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Why do nice guys always finish last? (pg. 13)
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Not sure if I'm buying that one. I'll be the first to admit that lots of guys are pricks, but the nice guys generally only turn into pricks after being treated like , which I suppose happens quite often.
But, hey, what do I know, I guess I'm a prick deep down too.
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The manipulation I've encountered is enough to ward me away from trusting people.
A seemingly nice guy comes your way. He works as a manager, likes the same things you do, spends every night at your house, meeting your parents, comes over on his breaks from work to spend time with you, calls constantly.... who would have known he was ing your best friend behind your back the whole time? Sounds like manipulation to me.
Perfect guy with a perfect job, family, education, life, sense of humour, loves trance (in fact got you into it), marries someone three weeks after you break up. Something had to be going on the whole time. Sounds like manipulation to get what he wanted since the other girl was across the country.
A friend of yours begins to stalk you in an attempt to get you to pay more attention to him. ed up manipulation, but it is.
Guys approach you at work, constantly trying to hit on you, trying to get you in the sack. You say no, suddenly, they're calling you a bitch and hitting on some other girl.
A guy is perfect and sweet and tender and nice. As soon as you say "no" to sex, he turns bastard and shoves you into a door, bruising almost your whole back.
Sounds like I've met enough pricks in my lifetime. Not including my friends manipulative boyfriends that stole all their time and money.
Not only girls manipulate. It's guys too.
*edit* whoops, I forgot to add the drug addict ex boyfriend, the boy who dated you for a few months then sent his girlfriend to your work to tell you they got back together, my best friends boyfriend who pulled a gun on her because of how insanely jealous he was, the friends brother who was ing her best friend even though he was engaged because his girlfriends in another state (mind you, he's 10 years older)..... Oh, I could go on. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
The manipulation I've encountered is enough to ward me away from trusting people.
A seemingly nice guy comes your way. He works as a manager, likes the same things you do, spends every night at your house, meeting your parents, comes over on his breaks from work to spend time with you, calls constantly.... who would have known he was ing your best friend behind your back the whole time? Sounds like manipulation to me.
Perfect guy with a perfect job, family, education, life, sense of humour, loves trance (in fact got you into it), marries someone three weeks after you break up. Something had to be going on the whole time. Sounds like manipulation to get what he wanted since the other girl was across the country.
A friend of yours begins to stalk you in an attempt to get you to pay more attention to him. ed up manipulation, but it is.
Guys approach you at work, constantly trying to hit on you, trying to get you in the sack. You say no, suddenly, they're calling you a bitch and hitting on some other girl.
A guy is perfect and sweet and tender and nice. As soon as you say "no" to sex, he turns bastard and shoves you into a door, bruising almost your whole back.
Sounds like I've met enough pricks in my lifetime. Not including my friends manipulative boyfriends that stole all their time and money.
Not only girls manipulate. It's guys too. |
Well, there's two sides to every story. Honestly, it sounds like you've got either ty luck or bad taste, because I've never even heard of these things in my social circles. And I know some real s, but even they would never do those kinds of things.
But personal experience aside, one should be able to tell the difference between someone who's nice and someone who's only pretending to be.
I've had other friends whine about how their guys or girls used to be nice, and more often than not, discovered that these people were never that "nice" in the first place. Physical attraction clouds judgment so easily.
I guess insincerity is one of those things that takes a bit of practice to recognize. Nevertheless, seeing that same person with someone else and seeing how happy that person is, is usually the kick in the ass which shows how sincere they *were*, except by then it's too late.
One of those catch-22's.
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Well, there's two sides to every story. Honestly, it sounds like you've got either ty luck or bad taste, because I've never even heard of these things in my social circles. |
I think both! :stongue: I just suck at choosing my boys. And when I do choose them, I push them away in fear.
| quote: | And I know some real s, but even they would never do those kinds of things.
But personal experience aside, one should be able to tell the difference between someone who's nice and someone who's only pretending to be. |
Should, but doesn't mean you can.
| quote: | | I've had other friends whine about how their guys or girls used to be nice, and more often than not, discovered that these people were never that "nice" in the first place. Physical attraction clouds judgment so easily. |
It's not always just physical attraction....
| quote: | I guess insincerity is one of those things that takes a bit of practice to recognize. Nevertheless, seeing that same person with someone else and seeing how happy that person is, is usually the kick in the ass which shows how sincere they *were*, except by then it's too late.
One of those catch-22's. |
It took me five times to read that before I actually read and understood it. Damn I'm tired.
Unfortunately, that's how things are. One day though, we'll meet someone that makes us forget all of our insecurities and doubts and they will prove to be everything we want them to be, and we'll know that's who we're meant to be with forever after. *That would be my uber romantic hopeful side coming out to play* |
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| DaveSaenz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Psychonoise
well a girl who i like got another guy who looks like a lego |
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| AnotherWay83 |
it all depends. im the kinda guy that hits on at least 4-5 different women everyday at school, and i've learned sum valuable things.
first off: nice guys, dont fret. there are PLENTY of hot women that like nice guys, and do not need an to feel secure. in fact some of the nicest women i met were also some of the goddamn hottest girls on the whole campus, i kid you not. and some of the bitchiest women with the most attitude were not even all that hot. so dont lose hope. just remember to keep your self-respect always, nothing is more important than that.
and if u're looking for hot+NICE women then i would suggest going for women in their mid-20s or above. as Orbax already pointed out (great posts btw, Orbax) by the time these women hit their mid-20s they've realized that in the long run its the nice guys they really wanna have around them, not the s. they're also a LOT more mature and are over that whole bull game-playing episode that so many younger women enjoy, so you dont have to feel afraid of expressing your feelings to them. |
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| politicsofdancin |
hmmm..isn't this thread like 200 years old? :rolleyes:
time to die |
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| PHALPAX |
| Nice guys don't always finish last...at least the smart ones don't. :) |
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| Taz |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
*shrug* It's the same thing like asking "Why do nice girls finish last?" |
Well I've noticed two types of "nice girls", i.e. the ones who:
a) When amongst a group of friends at a party, just stand there smiling blankly and don't say a single word the entire time
b) Guys you know this type: The plainly-dressed ones on the subway or at the library who glance at you quickly with a (usually unintended) dirty look, hastily look down, clear their throats, adjust their glasses and continue reading a magazine.
Much profit has been made to pair up he-loners with she-loners...:D |
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| DaveSaenz |
There's always lego women (some people seem to be into that):
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| montie |
| quote: | Originally posted by DaveSaenz
There's always lego women (some people seem to be into that):
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haha thats awsome
i'd make that my avatar if i weren't so lazy |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by politicsofdancin
hmmm..isn't this thread like 200 years old? :rolleyes:
time to die |
arent YOU like 200 years old? :rolleyes: |
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| Orbax |
| Its hopeless. Every just get your tubes tied and go have sex. |
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