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Cheating (pg. 7)
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
and kr00t there are more people who think i'm nice than people who hate me. i'm pretty sure of that. i've hurt and disrespected only a handful of people for whatever reasons, but i'm overall a very generous and tolerant person in relationships. |
Oh I don't think it's a bad thing, in fact it's a quality my 3 closest females friends all share, lol.
I just tend to be more subtle if I don't like someone, just avoid conversations with them, keep chats very superficial and boring so they move on, more passive-aggressive stuff rather than giving off ' you' vibes, hehe. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
exactly
oh yea and i've also read and heard a lot (like on T.V. or mag articles) that usually if men cheat, it's pretty simple why....they aren't getting any. lol but when women cheat, it's more complicated and usually due to them not feeling loved or wanted and being miserable and confused. |
Yeah...because on a subconscious level, men equate sex with love. So actually, in the end, it's for the same reasons. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by kr00t0n
Oh I don't think it's a bad thing, in fact it's a quality my 3 closest females friends all share, lol.
I just tend to be more subtle if I don't like someone, just avoid conversations with them, keep chats very superficial and boring so they move on, more passive-aggressive stuff rather than giving off ' you' vibes, hehe. |
i was going to elaborate on that character trait i have because i knew you'd see it that way. but that's not really what i meant.
if i don't like someone, i'm definitely not the type to be like, "oh hey face" or be really obnoxious and obvious. i was mainly talking about my relationships. i've been a pretty ty girlfriend in a few relationships (obviously the ones i cheated on) and those are the guys who i'm sure would tell u i'm a selfish bitch because they had a horrible experience with me. i didn't love and respect them because they either A. didn't respect themselves or B. they just treated me like and i wasn't ready to end it. but those are the ones who saw my ugly side and i was just trying to point out that my ugly side isn't my only side. if anything it's the side that only a few people see. same thing with my mushy lovey dovey side. only a few see that too. the rest just see my carefree, social butterfly, go w/ the flow side (friends). |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i was going to elaborate on that character trait i have because i knew you'd see it that way. but that's not really what i meant.
if i don't like someone, i'm definitely not the type to be like, "oh hey face" or be really obnoxious and obvious. i was mainly talking about my relationships. i've been a pretty ty girlfriend in a few relationships (obviously the ones i cheated on) and those are the guys who i'm sure would tell u i'm a selfish bitch because they had a horrible experience with me. i didn't love and respect them because they either A. didn't respect themselves or B. they just treated me like and i wasn't ready to end it. but those are the ones who saw my ugly side and i was just trying to point out that my ugly side isn't my only side. if anything it's the side that only a few people see. same thing with my mushy lovey dovey side. only a few see that too. the rest just see my carefree, social butterfly, go w/ the flow side (friends). |
Gotcha! :) |
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| squirrelly |
| I do not think that once a cheater, always a cheater; but I also do NOT think that it is a forgivable act. And that is all I'm going to say about that. |
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| get nyce |
| cheated once in my life, will never do it again - too old to be ing around doing stupid , just need to live a legit life and get ready to start the next part of life, living with someone, and hopefully getting married. all of that cheating goes out the window when you know you are approaching the age where you need to start being serious, create a stable financial environment, and hopefully find someone worth spending your time with. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Yeah...because on a subconscious level, men equate sex with love. So actually, in the end, it's for the same reasons. |
More accurately, men equate sex with self worth... if I'm not getting sex it's because my partner does not value/need/want me... but this bar slut... she sees value in me (otherwise she wouldn't blow me in the parking lot) therefore I'm not completely worthless. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Yeah...because on a subconscious level, men equate sex with love. So actually, in the end, it's for the same reasons. |
You think so? I thought it was women who thought that once sex happened, it meant love, or serious feelings, etc. |
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| Silky Johnson |
No, not in that way. Men need sex in order to feel that they are loved (on a subconscious level).
So basically, when you don't put out for your man, on some deeper level he thinks you don't love him.
I dunno, I've read it in a few places.  |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
No, not in that way. Men need sex in order to feel that they are loved (on a subconscious level). I dunno, I've read it in a few places. |
see my post... it's not love so much as self-worth.
men cheat when they feel as though they are under-valued/under appreciated. |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
No, not in that way. Men need sex in order to feel that they are loved (on a subconscious level).
So basically, when you don't put out for your man, on some deeper level he thinks you don't love him.
I dunno, I've read it in a few places. |
I'd say that was pretty true for the most part. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
see my post... it's not love so much as self-worth.
men cheat when they feel as though they are under-valued/under appreciated. |
Check my edit. That's pretty much what I'm saying. :) |
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