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Life lessons: The struggle, or lack thereof (pg. 4)
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| Silky Johnson |
So, what you're saying is it depends on the individual? Like I've already been saying? Thanks for that.
Besides, most 20 year olds are not totally career driven. Developmentally that's just not where people in that age group's heads are at. But I bet you had drive in and of itself, no?
Of course your attitude changed, but clearly you were already equipped with the mind to recognize and appreciate your circumstances.
Yeah of course people can change, but for the most part not really, lol. Certainly the worst culprits need a lot more help gaining insight and making changes than others. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
Of course your attitude changed, but clearly you were already equipped with the mind to recognize and appreciate your circumstances. |
But that's the point. The challenges people face in adult life can determine the way their latent character manifests. I might have had the latent character to achieve, which is partially down to upbringing, but without the catalyst of challenging life experiences I would probably have gone on listlessly for much longer. I really didn't have any drive at all. I was totally lacking any work ethic or dedication. |
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| Silky Johnson |
"Latent character" implies that those skills would have been taught at some point much earlier in a person's life, which again is exactly what I've been saying. People are not born with character, it is learned.
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
We're talking about adult children, yes? Because ultimately none of this matters based on that. Whatever life lessons they need/needed to learn should have been ingrained (or not) in them already. They aren't just magically going to learn life skills now. Constructive habits and good decision making are things that need to be taught from early childhood. |
Is it that difficult for you to agree with any point you haven't made yourself/made first? Good lord. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Silky Johnson
"Latent character" implies that those skills would have been taught at some point much earlier in a person's life |
No ing . Now try figuring out what the whole sentence implies.
EDIT: And here's a tip, because I can already see how your tediously repetitive response is shaping up. Endlessly re-emphasising the platitudinous truism in your assertion (A person's character in adulthood is heavily determined by their upbringing) does not validate the more tenuous corollary (therefore life experiences gained as an adult do not significantly change someone's mindset). |
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| Silky Johnson |
| God you're exhausting. :rolleyes: |
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| Jon_Snow |
Ah the latent chicken or egg theory
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| OrangestO |
It's harder than wiring a computer with sticky fingers, but people can change.
I've changed in the last few years (other people's observations). I've witnessed many others do it, too.
I just hate the notion people have that others can't change. How obtuse.
I guess it depends on one's potential, persistence and how much change is possible for the so-called better.
I had a lot of work to do - still do - but yea, change is definitely possible. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| Why is it that all animals except humans are happy with who they are. We must change who we are if that is even possible. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
Why is it that all animals except humans are happy with who they are. We must change who we are if that is even possible. |
I swear, you get stupider with every nugget of "wisdom" you attempt to impart. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by planetaryplayer
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| sensorium |
An important factor here is money. It's a great cushion and some people will never give that comfort up. Even when they reach adulthood, they leave to their new places but in the back of their minds they still know mommy and daddy will help if they ever get in trouble. It's not an authentic scenario and will not promote independence.
The age itself is not necessarily a factor to facilitate authentic life lessons.
It depends on what other factors are being considered and who is being compared to who. The sad thing here that very specific circles have that cushion for generations and don't need life lessons. It's certainly a kick in the nuts when this entitled group gets away with stuff which would otherwise provide a life lesson to a 'normal' person. |
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