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In search of romance (pg. 10)
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is there some kind of count for the ta's that have fallen for jenniepie???
if so put a +1 on there |
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| MysticStardust |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
If you ask me, feminism is what killed romance in the first place. |
Hahahahha:haha: :haha: thats a great paradox |
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| jasmyn |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Feminism served its purpose 30 years ago, now it's just bigoted reactionary crap that women use as a tool to get something for nothing. You make your own money but still expect men to pay for all your dates. You do your own thing but still expect men to be thinking of you all the time. You don't cook, clean, or do any kind of household chores, all so you can be independent and make your own money, but selfishly spend it all on yourselves unlike men who are supposed to spend their hard-earned money on you. You freely admit that you're attracted, for example, to men who can cook because it means you don't have to do all the work - so just what exactly ARE you bringing to the table in the relationship? Do you have ANYTHING to offer other than a nice warm hole?
That's not liberation. That's hypocrisy. I'm tired of hearing women whine. Feminism in every meaningful sense of the word is long dead, now it's just a philosophy of self-serving bull.
Any true supporter of "equality" between men and women would take on 60's responsibilities alongside 60's rights. That means being an equal partner in a relationship, not thinking it's "okay" to be selfish because you're a "weak" woman.
If you ask me, feminism is what killed romance in the first place. |
i really don't know what kind of girls you are meeting and what century you are living in but wake up! you are so cynical about women and what they have to offer to a relationship. there are lots of good women out there who fully contributes to a relationship and knows how to make it work.
my mother works a full time job and she cooks and cleans the entire house. whereas my dad just goes to work and lazes around the house all day .. he occasionally cooks but other than that doesn't do any of the housechores. my mother contributes more than her equal share into the relationship and into raising me and my sisters and she is the one that pays most of the household bills. she is one of the strongest women i know.
in regards to women expecting men to pay for their dates, i find that to be totally bull. many of my friends and i, including my two sisters, do not expect or even want men or should i say boys, to pay for us. i earn my own money and i don't need a guy to buy their way into my life. i am my own person and i contribute my fair share into everything that i do and i do not expect someone else to buy me nice things when i can buy them myself. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by jasmyn
i really don't know what kind of girls you are meeting and what century you are living in but wake up! you are so cynical about women and what they have to offer to a relationship. there are lots of good women out there who fully contributes to a relationship and knows how to make it work.
my mother works a full time job and she cooks and cleans the entire house. whereas my dad just goes to work and lazes around the house all day .. he occasionally cooks but other than that doesn't do any of the housechores. my mother contributes more than her equal share into the relationship and into raising me and my sisters and she is the one that pays most of the household bills. she is one of the strongest women i know.
in regards to women expecting men to pay for their dates, i find that to be totally bull. many of my friends and i, including my two sisters, do not expect or even want men or should i say boys, to pay for us. i earn my own money and i don't need a guy to buy their way into my life. i am my own person and i contribute my fair share into everything that i do and i do not expect someone else to buy me nice things when i can buy them myself. |
I guess I should have more clearly stated that the women I was talking about are the ones that specifically refer to themselves as feminists or identifying with feminism. They are notoriously the same types that only get into relationships for their own personal agenda.
I'm sure you and your mother and your sisters are great people. And I'd love to believe that there are good people like that all over the place, I've spent years forcing myself to believe that in spite of the overwhelming evidence that's been presented to me... and I've just about given up. I think I've earned my right to be cynical, and if you have to wonder why I'm so cynical then you need only look at some of the other posts in this thread. Romance died ever since it became one-way romance, synonymous with a high-schoolish kind of unrequited love.
I was a romantic, nothing but a hopeless romantic, one time. But that part of a person is usually the most fragile, definitely the easiest to break, and having it walked on and crushed time and time again hasn't left me with much optimism or much to give.
