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Single & Ready to Mingle! (pg. 15)
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| Slylee |
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lol
what's ur name again? |
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| aNYthing |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
it was "chris" and it's gone. |
should have changed it to "Deposit your load here" - that's HAWT! :p :toothless |
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| Silky Johnson |
Two questions.
First one is for Slylee:
Do you have a scar where the tattoo was removed? What was the procedure for having it removed? Can you tell there used to be a tattoo there? How much did it cost? Etc., etc.
I'm asking because if I don't get a phoenix tattooed over my scorpion, then I'm going to get it removed. But I don't want to do that if it's going to look like I had third degree burns or something.
Second question is for the daters:
How do you do it?? How do you just keep things casual with people? I'm the kind of person who goes all or nothing with my relationships....so I don't know how well I'd do in the dating world. It's very hard for me to detach myself, I don't know how to do anything but give it my all. I feel like I'm lying otherwise. So how do you guys...hold back? I guess that's the right way to put it. |
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| aNYthing |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Second question is for the daters:
How do you do it?? How do you just keep things casual with people? I'm the kind of person who goes all or nothing with my relationships....so I don't know how well I'd do in the dating world. It's very hard for me to detach myself, I don't know how to do anything but give it my all. I feel like I'm lying otherwise. So how do you guys...hold back? I guess that's the right way to put it. |
It's not about holding back... it's about being rational. You don't want to be that dog that jumps on every person who comes along. Some people want that emotional clinginess, some go bonkers and pull "eject" lever ASAP.
Treat it as just fun time with someone without any long term wishes/projections/modeling. Don't start trying to envision yourself with that person in a wedding gown or rocking on the porch in your 80's, sippin' lemonade as you watch your grand-grand-kids play in the front yard.
You should be able to enjoy yourself in your own company before you consider dating, otherwise you start changing your life around to depend on presence of that specific person. Just do fun things together. You'd be surprised what fun is.
Also, if it's purely physical - don't let emotions get involved. You'd be better off that way in a long run. No lies - just realize that it will be physical and nothing else, don't perceive it as a "relationship" thing. I hate to lower it to this level but treat it like mastrubation - take care of the "O" and move on, especially if it is with someone you don't really care to see again. harsh? yes. less painful? only with practice.
I had same "clingy" thoughts as you, until I started to realize that if you don't build up your own expectations from the start, you end up less disapointed. Don't try to fit someone within some sort of a mental picture and take events one at a time, as they come.
While it may be frowned upon by old-school conventions, it is certainly a lot less stressful and painful than being mislead to believe that one person can make you happy from the get-go.
does it make sense? :) |
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| Slylee |
depending on the doctor, but it was $250 for the first session and $150 for each additional session (gone in 3). painful? yes, but just about as painfull (or less) as the tatoo itself. they give u a cooling agent to put on before, but it doesn't help that much.
red & black are the easiest colors to remove (that's what mine was) and there's no scar.
i would show pics, but it's my ass. lol |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by aNYthing
It's not about holding back... it's about being rational. You don't want to be that dog that jumps on every person who comes along. Some people want that emotional clinginess, some go bonkers and pull "eject" lever ASAP.
Treat it as just fun time with someone without any long term wishes/projections/modeling. Don't start trying to envision yourself with that person in a wedding gown or rocking on the porch in your 80's, sippin' lemonade as you watch your grand-grand-kids play in the front yard.
You should be able to enjoy yourself in your own company before you consider dating, otherwise you start changing your life around to depend on presence of that specific person. Just do fun things together. You'd be surprised what fun is.
Also, if it's purely physical - don't let emotions get involved. You'd be better off that way in a long run. No lies - just realize that it will be physical and nothing else, don't perceive it as a "relationship" thing. I hate to lower it to this level but treat it like mastrubation - take care of the "O" and move on, especially if it is with someone you don't really care to see again. harsh? yes. less painful? only with practice.
I had same "clingy" thoughts as you, until I started to realize that if you don't build up your own expectations from the start, you end up less disapointed. Don't try to fit someone within some sort of a mental picture and take events one at a time, as they come.
While it may be frowned upon by old-school conventions, it is certainly a lot less stressful and painful than being mislead to believe that one person can make you happy from the get-go.
does it make sense? :) |
Yeah I understand all that. I don't actually NEED the advice, as I'm already attached. I just wonder how people do it.
LOL @ clingy thoughts...I'm totally not like that.
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
depending on the doctor, but it was $250 for the first session and $150 for each additional session (gone in 3). painful? yes, but just about as painfull (or less) as the tatoo itself. they give u a cooling agent to put on before, but it doesn't help that much.
red & black are the easiest colors to remove (that's what mine was) and there's no scar.
i would show pics, but it's my ass. lol |
that's pretty awesome...I'm definitely going to look into that. Thanks. |
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| medinaM5 |
| armed and dangerous, cant too many bang wit us, straight up weed no angel dust, label us notorious, thug ass niggaz that love to bust, its strange to us, ya'll niggaz be scramblin, gamblin...sry i just saw your custom jenny and felt like bustin out some biggie |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by medinaM5
armed and dangerous, cant too many bang wit us, straight up weed no angel dust, label us notorious, thug ass niggaz that love to bust, its strange to us, ya'll niggaz be scramblin, gamblin...sry i just saw your custom jenny and felt like bustin out some biggie |
Hahah..nice. |
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| medinaM5 |
im single and ready to mingle...here's what i enjoy ladies
reading Poetry, long walks along the beach as i look at the slowly sinking sun drop pass a horizon of tumbling hills while thinking about reading poetry, reading the dictionary, sex, hollerin at some beer pong with my pals, frolicking through the forest, drinking, drinking alot, drinking out of control, drinking like its my job, drinking out of control like its my job, Grandma's Boy, wearing underwear, petting dogs, petting bison, listening to elton john, thinking about elton john, looking at baby pictures, hanging up posters, wearing sandals, drinking, walking, doing stuff, cuddling, punching people, sex, sexual intercourse, party ripping, getting party ripped and loving it, looking at totem polls, wearing hats, keystone light, hard alcohol, alcohol in general, loving things, bengals, tuesdays, thursdays, fridays, saturdays, (sometimes mondays and wednesdays) seahawks, saying hi to people
call me |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by medinaM5
armed and dangerous, cant too many bang wit us, straight up weed no angel dust, label us notorious, thug ass niggaz that love to bust, its strange to us, ya'll niggaz be scramblin, gamblin...sry i just saw your custom jenny and felt like bustin out some biggie |
one of his best songs ever!! |
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| Slylee |
| btw, i'm pretty "all or none" myself jenny. it's hard for me, but i'm friggin determined to just roll with things and be a bit less intense this time around. i know i have it in me, i just chose to go the other way because it's more fulfilling for me. |
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| medinaM5 |
| no one wants me? |
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