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FAO: married people or people living with their SO (pg. 8)
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
As a side note, did you know that's more beneficial for men to be married than it is for women? Married men show markedly better health than unmarried men, while there appears to be no difference for married women. Way to go you ing soul suckers. :mad: |
You'd have a much easier time of it if you'd quit hanging out with your bleeding-heart, feminazi friends and made me my ing sandwich. I don't like them puttin' those idears in your head, like that...
But, seriously, yes, I did know that.
Out of curiosity, what brought on this dour reflection of our gender? I had a girlfriend who took a women's studies class, in college, and everything I did was filtered through the lens imparted by that class. I would get sick and she'd start talking about how men expect to be babied by women when they're ill because that's how their mothers took care of them. While the relationship was a perfect match made in hell, I don't think that class did us any favors. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by EddieZilker
Out of curiosity, what brought on this dour reflection of our gender? I had a girlfriend who took a women's studies class, in college, and everything I did was filtered through the lens imparted by that class. I would get sick and she'd start talking about how men expect to be babied by women when they're ill because that's how their mothers took care of them. While the relationship was a perfect match made in hell, I don't think that class did us any favors. |
Lol, it really has nothing to do with feminism, and it's not my own reflection. The nature of this thread reminded me of the fact. |
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| Theresa |
Actual designated chores:
- He takes out recycling and garbage
- I do dishes
- We both do our own laundry (but I do all the household laundry like bedding, etc.)
We take turns with the bathroom, and he will vacuum if I ask him to, but more often than not, I end up vacuuming... cause I kinda like doing it. He is responsible for cleaning up his office area, and I am responsible for mine. Again, he will typically do it if I ask him to. He cleans off the stove top, and I clean off the counters (when I do dishes). We take turns making dinner which is usually based on how much work we have to do. If I have homework or an exam to study for, he will usually make dinner, otherwise, I will do it.
We aren't super fantastic at being the tidiest people, only because we're both very busy. With my working part-time and going to University, and him being a full-time high school teacher with lesson planning stuff to do, the 2 of us are almost always swamped. We're not completely disgusting though (we couldn't be... my OCD would go nuts).
Speaking of my OCD, I will often take on huge tasks, like I will "clean the kitchen". This will comprise of scrubbing out the oven, cleaning the fridge, washing out the microwave, wiping down the insides of the cupboards, scrubbing down all the cupboard doors, wiping off the counter tops, and mopping the floor. This can literally take 6-8 hours to do because I will work on it until I am satisfied that there isn't any dirt whatsoever. Hell, cleaning out the oven is a one hour task by itself. This doesn't happen too often though, thankfully. Just when I am suddenly feeling both OCD, energetic, bored and particularly 'nesty'.
We agreed that once I am done school and am working full-time, we will get a maid to come in twice a week to do some of the things we don't like doing, and to help us out. We'll both be stupid busy, and if we're making a nice chunk of cash, we might as well get some help. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by EddieZilker
I would get sick and she'd start talking about how men expect to be babied by women when they're ill because that's how their mothers took care of them. |
LMAO!! This is so true though. I have not met a man who doesn't turn into a big baby when he is sick, and wont happily allow you to wait on him hand and foot. I think that the men who are exceptions to this rule are few and far between. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Aside from the elderly, I think most people like to be "babied" when they're sick. |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Aside from the elderly, I think most people like to be "babied" when they're sick. |
I read that as " Aside from the elderly, I DON'T think most..." and I was like WHAT?!
Yea, it's true... I certainly like to feel like I am being taken care of when I am sick. |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Lol, it really has nothing to do with feminism, and it's not my own reflection. The nature of this thread reminded me of the fact. |
Well, now my day is ruined. I had a whole series of posts already worked out that would allow me to discharge my latent hostility I keep sublimated with a nice-sensitive-new-aged-guy veil, but if you're not going to be baited into a fairly one-sided argument where I'll invariably come off as a complete , while you add another nic-switching idiot to the grave-yard of morons who make new accounts on this board in order to overcome their previously self-made traumatic experiences, why should I even bother?
:rolleyes:
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| UWM |
| Laundry is split amongst us depending on who it belongs to. I generally do a lot more cleaning and do the dishes most of the time, as well as "fix-it" stuff. I pretty much do everything, but only because it really bothers me when is messy even for a little while. |
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| MGT |
A feminist with a sexual exploitation of female gender as an avatar: men are evil and lesbianism is good. Marriage is only beneficial to men, not women? Oh brother...
As for the topic of this thread, we don't break it down to mine vs hers; we each do whatever we can together or individually if either of us is not around because we care for/about each other and love each other very much. I guess it depends on the couple: some are not as aligned in their philosophy so there needs to be rules and boundaries, while others like ours who complete each other's sentences don't need to stipulate things like chores. In fact, doing so would only make our marriage worse like treating each other as college roommates instead of soulmates. Well, that's how she and I think on this subject anyways. |
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| Silky Johnson |
I'm not a feminist, and I didn't say that coming from a feminist perspective. The "way to go" part was a joke. Lol.
In terms of health, it's a FACT that married men have better overall health than unmarried men. For women, it makes no difference. |
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