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5 Steps to Getting the Girl of Your Dreams (pg. 11)
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj tek
really ? sex covos usually benefit by understanding the other person's sexual preferences. you find out what they are into and vice versa, its quite fun to talk about sex with the oppsosite sex, matter of fact, much more beneficial than talking about sex with my male friends. |
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
why not man ? its just another element of the coversation. you dont have to feel weirded out cuz you just spent time talking about sex positions. its all about timing and figuring the other person out. segways vlad.... |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
enough talking! take her to the back seat of your car! |
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
enough talking! take her to the back seat of your car! |
Yea, exactly. |
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| Ibizadreamer AG |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
then u ask her if it's ok if u can practice it lol |
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| Sexy_Warden87 |
It all comes down to this:
Either be the "higher valued" person or beat her "value".
Like this: celebrities dates beatiful women.
Why?
Cuz' very beatiful women have high value and celebrities have high value, thus the relationship.
And of course B]the 9 to 10 rule[/B]
Just talk much more than her and seem confident too if you can |
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sexy_Warden87
Like this: celebrities dates beatiful women.
Why?
Cuz' very beatiful women have high value and celebrities have high value, thus the relationship.
And of course B]the 9 to 10 rule[/B]
Just talk much more than her and seem confident too if you can |
And how long do those celebrity relationships last? You cant base a relationship on value - this goes back to the money thing, which clearly isnt effective in sustaining a successful relationship.
Being confident is the best way to gain someones interest, and might get you a date... but what do you do once youre in a relationship? |
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| herflyness |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
Vlad, you are so itching to get into some dirty, pillow talk with me! Then it'll come to an uncomfortable silence and I'll tell you that I have to make a phone call to end the akwardness.
CALL ME!
Hahaha
Oh and BTW, Makija.....
YOU'RE A BUTT SLUT! I saw who you were dancing with at Scream you naughty boy!!!!!!!!
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by herflyness
Vlad, you are so itching to get into some dirty, pillow talk with me! Then it'll come to an uncomfortable silence and I'll tell you that I have to make a phone call to end the akwardness.
CALL ME!
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What do you want to be called? |
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| herflyness |
Anything you want..................
Bahahahaha
I LUV VLAD!
:tongue2 :tongue2 :tongue2 :tongue2 |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vlad
Dont get me wrong, its fun to talk about it... and yea, you understand that person better, but where do you take a conversation after youve talked about how much you like going down on a girl and how shes talking about how much she loves the cowgirl position. |
Do what mature people do and talk about wherever the convo takes you? If you run out of things to say or if you cant handle silence thats sad :confused: |
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| astroboy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Inertia
so not most. :p
you guys are still not getting it. you said it yourself, "she'll find out you are a loser anyways". so, losers should never get girls? if i were a computer nerd, say i programmed AI for XBOX games, spent the entire day behind a computer looking at code, or playing the games i'm programming, listened to obscure rock bands and had no clue of fashion, even tho i am one of the most loyal friends, extremely intelligent, speak 4 languages, not to mention get paid damn well, i am still socially a "loser". because of this i don't deserve a girl?
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Sure he deserves one, but my impresion is that someone who paradoxically is very intelligent, yet can't figure out such basic, common sense aspects about social interaction is pretty much doomed. If they need a book to tell them "NOT blab off about that weird flow control error you're getting on the 52nd level of the new Ninja Gaiden game, to try and dress a little better" then how can they ever learn to pull it off naturally. Their intelligence clearly somehow doesn't stretch into social interaction.
From my experience people that were into this stuff were socially awkward regardless of the stuff they read. To be fair I only ever met one person who was into all this speed seduction, NLP, double your dating, etc. etc. weirdass literature. He tutored a friend of mine in computer science at my uni and I spoke to him a few times. To anyone with reasonable social skills it was obvious that the stuff he did, did not come naturally and was an act. I saw this guy at a party once trying to chat up a girl who was extremely dumb and even she later pointed him out to me later as "kinda creepy", even though he was saying all the right stuff. It just didn't come naturally to him. He followed the books to the letter like he was reading a script and it was obvious to anyone that he was very fake about the way he acted.
I laughed my ass of at the time, but I really felt for the guy, cos he's a human being with inherent value as such, but will never be appreciated because of his social awkwardness... He used to call me up to be his "wingman" whatever that means - seriously WTF!
My point is if someone's problem is being overly logical, analytical and geeky in his approach to social interaction, then a book that purports to logically analyse social interaction and give him a system to follow isn't going to help him. I don't think it's something you can learn from a book. Learning to socially interact from scratch isn't like learning javascript, you cant do it from a book.
I'd write a one page guide saying go out there and hang out in places you don't normally go. picking up, start by trying to engage as many different people (not just women) in conversation as you can. The kind of people you don't normally talk to. Try to find out what they feel passionate about and what makes them interested in the things they're interested in. And the whole time try to be constantly gauging their interest in the conversation when they lose interest, when their interest is aroused etc. Just be mindful of and notice these things and your brain will subconsciously perform the analysis and after some experience your natural behaviour will adjust itself without you even noticing.
If you don't like certain aspects of yourself then change. And I mean truly change, pretending to be someone else, be yourself just allow the "self" to change. We are all in a state of becoming, you can change aspects of your self without pretending to be someone else while still being true to yourself. |
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