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Why do nice guys always finish last? (pg. 12)
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| dj_moonshine |
| quote: | Originally posted by loulou
Ok my question to the nice guys is this, are you concerned that you don't have a relationship or that your not getting laid as much as the s do? What is it that you want really? Sex or a relationship? |
well for me it doesnt matter both ways. i mean to say that i like both, realtionships or sex. i would say i would go with watever way the girl choses. i hope she choses sex, lol, j/k. but honestly it doesnt matter to me, im ok with both sides. |
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| mezzir |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_moonshine
well for me it doesnt matter both ways. i mean to say that i like both, realtionships or sex. i would say i would go with watever way the girl choses. i hope she choses sex, lol, j/k. but honestly it doesnt matter to me, im ok with both sides. |
damn you're convincing :p
i'd say relationships are more of a priority for me
for sex you can always find a 'friend with benefits' or even just have a date with palmerella/handelina/etc.
relationships...well you really can't get that feeling anywhere else, and it lasts a lot longer than sex does when you really feel it
like you can have a great friend and feel great w/ them but there's something about having a girlfriend that makes it so much more special |
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| Psychonoise |
| well a girl who i like got another guy who looks like a lego and play in a rock band instead of me...only cause he sing "i love u" haha.... |
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| ))the source(( |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
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ALL women are ed in the head. They have terrible self-esteem no matter how good looking they are, and they are all looking for some to prove to her that shes right. thats it. its that simple. |
I have excellent self-esteem. |
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| mezzir |
| quote: | Originally posted by Psychonoise
well a girl who i like got another guy who looks like a lego and play in a rock band instead of me...only cause he sing "i love u" haha.... |
learn to play like 4 chords and memorize 'I wanna grow old with you' by Adam Sandler
i mean it worked on drew barrymore, it'd work on her!
and if it doesn't...well then go find drew barrymore i guess
there's always a chance it'll work again |
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| hadi burpee |
| quote: | Originally posted by matt_a
WHY?
Especially with chicks! |
probably because they are not confident and let women walk all over them, i dont think girls like that |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by ))the source((
I have excellent self-esteem. |
Is that why you're so friendly? :p |
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| Echo of Silence |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
:haha: If we do that, we are branded "sluts" and behind our backs for years people say "all she wanted was sex", and no matter what you say, no matter how you try to explain, you can't tarnish that reputation. I've done that a few times, and now I have to live with that sort of a reputation, which isn't true.
Sometimes feelings get the better of you and you make a move when you shouldn't, or suggest something that would have been better left unsaid. But once the coffee is spilled on the carpet, it's spilled. You can't take it back, there's nothing you can do about it. |
When I'm interested in a guy, I make the first move and I have never and will never be branded a slut, no one will ever say "all she wants is sex," and my reputation is unblemished. Girls don't get branded a slut just for making the first move. So if you have been branded a slut, I'd say look a little harder at your behaviour and your actions.
When I spill coffee on the carpet, I apologize and clean it up. I don't ignore it and let it stain the carpet. I don't pretend I didn't do it. Of course, I can't put the coffee back in the cup, but if I make a mistake, I deal with it.
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
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ALL women are ed in the head. They have terrible self-esteem no matter how good looking they are, and they are all looking for some to prove to her that shes right. thats it. its that simple. |
nooooooooooope. You're wrong. But I still like you. ;)
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Cherish and Respect |
Two of my favourite words...
Took me a while to understand what they mean and how to cherish, how to respect or more importantly, be respectful of someone I care about.
Good thread; who revived this? Whiskers? I enjoyed reading the posts. You guys are great. :) |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by ))the source((
I have excellent self-esteem. |
sure you do, hon |
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| Abject Silver |
unfortunately, to everyone's dismay, orbax is pretty much right. props to you for that, big guy.
i like how someone mentioned about talking. see, it's like a progression in developed states. you don't have this kind of bull in cambodia or kazakhstan. only in 'civilized,' first-world countries.
it used to be in the past that the grandfather would take the children to the beach and just talk and walk. they would stay with the grandparents and learn from them, an in turn gain wisdom, gain common sense, gain that little bit of something that we just don't get today.
