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Why Women Love bad boys (pg. 9)
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| English Rachel |
I have always had the upper hand in relationships, at least to the outside world because I am noisier and I do have ambition and balls. Behind closed doors, I enjoy 'looking after' and nurturing so I guess that means I am also happy to give the iron fist up.
I think the upper hand needs to be shared, decisions need to be shared and aspirations need to be shared. Notice a pattern? |
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| _EuG_ |
it should be but in real life things dont work that way...
i dont think that there is ever a true 50 / 50.... maybe only if u dont give a at all about each other |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy
a guy who is equal parts reliable friend and scorchin' bed buddy is a keeper. |
YOU ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HORNY, girl!! :p
lol. |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by English Rachel
It surprises me though, how many people settle just for the sake of being with someone, people who cannot bear to be single and yet are miserable in their relationship. |
For some, it's an endless cycle. I don't know why ppl feel that they need to be in a relationship to feel 'happy'.
| quote: | | I am holding out for my prince charming!!!! These feet are just waiting for someone to sweep me off them. |
For me, 24yrs and counting. ;)
| quote: | Originally posted by English Rachel
Hmmm, rushing. I totally understand where you are coming from but at 27 (at the time) you think that you know, more or less, what you want out of a partner. Honestly, I would do the same again, I think 6 months is long enough to get to know someone - let's face it, people get married in far less time. |
Only to divorce few years down the line?
I'd rather take the time, even if it takes years to get to know your S.O.
I really dislike how marriages are taken so lightly. An oath is sacred! Till death to me means exactly that.
If you think you cannot keep an oath, might as well change the wording on it.
| quote: | Originally posted by DiskoBiskit
Thats a bit daft I am afraid as you never get to know someone until you live with them. English Rach found that out, as did I. You move in with your man, and THEN you find out the bad habits (coughing up flem every morning, need I go on...) and this is the sort of thing you need to decide if you can deal with every morning for the next few years, 10 years, 20 years or 50. I have been through this living with a man for 6 years. Things grate on you, but you realise that you piss them off too sometimes.. (make-up everywhere, too many clothes, being anal over dishes / items being in correct place)
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My dad didn't go through common law relationship with my current mom to figure out she's 'the one'. Mind you, they are exactly right for each other, it's just crazy how much they compliment each other.
Common law relationships IMO has potential to get real messy. A buddy of mine just broke up with his gf and now they have to sort through all the junk that put them together to go their separate ways. |
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| _EuG_ |
| i dont see the point of gettin married, legaly, right away... move in together and live like that for a few years and then get married. This way you will truely know if u love each other and if u can live togetehr. You dont realy need a legaly binding contract to keep the two of u togeteher, first try it jus based on trust |
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| starsearcher |
| quote: | Originally posted by _EuG_
i dont see the point of gettin married, legaly, right away... move in together and live like that for a few years and then get married. This way you will truely know if u love each other and if u can live togetehr. You dont realy need a legaly binding contract to keep the two of u togeteher, first try it jus based on trust |
I agree with that...marriage is just a label that comes with some peiece of jewellery on your finger...making it "official"... |
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| _EuG_ |
| i have been with a girl for 3 years now, and we love each other very much... but i dont see us gettin married anytime soon at all |
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| English Rachel |
| quote: | Originally posted by starsearcher
I agree with that...marriage is just a label that comes with some peiece of jewellery on your finger...making it "official"... |
How funny, I did think of starting a thread called 'Marriage' just to see what the general feeling is...
I was engaged when I was in England. We had been together for 15 months and he asked me on the Rialto Bridge in Venice. To this day, I know that I loved him more than I will ever allow myself to love anyone else but I was unhappy with him because he didn't stick up for me or support me. I don't think he knew how to but I know now that that is something I need.
We were due to get married on the 20th March 2004, Mottram Hall was booked, I had picked my dress and we had decided on our honeymoon (Sri Lanka and the Maldives) but the day before we moved into our new house (he had lived in my house with me for 18 months at that point), it was apparent that I needed more from him and he needed less from me.
This doesn't mean that I wouldn't do it all again though. Despite saying that I treated getting engaged like getting married and that I would only ever do it once, I know more about myself now (and I live 3500 miles away from home). It is more than a piece of jewellery, it is a commitment. One that IS important but not one that should be waited for forever. If that commitment will not be made, what is the point.
Try jumping in with both feet, it won't kill you! |
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| Gypsy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
YOU ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HORNY, girl!! :p
lol. |
lol....shutup jamie. :whip:
you can't have one without the other and expect it to last. |
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| Gypsy |
| quote: | Originally posted by _EuG_
i dont see the point of gettin married, legaly, right away... move in together and live like that for a few years and then get married. This way you will truely know if u love each other and if u can live togetehr. You dont realy need a legaly binding contract to keep the two of u togeteher, first try it jus based on trust |
ever seen that show on a&e about gene simmons and his fam? he calls it 'happily unmarried', his 'wife' calls it 'waiting'. lol so true, but they're happy together. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy
lol....shutup jamie. :whip:
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you play nice!!!! :toothless |
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| Wyndham |
| quote: | Originally posted by DiskoBiskit
Thats a bit daft I am afraid as you never get to know someone until you live with them. English Rach found that out, as did I. You move in with your man, and THEN you find out the bad habits (coughing up flem every morning, need I go on...) and this is the sort of thing you need to decide if you can deal with every morning for the next few years, 10 years, 20 years or 50. I have been through this living with a man for 6 years. Things grate on you, but you realise that you piss them off too sometimes.. (make-up everywhere, too many clothes, being anal over dishes / items being in correct place)
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lots of studies have shown the chance of divorce is actually higher if you live with them BEFORE you get married....sounds wierd but i've read it countless times, i just can't be bothered to look for a link right now. |
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