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Should the guy pay for the date? (pg. 9)
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by naesean3
this religious go forth and procreate/we must give birth as to increase our numbers diatribe......may have held more truth when you have a few million or so people around 2000 years ago........now we have expanded/procreated/extended life to the point of ridiculousness.....this same sentiment/reasoning cannot hold as much power.....sometimes I entertain myself with believing maybe I am doing the world a favour by not creating life........ |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by St_Andrew
so on a completly on topic note :p i just talked to my dad on the phone from sweden, and he said even in his generation, the guy is NOT excpected to pay for the dates! And if he does, it is excpected that the girl will pay back!
Canadian women, wake up!!! |
No more like CANADIAN MEN should wake up...
We live in a society of whipped losers |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spyder
personaly i belive in equality so girl and boy pay... but with me i would like it for the guy to first Offer that he wants to pay and then allow me to pay for half of it
but once or twice i would like it that the guy pay.... and then few times i pay so ya know equal out... but i rather have the guy do it first and then second date or wotever i pay for him.... |
a healthy relationship means that money isnt even an issue and if it is you are able to be frank and honest by discussing it and coming to a conclusion. Sounds simple and reasonable right? Not with most women ive known thats for sure...
But you do find the odd gems out there who appreciate men for more than "what he can give me" |
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| Cosmopolitan82 |
| I can only remember one first date where I let the guy pay for everything without offering my share, and thats only because he was a total ass.. Guys like that get whats coming to them |
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| Spyder |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
a healthy relationship means that money isnt even an issue and if it is you are able to be frank and honest by discussing it and coming to a conclusion. Sounds simple and reasonable right? Not with most women ive known thats for sure...
But you do find the odd gems out there who appreciate men for more than "what he can give me" |
i was out wiht my bestfriend.... and she was telling me that guys buy her drinks... and that she acts like a dumb blnode to say she needs more drinks and stuff like that... and thinking now about it... i dont know i cant doo it.. like even when i go to a club and a guy offers to buy me a drink i cant say OK.. took a guy 3 tries before i finaly gave in...
some girls take the princess roll from child hood too strongly.. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spyder
i was out wiht my bestfriend.... and she was telling me that guys buy her drinks... and that she acts like a dumb blnode to say she needs more drinks and stuff like that... and thinking now about it... i dont know i cant doo it.. like even when i go to a club and a guy offers to buy me a drink i cant say OK.. took a guy 3 tries before i finaly gave in...
some girls take the princess roll from child hood too strongly.. |
thats the thing...they are brought up to think they are princesses and guys give into it.
last i checked princesses didnt associate with "the help" so she damned well better be treating me like a prince :) |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by LittlePoonzgirl
I think it should be based on who's making more money. Like if one person is a student and the other works full time, the person who works should pay for the first date....past that I think it should be split fairly. |
Whut if the other is working full time now but was just recently was a student and is still practically broke bc all of his or her paycheques are going to paying off the loans he or she is straddled with??
In that case, the one w/ the fulltime job may not be in a better financial situatino to pay than the student who actually may have more income to play with(ie. if they either a) have saved up alot of money or b) are drawing from a line of credit and stil have a large balance available...)
^^^ I dunno, just my thought... although i would prolly tend to assume ill be stuck w/ the bill on the first date, and ill pay it w/o saying anything, i dont think that it should be my responsibility. and if we are gonna decide to pick one person or the other, lets go w/ the one who has the large amount of disposable money presently available to them. THAT person should be the one who pays (should we even be chosing someone in the first place i mean)
~jem~ |
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by St_Andrew
so, someone just got pissed on me big time cause i didnt pay for my date's supper (my date didn't get pissed, but my host mum). So i was woundering, you think the guy should pay for supper if you go out for a date? |
Doodman.
Here's the deal:
If you have financial capacity to pay 100% for first date: Do it. You've asked a person to take some of their time, and spend it with you - as a courtesy pay for the date.
If you don't have financial capacity to pay 100% for first date: Pay for yourself - and don't stress it.
The difficulty is in how exactly one approaches the date to let them know that they should probably pay the other half (because one never knows what the date may expect).
I think perhaps the best way to deal with the situation: Expect to pay 100%. When presented with the bill say "I'll grab this" in response
- the date says "no, i'll pay for it" say "no, no. Lets split it"
- the date says "no, lets split it" say "ok, no problem, but are you sure?"
In general: Those who fail to prepare, should prepare to fail. Consider every possibility and expect to react to it (in a way that achieves the your objective). |
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| Jayx1 |
or our society should grow up and just pay for themselves without it even being an issue. I assume in sweden that at the end of a date with someone you dont know very well you just split the bill without blinking an eye or dealing with prehistoric hang ups.
This has been my experience when ive been overseas.
This is why i rarely date in canada anymore. too many double standards. |
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| dance2dabeat |
whoever asks the other out should pay.
:p |
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| LittlePoonzgirl |
Why does this all matter so much? As long as people on a date try and make it fair and reasonable who cares about the specifics.
Then again, I haven't been on a real 'date' in over 2 years and I was never one for 'dating' in the first place. I live with my bf so none of this applies anymore.
There is much more to life than money! |
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