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Should Lira wear sneakers to weddings? (pg. 9)
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| SYSTEM-J |
I think a little context is required here. Lira, I've got a couple of questions:
1. What is your relationship with the bride and groom? How well do they know you, and you know them?
2. Did you know in advance that they are kind of people who are very relaxed about social conventions?
The reason I ask is that while I personally don't think you did much wrong, I understand the point others are making that you could have risked offending the bride and groom (and/or their family members). Granted you found out afterwards that you didn't offend them, but what's more important is whether you took that risk. I would be happy for people to come to my wedding dressed however they want, because the day isn't about the dress code. However, I have friends who I know are strict adherents to social convention, and I would never risk upsetting them by not wearing shoes to a formal occasion.
If these people are relatively close to you and you were completely confident that they wouldn't mind before you did it, I don't think you were acting out of line at all. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by nefardec
hipster hitler would launch an assault on your try-hardness |
yeah but even he wears shoes
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| Sphere City |
| no he should wear a strap on and a leather daddy jacket |
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| malek |
if I wore sneakers at my brothers wedding or anyone close, I'm pretty sure he'd cut me off for a while.
What a slap to the face for the bride and groom and lack of (self) respect. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
1. What is your relationship with the bride and groom? How well do they know you, and you know them? |
The bride's been one of my best mates and confidants during this time my fiancée's been away, and I've been the same to her, reason why she asked me to be her groomsman: I pretty much watched the whole relationship unfold because we used to hang out nearly every other day. She knows me very well (and vice-versa), I'd say, and we're quite open with one another.
And the groom is some bloke named "Mr. War". No kidding, thought that's completely irrelevant...
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
2. Did you know in advance that they are kind of people who are very relaxed about social conventions? |
Sort of. Like I said, we know each other quite well... and, despite our good relations, I decided to take the safe route and ask her beforehand because of the commotion caused by the picture I posted from a previous wedding (from a childhood friend): And, like I said, she expected no less from me. She knows me pretty much everything about me, and that includes my fashion sense (or lack thereof).
She's very open about the things that bother her in our relationship and the reason why I'm not exactly worried is because if she minded it, she would most definitely tell me about it (though I must say this thread is becoming distressing already now that the novelty wore off).
I'm tired already, this is like trying to rationalise why I wear plaid shirts or why I decided to get myself pierced... can we stop this already? |
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| Sphere City |
| why not wear a pair of leathers? is it really that hard? cmon man pull ur finger out of ur arse :toothless |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sphere City
why not wear a pair of leathers? is it really that hard? cmon man pull ur finger out of ur arse :toothless |
You know, I swear that if this thread goes any ing longer, I'm going to wear a ing pair of whatever the it is you want me to wear as long as pipe the down and leave me the alone.
You know what's hilarious? I've been posting here since day one defending tolerance and understand and lofty ideals like letting others do whatever they see fit as long as no one is harmed. I've been tolerant towards everyone (or nearly everyone, I still make fun of conspiracy theorists every now and then) and I've even preached in defence of those whose ideas I can't agree with. However, once I do something as harmless as choosing a pair of shoes I like because I think it looks good and I know the people around me won't care, suddenly there's a collective fit.
This Saturday I'm going to turn 28 and, up until now, I never said this to anyone in my entire life... but I'm knackered, I've been pulling one all-nighter after another, and I can't put up with this any more.
Go yourselves!
If anyone tried too hard to do something here, it's the fashion brigade who tried to... I know what your goal is. Whatever it is, mission accomplished, now leave me alone. |
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| Meat187 |
Holy , you guys managed to troll Lira! :wtf: :wtf: :wtf: :stongue: :nervous:
I've tried in vain for years. :o |
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| LinX |
| you lazy , just put some dress shoes on. if its that uncomfortable for your body to handle (lmao) then don't go at all. How old are you? |
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| igottaknow |
FLAWLESS VICTORY!
:p Sorry, these things once they get started have a momentum of their own and don't stop until they reach their conclusion. You know we still love you. |
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| ziptnf |
| Woah, Lira, chill out. This is what happens when you don't have a collectively unanimous agreement on an issue related to you? That's kinda weak, dude, grow a pair. |
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