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Should Lira wear sneakers to weddings? (pg. 5)
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
I don't get this bit either. It's not like the people whose weddings I did/do this care about it anyway.
Like I said before, if it's someone I don't know, or someone who I know is a control freak, then I bite the bullet and wear formal shoes... though, God, I hate them so much... |
The fact that you think showing people respect requires you to "bite the bullet" really casts you as a self-centred prick... and it pains me to say that because I quite like you. |
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| igottaknow |
Lira, I forgot if you answered why you want to wear sneakers. Do formal shoes hurt your feet or are you making an anti establishment declaration?
I was reading this somewhere do you guys still do this because I think it a nice tradition:
Another interesting custom of Brazil is that the groom has to tame an unbridled donkey to prove his worth as a responsible husband. This custom is known as Bumba- Meu- Boi. If he successfully manages to complete his task he his declared suitable to marry the daughter of the man who owned the donkey |
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| Lira |
IGK, this only happens in very remote regions of the Amazon rainforest :p
(And it's because my feet hurt, so to speak)
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
The fact that you think showing people respect requires you to "bite the bullet" really casts you as a self-centred prick... and it pains me to say that because I quite like you. |
No, I said "bite the bullet" because of the shoes, not because of respect! I wouldn't say I have to "bite the bullet" and wear a suit, for example :conf: |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
IGK, this only happens in very remote regions of the Amazon rainforest :p
(And it's because my feet hurt, so to speak)
No, I said "bite the bullet" because of the shoes, not because of respect! I wouldn't say I have to "bite the bullet" and wear a suit, for example :conf: |
Dude, get good shoes. Honestly, if you don't wear them often they last forever and decent dress shoes are more comfortable then sneakers. Whether you're choosing your comfort or self-expression you're still declaring that you are more important then the event and/or those hosting it on one of the most meaningful days of their lives. It's disrespectful; plain and simple. |
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| euphoria |
http://flypaper.bluefly.com/archive...ith-a-suit.html
Conforming to social norms is what strips peoples uniqueness. Be yourself, choose your own style...if they can't accept you for who you are then who needs them anyway.
Back to the age old argument, would you jump off a bridge because "everyone else" is doing it? Hopefully not... then you shouldn't have to wear dress shoes either just because everyone else is doing it.
You may look a little out of place, but who cares. At least you showed up and anyone who is a real friend will feel that's the only part that matters. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
IGK, this only happens in very remote regions of the Amazon rainforest :p |
lol
| quote: | | (And it's because my feet hurt, so to speak) |
My feet hurt too but I love these shoes. Timberland Madison Summit, they're built like a sneaker on the inside and look formal enough on the outside.
Dr. Martins are also an option. If my feet didn't bother me I'd love to wear nice formal shoes with leather soles. |
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| Ania_xox |
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| Ania_xox |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I would be insulted because it is a formal event thereby requiring formal attire, which is an expression of the importance placed upon the event. Choosing to express one's "style" over demonstrating a respect for the importance of the event being celebrated is a declaration that one deems whatever they are trying to express through their style (usually, hey look at how cool I am; I don't care about social convention) is more important then the event itself. Lira is telling people that expressing how unconventional he is takes greater importance than showing the people (he presumably cares about) that he appreciates and understands the importance they place on their marriage... If someone told me that their self expression were more important then respecting me on one of the most important days of my life I would be personally insulted. Essentially, Lira is poking them in the eye. |
Pretty much what I thought. It had nothing to do with comfort, but rather with your expectation for people to adhere to certain conventions in terms of apparel.
I don't disagree with you btw ( Sorry Marcus :( ) |
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| Lira |
IGK: Now I have to side with Egos for a while. Do you know how often I have to wear formal shoes? Once, maybe twice in a leap year because of the extra day. Those shoes cost a quarter of my current monthly income (I'm currently during a poor period of my life :p) and though, as Jenny put it, maybe I can find a better price and a cheaper brand, but I really lack the arsedness to buy yet another pair of shoes when I already own one (I studied in military school and had to wear them every single day) and it still fits.
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
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Actually, I'm pretty much against women wearing high heels just for the sake of it. Even with gala dresses, women do look better with trainers. For example, here's Sarah Silverman (a comedian, I know):
And some girls I don't know:
I bet that's a more comfortable footwear than any pair of high heels money can buy. And they look cuter too. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
It's disrespectful; plain and simple. |
What if the bride herself expects me to wear them? And she even invited me as a groomsman, so I really don't think she minds. Still disrespectful? |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
What if the bride herself expects me to wear them? And she even invited me as a groomsman, so I really don't think she minds. Still disrespectful? |
And if she said it be ok to wear flip flops you would too? Stop trying to put this on her. Those pics of the models with sneakers are just awful. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
And if she said it be ok to wear flip flops you would too? Stop trying to put this on her. |
No, because I want to wear converse shoes, not flip flops. And she gave me permission to do it :conf:
It's not about her. As a matter of fact, I'm just stating that she's indifferent to the nature of my footwear (it's not like she's going to be heartbroken if I show up with ordinary formal shoes). |
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