just going to make them resent you.
If I needed someone to do something at work, my tactic was just to call them every hour and say "hey mate, I was just wondering how you were going with x?" Eventually the annoyance of me calling and being so polite all the time would become so great that they would just do what I wanted. |
i believe that's known as passive-agressive behavior |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
did someone say, "become a nurse" yet? |
You're a ing idiot. But it's good to see that after months of you being away, you're still butthurt by some I said that I probably didn't even mean.  |
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| woscar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
gloomy optimist. |
I'm stealing that one, by the way.
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