why don't we get it? because both parents work, send the kids to daycare where they learn paint-by-numbers, barely ever spend any time together (eventually leading to the inevitable divorce), and send *their* parents to a rest home where the old-timers are pumped full of morphine and propoxyphene.
the end result? kids grow up with intellect, but no guidance. no ethics, no morals, no honor, and no sense of family (let alone direction in life. because as they say 'wander if you must, but come home when you're done.' most people don't even know where 'home' is.).
a brief lamentation for tomorrow. *shrug*
i'm never letting my kids grow up like this. |
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by Echo of Silence
When I'm interested in a guy, I make the first move and I have never and will never be branded a slut, no one will ever say "all she wants is sex," and my reputation is unblemished. Girls don't get branded a slut just for making the first move. So if you have been branded a slut, I'd say look a little harder at your behaviour and your actions. |
You don't live where I live, my dear. You didn't grow up with my family. To even *speak* to a guy first, is considered offensive in my family. As much as I get along with everyone on the computer, I'm quite shy in person. Though, my sarcasm is quite a dosage stronger in person. Ask Arturo, I didn't hear the end of it for weeks about how shy I was in person. :p
Hmm, perhaps I worded a tad incorrectly. I was talking about making references to sexual activity. For example- Sex would be brought up at work. I would agree that I thuroughly enjoy it, that it's fantastic, and that I used to have sex up to eight times a day. (Granted, everyone knows that story on TA) A couple weeks later, someone is shocked to find out I've only slept with one person. They had assumed that it had been many more, simply because I said that I enjoyed sex and I used to have it often.
My family is somewhat old fashioned. Maybe everyone doesn't think of me particularly as a slut, but in my head I go over and over to myself on how I should have just waited for him to make the move, so as not to seem so pushy.
I haven't done anything per say that would make me a slut. I just like sex. I like to talk about sex. A lot. So, everyone assumes that I've been around.
I don't need to look a little harder at my behaviour or actions. It is simply associated now a days that if you enjoy sex, and you like to talk about it- you must have slept with a lot of people. If you joke about it openly, you must have too much experience.
I flirt, yes, with guys I like. But what girl doesn't? However, I get all blushed and fumble with words if actually addressed to by a guy I truly like. Sometimes I think I might be truly horrible at this whole "flirting" thing, simply because I'm so insecure. Especially about my looks.
Plus, I work in a club. If you work in a club in Florida, it almost equals automatically being a slut. That's why so many people tell me I don't belong working there, and I suppose that's why I A)don't sell shots anymore, and B)filed a sexual harrassment claim.
| quote: | | When I spill coffee on the carpet, I apologize and clean it up. I don't ignore it and let it stain the carpet. I don't pretend I didn't do it. Of course, I can't put the coffee back in the cup, but if I make a mistake, I deal with it. |
It's a saying from Poland. It's not meant to be taken out of context. It's saying "What's done is done. You cannot change the past."
I definetely agree that women are ed up in the head Walker. With what I see going on, and the manipulation that girls do (I admit, I've even found myself to do unintentionally once or twice, but once called to it, I saw) is amazing. But that's not to say guys don't do it. Or they aren't worse.
The manipulation from guys is amazing. That's why females just don't believe the nice guys anymore. We know there's a prick in there somewhere, waiting to come out and play.
Guys are given a bad name as are girls. It's the habit of life. Guys and Girls will never understand each other, it's the same principle as some girls will never get along no matter what, some guys will never get along no matter what.
Maybe if this world would stop worrying about labels on people (myself included) we wouldn't have so many insecurity problems. But the fact of the matter is we won't. Just like the first wound inflicted on your heart will never fade away, and the naive and trusting person you once were, you will never become again.
Sad, but true. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
The manipulation from guys is amazing. That's why females just don't believe the nice guys anymore. We know there's a prick in there somewhere, waiting to come out and play. |
Not sure if I'm buying that one. I'll be the first to admit that lots of guys are pricks, but the nice guys generally only turn into pricks after being treated like , which I suppose happens quite often.
But, hey, what do I know, I guess I'm a prick deep down too.
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