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Life lessons: The struggle, or lack thereof (pg. 8)
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| Zharen |
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
Where is the lesson? Jesus Christ. |
I thought that was self-explanatory, but ok. Hard work, perseverance and self-confidence can often pay off along with a well-thought out plan and a modest budget. If you believe in yourself and put in the time, good things can and will happen, cliché as it sounds.
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
I can do that, sure, but my point is not whether I can, or you can, or we can. What I struggle with is "should i", "should we". And everyday that goes by I come closer to no. Until I will eventually be homeless. And that's ok. I know how to make a fire and I can kill a deer. |
Reading that reply reminds me of where I was at 6-7 years ago. I was unemployed, I spent all my money escaping through parties and events, I lost sight of myself, started asking myself all the wrong questions, "should I even bother trying again?" etc
I can tell you, when Life gets you down it's easy to go blaming everyone else, screaming about how the world should be like this and how it should be like that. But it isn't. You have to learn to adapt to an ever changing world, the world doesn't have to adapt to you. It's easy to feel overwhelmed, to have your self-worth plummet, dreading the day you’re kicked out on the street, I know this feeling all too well. And as terrifying as that is, in order to progress you have to learn how to silence these thoughts. Turn off the panic and frustration, learn to center yourself, be able to think more assertively. When you’re able to do that, the answers will come, not all at once, but piecemeal. A plan will come to surface, but regardless of what plan enters your mind, hard work and sacrifice will be required on your part. There’s just no way around it. You’ll have to learn how to balance your time, your work, your money and your relationships. You may not get it all right at first but as long as you learn from your mistakes you will move forward. But it all starts with formulating that plan and discovering what it is you want and how to get there. Or you can choose to wait, wait until the world finally comes around to cater towards your every need. I can tell you one thing, you’ll be waiting a very long time for that to happen. I’m glad I didn’t choose to wait. Even if I'm still far away from my dream job and house, at least now I'm in a much better position than I was then. The future doesn't seem so bleak anymore, no more "should I?" "Yes, you can."
As for the last part of my other reply, I was merely being facetious. :p ;) |
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| wotyzoid |
| Lol there is no panic. That's nice and all but that sounds more like an apology if anything. You don't have to apologize to me for the way the world is. All the things you're telling me I've heard numerous times before, but you have no knowledge of my experiences so its just vapid psychobabble, and you're right, it is cliche, and you don't know if it will really happen. What may have worked for you will not necessarily work for someone else. So I'm sorry to have to tell you youre only speaking for yourself at this point. |
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| Zharen |
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
Lol there is no panic. That's nice and all but that sounds more like an apology if anything. You don't have to apologize to me for the way the world is. All the things you're telling me I've heard numerous times before, but you have no knowledge of my experiences so its just vapid psychobabble, and you're right, it is cliche, and you don't know if it will really happen. What may have worked for you will not necessarily work for someone else. So I'm sorry to have to tell you youre only speaking for yourself at this point. |
Yeah, I was stubborn and wouldn't listen to reasonable advice. "What worked for you won't work for me..." Yeah you're right. I said that to others too, in that same smug and dyspeptic manner you're giving me. Unfortunately, that attitude won't get you anywhere either. |
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| wotyzoid |
| I think smugness is telling someone they have to adapt when you have all the cards in your hand already, no? |
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| Zharen |
Oh, I don't have all the cards in my hand yet, maybe half for now. But with each card I do earn, it feels like a small piece of my own life puzzle falls into place and reveals itself. One of the most empowering things in this world is finding out who you really are.
And you're right, I don't know you all that well, but I've seen you post on TA for a long time. You used to be very cheery and enthuastic, you'd joke around with the others and sometimes use that humor to diffuse the situation when other members argued. And your passion for electronic music has made you quite informed overall on the genre, even if others on here don't always agree with what you like. I remember you mentioned Paolo Mojo in my Balance thread. I had completely written that mix off back in the day after only a few listens, but I revisited it thanks to that recommendation, and have changed my mind completely on it. I don't know what happened that made you lose that part of you, if the elitsts finally wore you down or the world has put you through too much but you're going to need to get back in touch with that side once you're ready to face the trials of your life. That may not make any sense now, but it will one day. I hope you make it, I don't have anything against you, and I've certainly had my own fights with other TA's over the years to know who's good and who's a total piece of . |
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| planetaryplayer |
| harambe king of gorilla fell before the foot of man. all our lives are in jeopardy, possibly double jeopardy unless we make contact with the reptilians living underground. we must first build fortresses on the mountains |
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| planetaryplayer |
| the best thing to do when struggling is to bottle up nose bleed blood and sell it to the sick |
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| planetaryplayer |
| i want to make a conscious effort to be 2017 TA most psycho |
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| Mr.Mystery |
| quote: | Originally posted by planetaryplayer
i want to make a conscious effort to be 2017 TA most psycho |
Conscious efforts don't count. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
i totally get the not-wanting-to-work thing. i'd retire yesterday if i could afford to. what i don't get is someone on a forum dedicated to popular culture thinking it's OK to be homeless/dirt poor. that makes no sense to me. costs money, yo. even a rampant pirate needs a computer, an ISP and preferably a device with which to enjoy said culture.
| quote: | Originally posted by SYSTEM-J
I don't even think refusing to work is selfish as such, because it's its own punishment. Living on benefits is ing rough. It's a miserable existence, and it's only one calamity away from homelessness. |
yep. i mock poor people coz i'm a cunt etc, but having been inside too many of their homes and being over-powered by the stench of poverty, it's pretty ing depressing. it's also slightly amazing how so many different peasants have the exact same stench going on. it's like being hit in the face with the Poo Bat. if they invite you in, it's always a "no, we're ok out here...in the storm, holding tall iron rods, thanks". |
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| wotyzoid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zharen
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Thanks for the kind words.
PKC, you genius, I didn't mean I'm OK with homelessness, but if it happened to me I'd be ok, not with being A homeless, but just being homeless. It's not something I'm concerned about, I'm more concerned why other people are homeless and I'm not OK with that at all. I know its a tough logic to follow but hang on there, flip. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
PKC, you genius, I didn't mean I'm OK with homelessness... |
where did i state that you were, cretin? what is your ing problem with understanding basic ing english? how do you misconstrue such simple, unambiguous sentences?
| quote: | Originally posted by wotyzoid
but if it happened to me I'd be ok... |
ding ding ding! the point i was noting, einstein. someone who enjoys music enough to join and participate on an obscure internet forum, who apparently doesn't care if they're destitute, despite the fact that said music and associated entertainment have a price on entry.
did you need me to say it a third time? |
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