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spanking... (pg. 3)
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
and when we'd go on road trips and misbehave we'd have to get out and run along side the highway |
hahah... my parents always threatened to do that to my brother and i. it worked pretty well because we'd ALWAYS stop misbehaving when they threatened to leave us on the side of a busy freeway.
my parents spanked me maybe a few times, when i was a very little kid. i think it was before i understood the concept of getting in trouble and getting punished. then once they were able to communicate with me about being in trouble, usually they'd just threaten to take away my legos or something that was very important to me. that usually got me to stop being bad.
but that was pretty rare because i was such a well-behaved little angel. :D |
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| Basstard |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
and when he asked "raise ur hand if you were not spanked as a child"
both of us did.
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maybe she meant shes been spanked as an adult :rolleyes: |
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| Estella |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
hahaha yeah good ol' creative families hahaha. there is a story or two worse than that even hahaha...i like to tell them and people are like "omg :wtf: you're parents are crazy" :stongue:
when in reality i was just a little ****** :p |
that is the greatest! divert the attention onto the horrendous nature of your beatings, while never including what you did to deserve them.
they can't beat the mischief out of us yet! |
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| Floorfiller |
| yeah really...is there anyone in here that didn't deserve the spankings they got ? |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
yeah really...is there anyone in here that didn't deserve the spankings they got ? |
i dont think anyone deserves a spanking:whip: |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
i dont think anyone deserves a spanking:whip: |
you still haven't explained why...
i mean really if spanking was so emotionally scaring or endangering children or something...how come every generation before the current one ended up fine? if anything the opposite is true in my opinion...kids that aren't disciplined as a rule are worse than those that are...
not that i think you're a trouble maker nachos :p
i just think there is a difference from beating your kids and spanking them... |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
u see i think parents are just to lax on disipline. but SURELY u can teach with out violence. weather it is punishing them, taking away priviliges.
kids will learn. also the bull "CASUE I TOLD U SO" attitude. gotta explain to kids |
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| Orbax |
dude, not spanking your kid EVER is the same absolutist bull that makes someone spit out crap like "Nobody should ever fight, go to war, or be mean to someone else......in a perfect world. I forgot about rapists, murderers, and the plethora of other ty people out there that make utopian ideals impossible."
ive met too many heads that had nice ass parents before and are getting SCREWED in life. You may think you are doing a service to your child but not teaching them the idea that, if you do something bad enough, the hammer comes down...whats the repurcussion? I on the dining room table and I read the dictionary out loud. I hit my sister, I read the dictionary out loud. There needs to be another level, where physical contact, which im sure if you are learning about human interaction, is a HUGE thing.
Half the time I didn't even get spanked that hard. It was the fact I was getting spanked that had shown me I was finally having my DAD come out and repimand me and he wasn't as nice or fun as my mom and all of a sudden I had this huge index of good to bad actions, and what is crossing the line from a mom punishment to a dad punishment.
it just makes more sense.
if you are asking about child rearing in general, yes positive is better than negative, but absolutes of either are BS and like everything else in the world, its a mix. |
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| Zombie0729 |
did your sociology teacher explain the evolutionary mindset attached to spanking? google that, its really interesting.
knowing the whole theory behind spanking i logically understand it.
however, children are the most susceptible to voice tone and body language that physical touch is no more domineering than a stern voice and large body language. |
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| Floorfiller |
well maybe i'm the only one in here that watches opera and i dunno hahaha...but have you ever seen the talk shows where they have those kids that are just totally in control of their parents? like their little kids and throwing tempertantrums because they want the toy and they ain't shutting up til they get it, but there parents won't spank them or discipline them and totally get controlled by there kids.
what do you think those people should do? you can't rationally explain to a kid why they can't have a toy...or something like that. what if the kids aren't learning to behave, but instead are acting out because there is no consequence? |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
dude, not spanking your kid EVER is the same absolutist bull that makes someone spit out crap like "Nobody should ever fight, go to war, or be mean to someone else......in a perfect world. I forgot about rapists, murderers, and the plethora of other ty people out there that make utopian ideals impossible."
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that is not eve the same ballpark son!
| quote: | Originally posted by Zombie0729
did your sociology teacher explain the evolutionary mindset attached to spanking? google that, its really interesting.
knowing the whole theory behind spanking i logically understand it.
however, children are the most susceptible to voice tone and body language that physical touch is no more domineering than a stern voice and large body language. |
yes he did. i thought it was itresting as well |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
that is not eve the same ballpark son!
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its in the context of everything else I wrote. It was pointing out there is a significant delineation between actions that are misdemeanors and felonies as far as parental actions are based on.
seperating mom vs dad punishment, mental vs social vs physical will give someone a MUCH more defined view of "Ok so when I hit women, I get the kicked out of me"
my brother hit my sister when he was 12 and to this day he laughs about how hard he will NEVER lay hands on a woman. My dad rocks.
Its things like that where now, there are 2 brothers out in the world who think, and correctly :D, that if you ever touch a woman, you're going to get your ass kicked.
Ive seen dudes slap their girlfriends in bars and at parties and the next thing I know Im climbing over tables and jumping couches to slam these guys heads into the walls.
how much you want to bet no one ever showed them what happens when you do that kind of action? |
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