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| kaniz |
I can, and know others that have. One couple I know have been together for over 20 years. Their relationship has shifted from 100% monog, to 100% open 'do whoever you want, whenever you want' to a middle ground.
It's something that has been working for them for a very long time, they own a 'house with a white picket fence' - whole 9 yards type thing, and seem like a perfectly normal happy committed couple if they didn't come right out and tell you that they are in an 'open' relationship.
They seem to be allot more happy/stable then some of the 100% monog couples I know.
At the end of the day, I know who I want to be coming home to - and that's more important than who I may be going to bed with. |
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| Engine9 |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
... I truly love my man... |
so u love him and you are ok if he makes out with some other woman, gets naked with her?
there is no fear that say may be he likes her a lot... may be the sex is better then with you.. ? may be hes gone develop feelings for her after the shag session..?
and nobody is calling u a slut lol |
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| Xavier Moriarty |
| quote: | Originally posted by kaniz
At the end of the day, I know who I want to be coming home to - and that's more important than who I may be going to bed with. |
to a loving wife who just blowed your neighbour jimmy??
sorry, i just dont get it. |
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| English Rachel |
Kel - no-one (that I can see) is calling you a slut or a swinger - I was throwing my personal example as to why I may not comprehend this as I have slept with my quota of men during my single life and if you and your fella have been together 5.5 years AND you weren't promiscuous before you met, you probably haven't had the 'encounters' I have and so that does make it a little more understandable - I never want to see another in my life lol!
And the 'swinger' comment was about 2 MARRIED couples I know that swing - again your case is different :) sorry if it came across as a comparison to you - it wasn't meant that way xx |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Miki, just because you don't get it, doesn't mean it doesn't work for people. ;) |
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| yankeeBaby |
| quote: | Originally posted by Engine9
and nobody is calling u a slut lol |
haha I know that :) I am just clarifying that while some couple enjoy a promiscious lifestyle, I do not ;) Often there are discrepancies in how people view and open relationship and I just wanted to point out that people conduct their own "openess" in a variety of ways. Some are wayy out there, and others simply want the option.
I actually *prefer* sleeping with my man, who knows me and my body.....and whom I feel more comfortable exploring .....err.....more explicit fantasties ;) And the love that we share during sex can never be replaced.
Its just nice to know that if I get the urge, I can go forth with it with out any feelings of regret or guilt. Again, we all have urges, and I'm secure enough... and have enough restraint..... to not give in to all of my urges (by any means....see where I wrote 'its been a few years...')
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xavier: I know darling, you are just trying to understand. as is rachel. When I was in with my ex, in a "closed" relationship, I didnt get it either. lol I dont suppose that most people would understand unless they where actually IN an open relationship..... because one must understand and FEEL the emotions and ideas behind it to truly get it. It takes a great deal of trust, maturity and confidence in your partner to be ok with something like this and still feel a sense of true love and committment to him at home. |
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| Xavier Moriarty |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Miki, just because you don't get it, doesn't mean it doesn't work for people. ;) |
i completely agree slutpie and thats why im asking all these questions. i wanna try and understand. |
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| yankeeBaby |
| quote: | Originally posted by English Rachel
Kel - no-one (that I can see) is calling you a slut or a swinger - I was throwing my personal example as to why I may not comprehend this as I have slept with my quota of men during my single life and if you and your fella have been together 5.5 years AND you weren't promiscuous before you met, you probably haven't had the 'encounters' I have and so that does make it a little more understandable - I never want to see another in my life lol!
And the 'swinger' comment was about 2 MARRIED couples I know that swing - again your case is different :) sorry if it came across as a comparison to you - it wasn't meant that way xx |
lol no worries love, I wasnt making the comment towards anyone in particular. I was just mkaing the reference to the different TYPES of "open" relationships....... and the fact that most people who are engaged in "closed" relationships often see "us" as people who merely want to be promiscious, which is, in fact, certainly not the case with us :) |
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| English Rachel |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
lol no worries love, I wasnt making the comment towards anyone in particular. I was just mkaing the reference to the different TYPES of "open" relationships....... and the fact that most people who are engaged in "closed" relationships often see "us" as people who merely want to be promiscious, which is, in fact, certainly not the case with us :) |
ok phew :) |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by Xavier Moriarty
i completely agree slutpie and thats why im asking all these questions. i wanna try and understand. |
Well, it certainly is an interesting and enlightening discussion :) |
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| kaniz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Xavier Moriarty
to a loving wife who just blowed your neighbour jimmy??
sorry, i just dont get it. |
While this situation hasn't happened very often for me, when it has - and was told about it, the proceeding sex that happened immediately after was /damn/ good. |
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| English Rachel |
| quote: | Originally posted by kaniz
While this situation hasn't happened very often for me, when it has - and was told about it, the proceeding sex that happened immediately after was /damn/ good. |
Did you LOVE that person though? |
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