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Cheating (pg. 4)
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| denys envy |
| quote: | Originally posted by narcism
cheating = you don't love the person you're with |
i disagree. |
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| narcism |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
i disagree. |
elaborate |
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| denys envy |
| quote: | Originally posted by narcism
elaborate |
i don't think that in every instance someone cheats they don't love the person they're cheating on. in my opinion cheating is never a black and white thing like that. a lot of times it's complicated and for (sometimes) way ed up reasons. to simply say "if you cheat you don't love them" is a bit ignorant.
just my two cents.
on a different note - our birthdays are a week apart. high five.
edit: i was stalking the profile to figure our if you're a dude or a girl. that's how i noticed the b-day.
...evidence inconclusive though. |
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| Frenchie |
| Unsatisfactory led you to cheat one way or another. So you cheat, go back to your partner, what did that cure (aside from sexual cravings)? You were satisfied by someone else, not your partner, so now you're going to want to find pleasure in someone who satisfies you and that wont be your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband so what's the point of being with them if a huge chunk of your relationship you get from someone else? Just doesn't make sense. You're getting itches your partner can't scratch and if you can't scratch each others backs..something is going to fail. |
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| narcism |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
i don't think that in every instance someone cheats they don't love the person they're cheating on. in my opinion cheating is never a black and white thing like that. a lot of times it's complicated and for (sometimes) way ed up reasons. to simply say "if you cheat you don't love them" is a bit ignorant.
just my two cents.
on a different note - our birthdays are a week apart. high five. |
I don't think its an ignorant thing to say on my behalf. Most of the time in situations i have been in the person caught cheating isn't sorry for doing the deed but for getting caught.
I am aware of complicated situations but at the end of the day you are "mostly" aware of what you are doing at the time. I do believe if you truely loved someone you wouldn't stick your into another chick.
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
once in a long distance relationship. once out of spite because he treated me like and i was miserable and i justified it. and then another time i just wasn't happy and was probably trying to sabotage the whole relationship. |
All these reasons point to the fact that slylee probably wasn't in love with the people she was with, the long distance thing is another story :p |
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| denys envy |
| quote: | Originally posted by narcism
I don't think its an ignorant thing to say on my behalf. Most of the time in situations i have been in the person caught cheating isn't sorry for doing the deed but for getting caught.
I am aware of complicated situations but at the end of the day you are "mostly" aware of what you are doing at the time. I do believe if you truely loved someone you wouldn't stick your into another chick. |
to be fair. i might not have an idea of what i'm talking about. it's strange but i've never cheated. probably the only wholesome thing about me. ha ha. but i always had opportunities i just stay faithful i guess... i just always thought those that do cheat are just of a weaker character. not that they don't love the person they cheat on but they just can't resist their urges or whatever in certain situations.
i guess those that have cheated could give us a clearer picture of reasons and if they love/don't love the person they're with. |
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| narcism |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
to be fair. i might not have an idea of what i'm talking about. |
:haha:
^5 on the stalking of my bday too :p |
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| Renzo |
I like when girls tell me, "my boyfriend would never cheat on me" and the weekend before I saw him making out with some sloot in a club.
Naive people make me laugh. |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
i just always thought those that do cheat are just of a weaker character. not that they don't love the person they cheat on but they just can't resist their urges or whatever in certain situations. |
bingo
i suppose everyone can try to justify their actions, but cheating, IMO, hurts me more than the other person.
i like to look myself in the mirror every morning and actually like who i am. loyalty, integrity, honesty. they actually mean something to me.
call me a sucker or whatever, but my conscience does bug me.
not to mention i'd have the balls to break off a relationship before i screw an another girl |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Disagree. "Circumstances" are just ways of justifying it...and it's total bull, imo. You don't have to love someone to still be respectful of their feelings. I mean, if you're really going to be honest about "why" you cheated, you should just cut the bull and say "I have/had little to no respect for this person." |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I'm pretty black and white about my feelings. I wouldn't need a drunken night out to know I wasn't that into a guy. And no matter how much I'm not into a person, I still have respect for them outside of whatever's going on in our relationship. It's just not a cool thing to do, regardless of what's going on. |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
i just always thought those that do cheat are just of a weaker character. |
This. If you're not happy, don't cheat. Just save everybody the bull and cut the relationship off.
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| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
... the actual point of the thread which is to question whether or not you think someone who once cheated would be faithful if, say... they grew into a more mature person and met the right person at a better time in their life sort of thing. |
Sure, why not? I mean, if someone told me that they had cheated before then I might be really hesitant about them towards the beginning of the relationship, but so long as they've changed, then whatever.
Edit: Well said, Yohan. |
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| zoogla |
| i'm so sorry i've had this effect on you :( i'll tone it down a notch. |
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| Rose |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I wouldn't need a drunken night out to know I wasn't that into a guy. And no matter how much I'm not into a person, I still have respect for them outside of whatever's going on in our relationship. It's just not a cool thing to do, regardless of what's going on. |
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