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My ex boyfriend (pg. 5)
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
And by benefits, I am of course referring to the beef jerky. |
Hahahahahah! :D ^5! |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
I'm going to be a little blunt here - but is it not because I want to be a meanie or bad dood - I'm doing it because it (unfortunately or fortunately) is reality and I hope it might help someone (and as a disclaimer: NONE of this may or may-not apply to you in a specific way - I'm just speaking generally based off your quoted comment - only you will know if it does apply. Who knows it may be of use to others to which it does apply):
If what I've quoted is the decision that has been made regarding the relationship - then it needs to be accepted (along with the resulting consequences).
It is normal to care about one another. I care about you, and many others - but caring as a friend is much different than having romantic feelings towards someone.
One can sit on the fence between "friends" and "lovers" but it often doesn't result in a happy-go-lucky outcome.
Ask the question: are there romantic feelings? Ask long, ask hard - figure it out. Make a decision and live with the consequences.
Yes - it may be hard at first, and hurtful as well. Time will heal, seperation will heal, being steadfast in the decision will heal. |
well said RJ!!:tongue2
I want to sit on a fence with you all!
I wuv YA!
*~* :thepirate |
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| DC- |
| It wouldn't be surprise me one bit if all the things he claims to be doing are completely false. The whole comment he said about you not getting any since being with him just shows to prove that he wants to make it seem that your decision to break the realtionship up was a mistake. By telling you these stories, that he's getting mad girls, he is simply trying to get you jealous. There are many people who may be turned off by a guy who is single but suddenly when he has a girl, they jump all over him. I am not saying you are that kind of a person, but maybe that's the kind of response he's trying to provoke out of you. Maybe he expects you to run into his arms, regreting your decision. |
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| tatgirl |
| quote: | Originally posted by dallastar
I want to sit on a fence with you all! |
Um, Dallas... you've been sitting on that fence years. Come down, Dallas! |
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| tatgirl |
| Kelly- do u have a fear of 'looking like the bad guy' if u stop talking to him? If u already dont have much in common already, and he talks inappropriately w/u on the phone, it doesn't sound like you'll be missing too much. Sounds like he's just on a 'power trip' of your emotions. For all u know, he's getting off on getting a rise out of u. Is it REALLY some great friendship that you'd be gutted if it didn't continue? Do u see yourself hanging out with the guy in a few years? If the answer to those are no, its ok to just move on & its no big loss. There's plenty of other GOOD people out there to spend your valuable time on the phone with. |
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| Enraptured |
Wise words from RJ.
well said, brother.
As for being friends with the "ex"... I'm sort of forced to, she's the mother of my child and will be a part of my life for the rest of it, whether I like it or not!
Luckily, we've always been friends, so it's not really an issue... we just couldn't keep a relationship together for more than around a year... which really sucks, but sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it just isn't going to work. It's not always fair, but you have to draw a line somewhere.
So I drew the line. And stepped over.
Good for you to have the sense to see when it's time to move on, D2B! :)
As for cheating, I think DQ mentioned it earlier... I can't, and WON'T stand for that either. If things have degraded to the point where my partner is even CONSIDERING that, I thinkit's plain to see that this is not the right person for me... I would hope to hear about it before it happened, ie: open communication! The key to ANY successful relationship...
whew... bed-time for me. Good thread, good discussion!
:)
JR. |
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| Enraptured |
| quote: | Originally posted by tatgirl
There's plenty of other GOOD people out there to spend your valuable time on the phone with. |
Like me! :) I'm a phone junkie, so call me any time you need to vent, or whatever! :D |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by dance2dabeat
what a facking loser!!!!!!! The fact that I dated him makes me more of a loser. We dated for just over a year...and I finally had the guts to break up with him after the summer. The boy is facking pathetic.....he feels he needs to tell me these stories of these DIRTY UGLY NASTY girls he's trying to hit and it makes me so angry. I have already asked him once to not share his stories with me because honestly...hearing it just makes me want to puke!! The boy has seriously turned me away from sex....it's been 5 months and I don't miss it one bit! How normal is that?????
Then today he tells me about this "hot" virgin he can't wait to crack....and how he does not know how there are still Virgins around anymore around a certan age.......what an immature loser!!! The most funny part is he keeps telling me how much he is impressed that I haven't been "involved" with anyone since him...LOL.
I really wanted to be friends with him, but honestly I am losing more and more respect for him everyday. When we were dating he almost convinced me that all men were Dogs......Thank god I finally woke up and realised how wrong we were for each other. Then again..I always knew I never loved him......I know what love feels like (I think anyway) and well the feeling I had for him were not even close to love.
Some of my friends make fun of him and thought he was a real loser. I always got kinds offended by it because I felt sorry for him becuase I know he was hurt by the whole break up thing. But now I'm beginning to realise my friends are only being honest...and that he had it coming!
Anyway...this is Kelly's venting for the night. I'll stop now.
:mad:
My best advice to anyone out there who thinks they are stuck in a relationship that they are unhappy in...........
JUST GET THE OUT OF THERE!!!!!!!!!! Life is too short...and when it comes down to it...You're #1.....you need to do what is right for you! |
I guess killing him and eating his soul is kind extreme? :toothless |
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| trancechaos |
one question for all the ladies.
why do you dig s and hurt the nice guys?
thats my two cents. |
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| Euphorica |
they like the challenge. It may not be a concious thought but they do.
I would jsut stop talking to your ex(orginal poster). |
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| tatgirl |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancechaos
one question for all the ladies.
why do you dig s and hurt the nice guys?
thats my two cents. |
that's another WHOLE can of worms....
btw- nice 'token black guy' title. :p |
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| Endlesswave |
| quote: | Originally posted by tatgirl
that's another WHOLE can of worms....
btw- nice 'token black guy' title. :p |
So true. However I'll take a crack at it.
It's because of confidence. The '' type of guy tends to have a lot of that. Shy, nice type of guys tend to not have a lot of confidence or go for what they want, so they get left behind. This is either because of just not acting on what they want or the girl gets fed up with person's indecisiveness. I could be way off. I still think it's confidence.
I still think you should ignore the guy, he's not the type of ex you can or would want to still talk to after the relationship. |
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