people who say things like that have no tolerance for anyone who isn't like themself. which to me, is egotistical and narrow minded.
Gauss
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Originally posted by Slylee
i like the term 110% ! :mad:
Silky Johnson
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Originally posted by Slylee
if anything, i think whatever they did and lived through would give them MORE character having risen above that mentality.
I tend to agree with this. I mean, I dunno about everyone else...but for myself, I know that making mistakes and doing that is out of my character is exactly what helps me to see and question who I am, and thus learn and grow as a person.
XaNaX
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Originally posted by Slylee
yea i definitely didn't love the ones i cheated on...or respect them. one of them barely respected himself and i can't stand that. i just wasn't happy and probably wasn't ready to end it just yet (selfish and immature).
sometimes when you are in an unhealthy relationship you can't make yourself end it and move on for a variety of reasons. Cheating in a relationship like this isn't the same as cheating on someone who you love and with whom you are in a good relationship. Sometimes cheating is just the thing you need in order to end a bad relationship that needed to be ended a long time ago
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Originally posted by Slylee
gauss...it's possible that someone having no character and being truly ed up at 19-20 years old could do some growing up and be of sound character by the time they are in their late 20s. if anything, i think whatever they did and lived through would give them MORE character having risen above that mentality.
agreed, people can grow and change, both for the better and for the worse. I've seen it first hand in people I know. judging someone totally based on past actions and ignoring any changes they made in their life is ignorant. I have an uncle who cheated on my aunt many times when he was younger, he was a piece of bastard then. But one day he had one of those life changing moments and decided to give up alcohol and women and has been faithful and a good husband for the last 20 years. Should I still view him as a piece of cheater or should I give him credit for the changes he made in his life? How would you like it gauss if people held every mistake you ever made against you regardless of your attempts to change?
Silky Johnson
Let's all throw rocks at Gauss! I'm sure he sinned at least once in his life! ING SINNING . :mad:
kr00t0n
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Originally posted by Slylee
and i'm the type of person who makes it pretty clear if i like you or not. i mean there are definitely some people out there would say, "jamie is a selfish little bitch i can't stand her" and then there's people who would tell you i'm the biggest sweetheart they've ever met who would give u the shirt off my back. i guess if i like you, i like you. and if i don't, i don't...and you'll know which category you fall under.
Funnily enough, I know a couple of people like this, and they are always female.
I've never met a guy with that sort of quality.
Silky Johnson
That's because females are more dynamic than males. :o
Gauss
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Originally posted by jennypie
Let's all throw rocks at Gauss! I'm sure he sinned at least once in his life! ING SINNING . :mad:
Nah, I've been cheated on once and I don't even look at her when I see her in town, let alone say hi.
Moral Hazard
I think anyone here saying that if one cheats they cannot possibly love the one they cheat on is way off base. In my experience cheating has little or nothing to do with the one being cheated on and everything to do with the one who is cheating. Cheating is normally born of the shortcomings the cheater feels in themselves rather than with the their partner.
Silky Johnson
Shut the up, Craig. Everyone knows how you get down:
Slylee
i cheated when miserable and in some sort of attempt to end things. not the most noble way of doing things, but whatever i was immature. i would never cheat on anyone at this point in my life. and i dont look down on someone who has cheated either. if a friend of mine came to me and told me they cheated on their S.O., the first thing i'd want to know is why and what the circumstances were.
and kr00t there are more people who think i'm nice than people who hate me. i'm pretty sure of that. i've hurt and disrespected only a handful of people for whatever reasons, but i'm overall a very generous and tolerant person in relationships.
Slylee
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Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Cheating is normally born of the shortcomings the cheater feels in themselves rather than with the their partner.
exactly
oh yea and i've also read and heard a lot (like on T.V. or mag articles) that usually if men cheat, it's pretty simple why....they aren't getting any. lol but when women cheat, it's more complicated and usually due to them not feeling loved or wanted and being miserable and confused.
