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BF/GFs who are friends with their exes (pg. 14)
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| Slylee |
omg
How ing convenient and funny is this?
I just got a call from the ex that I’m sort of friendly with. He is having a going away party this Saturday. He’s moving 2 hours north of here so he obviously won’t be frequenting Ft. Lauderdale/Miami Beach and is having a celebration.
This is an example of when I see him. Just little isolated “special occasion” incidents or from running into him while hanging with mutual friends.
Now what? lol
Ps- The17sss: he is just one of those types who is very care free and has a lot of love to give. He said that what he feels for me is stronger than “like” and that it just feels natural to say I love u and that it’s easy to love me. it was kind of refreshing. a lot of people are really uptight about the L word and really, i think the world needs to hear it more:) |
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| david.michael |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
omg
How ing convenient and funny is this?
I just got a call from the ex that I’m sort of friendly with. He is having a going away party this Saturday. He’s moving 2 hours north of here so he obviously won’t be frequenting Ft. Lauderdale/Miami Beach and is having a celebration.
This is an example of when I see him. Just little isolated “special occasion” incidents or from running into him while hanging with mutual friends. |
Slut. |
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| KiNeTiC ENeRgY |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
omg
How ing convenient and funny is this?
I just got a call from the ex that I’m sort of friendly with. He is having a going away party this Saturday. He’s moving 2 hours north of here so he obviously won’t be frequenting Ft. Lauderdale/Miami Beach and is having a celebration.
This is an example of when I see him. Just little isolated “special occasion” incidents or from running into him while hanging with mutual friends.
Now what? lol
Ps- The17sss: he is just one of those types who is very care free and has a lot of love to give. He said that what he feels for me is stronger than “like” and that it just feels natural to say I love u and that it’s easy to love me. it was kind of refreshing. a lot of people are really uptight about the L word and really, i think the world needs to hear it more:) |
so now u know u should dump this guy and find another right? |
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| XaNaX |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
omg
How ing convenient and funny is this?
I just got a call from the ex that I’m sort of friendly with. He is having a going away party this Saturday. He’s moving 2 hours north of here so he obviously won’t be frequenting Ft. Lauderdale/Miami Beach and is having a celebration.
This is an example of when I see him. Just little isolated “special occasion” incidents or from running into him while hanging with mutual friends.
Now what? lol
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get ur boyfriend and his ex to come with you to your ex's party. should make for good times |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
omg
How ing convenient and funny is this?
I just got a call from the ex that I’m sort of friendly with. He is having a going away party this Saturday. He’s moving 2 hours north of here so he obviously won’t be frequenting Ft. Lauderdale/Miami Beach and is having a celebration.
This is an example of when I see him. Just little isolated “special occasion” incidents or from running into him while hanging with mutual friends.
Now what? lol
Ps- The17sss: he is just one of those types who is very care free and has a lot of love to give. He said that what he feels for me is stronger than “like” and that it just feels natural to say I love u and that it’s easy to love me. it was kind of refreshing. a lot of people are really uptight about the L word and really, i think the world needs to hear it more:) |
haha... i guess it would be interesting to tell your current BF that you're going to go hang out with your ex at a party and see how he reacts. He can't really say anything because of what he's doing, but I wonder if he will accuse you of purposely doing it to get back at him. Or maybe he won't care because A) he honestly doesn't care, or B) because it will give him some breathing room in his situation.
So many interesting variables...lol. And, I'm sure you're easy to love Sylee:D If it feels good to hear it and to say it, that's cool... just don't substitute "I love you" for "I'm IN LOVE with you". Obviously I don't know you guys and I'm speaking generally here. So, keep us posted as to what you do with your ex's party:toocool: |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
get ur boyfriend and his ex to come with you to your ex's party. should make for good times |
:stongue:
gathering of the exes! :nervous: |
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| spanglo |
| quote: | Originally posted by StanVoid
i dont think you're being disrespected at all. The only reason you may feel that way is because - in YOUR head, based on your own opinions and judgements - apparently hanging out with an ex is like a slap in the face. If you actually figure out that some people can remain friends with past romantic partners, you'll see that such a thing doesn't have to be disrespectful in the first place. Think of it this way, until something actually happens (i.e. he cheats or fools around), you should give him your trust. And if he does cheat, well then it wasn't mean to be in the first place. But if you leave him just because his ex made you feel uncomfortable, well then you're the one with the issues. :p |
Exactly right. Congrats for having a clue. |
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| Slylee |
When my new guy and I were FIRST dating, I was at a friend’s house one Saturday for a pool party. The ex was there…not a big deal we chilled, blab la bla there were lots of mutual friends there. my guy actually knew about it and was working that day. well I left my wallet at that friend’s house and later that night I needed to meet up with him to get my wallet back cuz I was going out that night with my guy. We met him at a bar and my ex was there with the whole crew from earlier that day at the party. It was a real short meet n greet…no harm done. This was like a month ago. So he would be able to recognize my ex at this point because of that. Anyway he didn’t seem to care and I also made it a point to tell him that I rarely chill w/ the ex and if I do, it’s usually on accident (like that day, I didn’t know he was gonna be there but it wasn’t a big deal). He said he didn’t care but then when he brought up HIS ex re: the marlins tickets, he made a comment like “oh it’s like when I met your ex”. I didn’t argue but I really wanted to be like, “umm actually it’s totally different”. Because it was! I wasn’t telling him to hang out with my ex at all. It was an isolated incident and I had/have no intention of getting him to chill with my ex…ever.
I dunno how I’m gonna go about this, it actually wouldn’t be the end of the world for me if I don’t go to this party. No big deal. I don’t want to risk it looking like I’m trying to get even to be honest. |
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| chach |
| lol I really haven't read much of this thread but holy slylee you are :crazy: |
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| Slylee |
| lol i know. im just trying to give as many details as possible...after all u guys are giving me advice...u should know the whole situation:p |
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| spanglo |
I got news for you Sylee, I’m sure he cares for his ex girlfriend more deeply then he cares for you. Just the same he probably cares for his best friends and family more then you too. Why, because those relationships existed before you even came into the picture, because he has bonded with those people and there’s history there. You can’t possibly expect him to throw established relationships aside just because your insecurities are getting the best of you - even if those relationships are with exes. Unless his ex clearly is making a move to get him back, then you’re just being a paranoid beyotch. Those relationships were there before you got there, and they’ll still be there when you’re gone.
Sounds like you have a good guy, and it says a lot that he can have a friendship with an ex rather then having to cast ‘em aside like emotionally retarded people do because they can’t deal. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by spanglo
I got news for you Sylee, I’m sure he cares for his ex girlfriend more deeply then he cares for you. Just the same he probably cares for his best friends and family more then you too. Why, because those relationships existed before you even came into the picture, because he has bonded with those people and there’s history there. You can’t possibly expect him to throw established relationships aside just because your insecurities are getting the best of you - even if those relationships are with exes. Unless his ex clearly is making a move to get him back, then you’re just being a paranoid beyotch. Those relationships were there before you got there, and they’ll still be there when you’re gone.
Sounds like you have a good guy, and it says a lot that he can have a friendship with an ex rather then having to cast ‘em aside like emotionally retarded people do because they can’t deal. |
Well I see your view, but I also see mine. I’m being objective here and I’m certainly able to admit my own insecurities. I don’t want to be insecure, but I also feel that in certain situations it’s kind of unavoidable. I’m not threatened by every day chicks or female friends, other wise I’d go nuts…recent ex gf’s are a different story to me…they make me wonder, that’s all. |
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