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What is love? (pg. 8)
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| kr00t0n |
I can see that some never have been in love.
I am now, no doubt about it, and she is easily the most incredible person I have ever met in my entire life.
I love her more than anything, heck, I wasn't aware I could feel so strongly for anything.
Losing her would indeed kill a part of my soul. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
I'm sorry, please point out to me where I stated that?
I merely stated that those who say that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, have not truly loved. Indeed, we should all be so lucky to feel a love so deep at least once in our lives.
All I'm saying is it's impossible to recover from the love of your life being nonexistant in your life anymore. Sure, you may love again, but that love will be a limited love, one that is unsure. Even if you fall again, a part of you will always belong to that person. |
it really depends on the person babe. you can't speak for everyone. some people are stronger than others in that department.
for me, i've been hurt a few times pretty bad, especially by my first love (high school sweetheart), but i don't make other guys have to suffer for what past boyfriends did. it's a clean slate every time. don't be so scared to open up again. it's just a part of life (getting hurt) but that doesn't mean everyone is gonna hurt you. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| and plus sara gets more and more beautiful with age and its a shame to see her sit on the shelf. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
I'm sorry, please point out to me where I stated that? |
That's what I had understood from your quote and I wanted to check whether that was really what you meant, that's why I asked :)
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
I merely stated that those who say that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, have not truly loved. Indeed, we should all be so lucky to feel a love so deep at least once in our lives. All I'm saying is it's impossible to recover from the love of your life being nonexistant in your life anymore. |
That's because you've clinged to that feeling. If the relationship, for some reason, didn't work out, what good would it do if you were together? It would bring pain to you and/or to the other person (and by the moment you want something that might bring pain to the person you love, chances are, it's not actually "love"). You should be happy you guys felt that great together, but if it didn't work out the way you planned, well, keep that good feeling with you.
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
Sure, you may love again, but that love will be a limited love, one that is unsure. |
If you're having a limited love, the happiness that may come out of it will also be limited, as you're avoiding deeper contact (or whatever word you prefer to use).
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
Even if you fall again, a part of you will always belong to that person. |
True. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
I'm sorry, please point out to me where I stated that? |
It was the next logical step.
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I merely stated that those who say that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, have not truly loved. Indeed, we should all be so lucky to feel a love so deep at least once in our lives.
All I'm saying is it's impossible to recover from the love of your life being nonexistant in your life anymore. Sure, you may love again, but that love will be a limited love, one that is unsure. Even if you fall again, a part of you will always belong to that person. |
Can you truly quantify something such as the difference between true love and just...regular love? Perhaps you can in ideals, but that's just it - going out and actually loving a person is far different from waxing eloquently about it on a message board. I detest people who are sure of anything in this world - I believe that true love is not something you feel at first, but rather, a feeling you develop over time and really learning to understand the nature of another being. As such, there should always be a hint of doubt in your mind as to what the other person is going to do next - true freedom of will and choice. This is why institutions such as marriage drive absolute love into the ground, especially when held in any sort of regard for the individual's choice to pack their bags and leave their love behind. The union between two people should come down to personal and daily committment, not a shackle in the form of a gold ring.
It may be a crippling event in which your future with somebody is destroyed, but if the love you held together was true, its impact will stay with you for the rest of your days and beyond - what more is there to existence if not but for memory? |
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| anuneventrade |
| Man, you guys need to stop assuming everything I say is about me. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| What? :conf: |
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
It was the next logical step.
Can you truly quantify something such as the difference between true love and just...regular love? Perhaps you can in ideals, but that's just it - going out and actually loving a person is far different from waxing eloquently about it on a message board. |
And I agree.
| quote: | | I detest people who are sure of anything in this world - I believe that true love is not something you feel at first, but rather, a feeling you develop over time and really learning to understand the nature of another being. As such, there should always be a hint of doubt in your mind as to what the other person is going to do next - true freedom of will and choice. This is why institutions such as marriage drive absolute love into the ground, |
Agreed again, hence my not wanting to get married ;)
| quote: | | especially when held in any sort of regard for the individual's choice to pack their bags and leave their love behind. The union between two people should come down to personal and daily committment, not a shackle in the form of a gold ring. |
Indeed.
| quote: | | It may be a crippling event in which your future with somebody is destroyed, but if the love you held together was true, its impact will stay with you for the rest of your days and beyond - what more is there to existence if not but for memory? |
There is my point again. I'm glad you're catching it. |
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| Vivid Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
Man, you guys need to stop assuming everything I say is about me. |
fine i take it back sara is not a beautiful unique snowflake
actually the only way she even resmebles is a nowflake is that shes coooooooooold cold blooded like rick james |
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| UWM |
Baby don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me,
No more.
Couldn't be bothered to read through the whole thing, sorry if this has been posted already :cool: |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
...when did those become your points? :wtf:
I'm just saying that you should be grateful for what you had, and that giving up a part of yourself is only something that happens when you allow it to - the risk was definitely worth it, as even if the relationship dissolves, the memory of such a deep admiration and compassion for another will give you insight into many things in your life and in others' as well.
Losing a love is not something to moan about all the time, as it is much better to have lost than to have never had at all... in the long-run :toothless
Picking up the pieces and making use of them is what truly matters. ;)
[edit: not that this was directed at anuneventrade's life, just general statements] |
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| Fundamental |
| quote: | Originally posted by anuneventrade
Those who say that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all have never truly loved and lost. |
So is it not worth putting yourself in a situation where this might happen? |
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