Oh well. Someday I'm sure I'll find that perfect person who renews my faith in love and romance and makes me remember everything I'd forgotten, right? Hahahaha... not holding my breath. :rolleyes:
I am not saying I don't believe you though, jasmyn... just that you seem to be among this group that I always *hear* about but never seem to meet. |
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| Floorfiller |
i don't want to read this whole thread ,but...
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I'm not romantic, I'm dirty. I do like to snuggle though! |
that is exactly what i look for in women hehehe...i'm sorry...but i'm a huge dirty snuggler!!! |
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| MrSquirrel |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
i'm suprised at the lack of ppl who havent said that they just like to snuggle? :/ |
Go snuggle with your jaffle iron fool.
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| jasmyn |
back to the topic at hand - romance is quite over-rated. romance can mean different things to different people, it's all about the way you interpret it in your own life. what can be romantic to you, can be seen as cheesy to another person. however, it's about finding the right balance of romance within your life and finding the right person to share it with.
i will be the first to admit that i was a hopeless romantic and i guess i some ways i still am. in my 6 year relationship, we did many romantic things - for the first 12 months, we bought each other anniversary gifts every month and then it became a yearly event. for these occasions, we would spent the nite out of town, in a hotel, or just a quiet nite in and give each other little gifts. this was what worked for us and we were both romantic in our own ways but we both understood the level of romance we wanted in our relationship.
i don't believe that romance and sex necessarily need to go hand in hand. sex isn't always that romantic, in fact it can get quite dirty (if ya know what i mean ;)) however, you can have romance in the relationship without it having to be about the sex. all those girls who made their guy wait a certain period of time before having sex, will know what i mean :D
in the end, i guess romance is about showing someone you care about them, whether it be giving him/her a flower or leaving notes or messages on her/her machine, or just a hug or a kiss .. eventually, we all want to be loved and cared for and romance is that spark of electricity that ignites it all.
cheers. |
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| MysticStardust |
| quote: | Originally posted by jasmyn
in the end, i guess romance is about showing someone you care about them, whether it be giving him/her a flower or leaving notes or messages on her/her machine, or just a hug or a kiss .. eventually, we all want to be loved and cared for and romance is that spark of electricity that ignites it all.
cheers. |
Beautiful!:D ;)
| quote: | | Feminism served its purpose 30 years ago, now it's just bigoted reactionary crap that women use as a tool to get something for nothing. You make your own money but still expect men to pay for all your dates. You do your own thing but still expect men to be thinking of you all the time. You don't cook, clean, or do any kind of household chores, all so you can be independent and make your own money, but selfishly spend it all on yourselves unlike men who are supposed to spend their hard-earned money on you. You freely admit that you're attracted, for example, to men who can cook because it means you don't have to do all the work - so just what exactly ARE you bringing to the table in the relationship? Do you have ANYTHING to offer other than a nice warm hole? |
bitter bitter bitter:nervous: |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by MysticStardust
bitter bitter bitter:nervous: |
Look who's talking. :nervous: |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | [b]Originally posted by jasmyn [/b
.. eventually, we all want to be loved and cared for and romance is that spark of electricity that ignites it all.
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I disagree. TRUE love is selfless and does not need to be reciprocated. |
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| Orbax |
| Diginut pretty much nailed it. The only girls who arent selfish are the ones too stupid to realize that they should be. |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Diginut pretty much nailed it. The only girls who arent selfish are the ones too stupid to realize that they should be. |
Orbs, so you didn't die! If I post a rant on this later, I'll be counting on your support. :p
and believe it or not...
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I disagree. TRUE love is selfless and does not need to be reciprocated. |
I agree! Actually it's really the fact that you expect nothing in return that MAKES it love, otherwise it's just a mathematical relationship.
...nonetheless, if it is constantly unreciprocated, you WILL get bitter. But that doesn't mean it wasn't love in the first place - it just becomes a love-hate relationship that you have to cut off to move on with life, and after that relationship is over is when the bitterness sets in. |
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