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Cheating (pg. 5)
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by narcism
cheating = you don't love the person you're with
simple as that...
can someone change? Of course they can |
boo ya |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
whether or not you think someone who once cheated would be faithful if, say... they grew into a more mature person and met the right person at a better time in their life sort of thing. |
this would be me...I think of myself as a morally sound person with a clear sense of right and wrong, and cheating is definitely wrong. I kinda blame the fact that I was in such a long-term long distance relationship and I had needs. The first time she found out and forgave me, then I did it more times and she didn't find out. Would I do it again? If I'm living with the woman OF COURSE NOT...I think. |
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| Taranis |
My attitude is that if I'm unhappy enough in a relationship to cheat, there's no real point in being in that relationship.
I'm also the kinda guy who hates messy breakups (and I seem to always end up with the crazy chicks, so they're always messy), so I figure if I force myself to break up with a GF before I sleep with anyone else, it'll motivate me to just get it over and done with faster. |
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| ownymcown |
| i feel like cheating is a healthy way to get with other women u wanna bone without letting ur girl feel bad, sometimes u just need a taste and then u go back to ur main course no what i mean |
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| zoogla |
| vivid, u forgot to sign out ur gay lover. |
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| Ghost Raver |
| quote: | Originally posted by idoru
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+1 pretty much. |
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| kr00t0n |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
Cheating. What a cunting crock of crap. |
Fixed.
More C's for more effect :D
The once a cheater thing is slightly dependant on how you perceive the phrase though, I've always seen it in the way Jamie originally did, about someone who has cheated being likely to cheat in the future.
I know plenty of people who cheated in their teens/early twenties who would never dream of it now. Humans are stupid at the best of times, let alone when we are young adults.
I also don't think that cheating is exclusive to love, you can be in an exclusive relationship with someone, not yet in love with them, and still cheat.
Cheating is essentially the breaking of the exclusivity/commitment 'contract' you agree to with your partner. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i knew this would be pointless and everyone would just focus on the cheating factor rather than the actual point of the thread which is to question whether or not you think someone who once cheated would be faithful if, say... they grew into a more mature person and met the right person at a better time in their life sort of thing.
i wasn't really trying to make this thread entirely about me and my incidents, i was trying to just be the first one to start off and admit that i've done some stupid , that way anyone who has done something similar wouldn't be scared to say "yea i did too". cuz i aint scurred like that and don't really fear judgment from you guys. i mean i don't lose sleep over it.
anyway goin to bed |
I said I agreed with you. , bitch. :mad: |
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| Gauss |
No circumstance justifies cheating. I utterly loathe even the thought of doing something so low.
If it's a ty relationship, don't cheat, have some dignity and ing break up.
People who cheat have no character and don't deserve ever being looked at again. |
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| Slylee |
yea i definitely didn't love the ones i cheated on...or respect them. one of them barely respected himself and i can't stand that. i just wasn't happy and probably wasn't ready to end it just yet (selfish and immature).
the long distance one was a whole diff story and a very long time ago. i was like 20 years old. probably loved him the most. i was going to move to where he was and inside i was scared less to make that move so i sabotaged the relationship. it's complicated but i really did love him and i probably hurt myself just as much as i hurt him.
and i'm the type of person who makes it pretty clear if i like you or not. i mean there are definitely some people out there would say, "jamie is a selfish little bitch i can't stand her" and then there's people who would tell you i'm the biggest sweetheart they've ever met who would give u the shirt off my back. i guess if i like you, i like you. and if i don't, i don't...and you'll know which category you fall under.
gauss...it's possible that someone having no character and being truly ed up at 19-20 years old could do some growing up and be of sound character by the time they are in their late 20s. if anything, i think whatever they did and lived through would give them MORE character having risen above that mentality. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I said I agreed with you. , bitch. :mad: |
i know i wasn't talking about u love muffin:p |
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| Silky Johnson |
I wouldn't go that far. Yes, it shows weak character...but NO character?? Come on.
I'd like to meet the person who has an absolutely clean record of integrity. Hypocrisy and contradiction are just side effects of being human. Hence why we learn to forgive, and not being able to do so shows even weaker character, imo. |
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