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Is too much sexual experience a turnoff? (pg. 23)
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
for those of you who are saying you ask someone how many sexual partners they've had, do you also ask them to divulge the details of their drug and/or alcohol usage, or whether they've gotten in trouble with the law? where you do you draw the line on how deep to dig into someone's past to find out what kind of person they are (or should i say, what kind of person they used to be)? |
I don't draw the line. I said I like to know everything (within reason)...that's just how I am. I prefer a partner who doesn't have a problem with that, because I wouldn't have a problem with them asking the same of me.
Again it just goes back to common values, and relationship goals, etc. It's an important part of intimacy for me. *shrug* |
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| Slylee |
i'm pretty sure that most relationship experts (doctors) would say that it's actually healthy to have a few secrets (healthy ones of course...and if you can't use your own discretion about what's a healthy secret or not, then you're retarded). i'm not saying it works for everyone, but i'm one of those people it would work for. i used to be one of those who would dig dig dig until i knew everything about the person and lay all my cards out, but i dunno..as i get older i'm comfortable not knowing every little ing detail of my SO's life/relationships/sexual history, etc...
if i like them, i like them. i like them for how they treat me, how they presently carry themselves, how they make decisions TODAY, what their goals in life are, how they treat people (again, today). i'm not saying i avoid all conversations that talk about the past...i've had guys i was dating casually mention an "ex" and i listened to the story and thought, "hmm" and just sort of took it in and maybe analyzed it a bit relating to their personality and that's about it. i've also casually shared a few stories involving an ex and i've also answered any questions about breakups or whatever. if they wanna know, i'll tell them. but i've never had a guy straight up say, "how many people have you slept with". if i ever do though, i will just tell him. i still wouldn't ask the same question of him though. |
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| Axer |
| That's real :cool: ! |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I especially know what I want in a mate....and it isn't someone who fails at relationships and/or sleeps around |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
he eventually ended up banging a few broads... |
I'm confused. |
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| tubularbills |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
for those of you who are saying you ask someone how many sexual partners they've had, do you also ask them to divulge the details of their drug and/or alcohol usage, or whether they've gotten in trouble with the law? where you do you draw the line on how deep to dig into someone's past to find out what kind of person they are (or should i say, what kind of person they used to be)? |
if they have notthing to hide, they won't have a problem telling all this info.
honesty is the best policy, even when its just getting to know someone. |
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| AustralianGQ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Beat Blog
Good luck ing butt ugly women for the rest of your life.
Don't you think that a good-looking 30 year old chick will have banged more than five guys in her life, or a hot 19 year old more than two?
Having one night stands for three months in between relationships doesn't mean someone lacks the desire for one.
Your naivety is amusing. |
perhaps not, but it makes here a skank for sleeping with so many guys. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by AustralianGQ
perhaps not, but it makes here a skank for sleeping with so many guys. |
A 30 year old woman who has slept with 5 men is a skank? |
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| nefardec |
| quote: | Originally posted by Axer
My ex-girlfriend once cheated on me while I was doing my rehab, but then she confessed that she was really depressed and went to a friends house and he made a move on her and she couldn't stop it and it was noting more than making out. So, I took her back just because she was honest about it.
Some might bluff and it's not that hard to tell when they are bluffing. |
it was more than making out and it was more than once |
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| Frenchie |
5 guys? At 30? Skank?
WHAT? |
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| Beat Blog |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
A 30 year old woman who has slept with 5 men is a skank? |
lol
| quote: | Originally posted by AustralianGQ
perhaps not, but it makes here a skank for sleeping with so many guys. |
You missed the point: there are very few women who will fall outside of your little criteria for what consitutes a skank.
By your definition, pretty much every "normal" girl is a whore. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
A 30 year old woman who has slept with 5 men is a skank? |
Dude, don't you know how to count? Five dicks is a lot, man... A LOT! |
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| AustralianGQ |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Theresa, what if it's an older guy? Are you really expecting someon in their thirties to have only been with 10 girls or less?
What I don't understand is why anyone is concerned about it in the first place. Who cares, it's in the past. They're with you now.
This is where insecurities stems from. Asking THAT question makes a girl feel inadequate if she's had less under her belt. Or she starts worrying about if she's 'as good' as all the the other girls. Numbers mean absolutely nothing. Someone (guy or girl) could have been with 50 girls/guys, and until they met the right person, didn't settle down. That doesn't make them any less of a good person.
If you're secure with yourself, you won't care about the number.
And personally I think it looks very immature and petty when you're asking those kinds of questions. |
so u would get involved with a guy who has been with 50 girls or more? wow...u certainly are unlike most females then.
ur dumb. if a guy has been with that many girls. ur just another number to him and u have the intelligence to belive the bull thats coming out of his mouth and you actually think he wants u and not just in ur pants....get real.
how many ppl a person has been with, says alot about them...its important. some of us want someone with a sense of class and morals, dare i say, and that dont involve being with 50 ppl over a lifetime. and yea sure u could of dated alot of ppl and had badluck eachtime, but thats no excuse to sleeping with each person u date for a few weeks or monthes. shouldnt that be saved for when u two are serious and have feelings for eachother, or is that kind of attitude on relationships dead now? |
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