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BF/GFs who are friends with their exes (pg. 3)
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| Slylee |
| what if he is coming over with the ex and her bf? |
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| Frenchie |
| Only if you're scared to move on because you don't know how to deal with a relationship that doesn't have that crap in it. He obviously does, and so does the ex if they've both moved onto something better than they had together. |
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
what if he is coming over with the ex and her bf? |
Honestly, if he does, then he doesnt know you. If hes smart, he will know and understand that it makes you uncomfortable and wont put you in a situation like that. |
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| Slylee |
he better be coming over with some ice cream and flowers lol
@ The17sss : THANK YOU. that is what i fear. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by echosystm
It doesn't bother me at all, as I know they BROKE UP FOR A REASON! If there was anything there, they would have stayed together. He's no threat to me. |
Ahh yes, but just because they broke up for a reason, that doesn't mean the feeligs are gone. My ex was toxic to my relationship, and I had to break up with her even though I really loved her. Took a while for the feelings to go away even without seeing her on a regluar basis.
| quote: | | What bothers me more is when my GF gets a new guy friend. Being a guy, I know that there is a 90% chance he's only talking to her to get into her pants. I know this because I'd be the same. That s me. |
yes... i ing can't stand that. What pisses me off even more is if a girl is too stupid to understand the intentions of the guy. I hate when they are like "But he just wants to be friends! He's a really nice guy." Yeah, of course he's a nice guy... he is waiting for his opening and he'll hang around "being cool" with just being friends until he gets his chance. I would always tell my girlfriends, "expect that they have those horny intentions 100% of the time when they want to be 'just friends'... then when it DOESN'T happen, then you can be surprised." |
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| kadomony |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
I don't see the point in staying friends with your ex if you're serious with someone else |
buttsecks obviously. |
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| Echo of Silence |
If he brings the ex and her new bf, it's probably because they stopped by and he doesn't want to hang out with them by himself so just relax and enjoy yourself. Whisper that he owes you three dinners at restaurants of your choice and whatever else it is that you want from him for dragging you into this.
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
he better be coming over with some ice cream and flowers lol
@ The17sss : THANK YOU. that is what i fear. |
Yeah... I've seen it happen so many times. I hope I'm wrong about my assessment as applied to your BF. Some guys just keep bridges from burning unnecessarily too long. |
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| Vlad |
| Jealously over new male friends? Well if shes a dirty slut youll find out, if youre in a relationship and you care about each other, you shouldnt have anything to worry about because of that little thing called trust. If you dont trust each other, then maybe you should reconsider your intentions with each other. |
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| Teh Jim |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
I don't see the point in staying friends with your ex if you're serious with someone else, unless you've known each other since birth and/or the families have been friends for years or some like that. |
What if you're just good friends? My ex and I are best friends and talk a heap. It has made some things hard but, as has been said, we broke up for a reason. We don't have out to spice things up, we hang out because we have a heap in common and can genuinely be friends without that stereotypical "100% horny guy" thing.
You do have a point that it CAN cause problems, but for all the awesomeness of meeting someone new I wouldn't want to sacrifice such a good friendship. If someone came on saying something like "my new GF wants me to stop seeing any of my female friends in private" everyone would jump down her throat saying she was an insecure, controlling bitch. It's essentially the same situation if everyone is MATURE about it. Bloody 14 year olds. |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
how would u deal with it if they did that to you? |
I met Myra's ex (well, one of them) out at a show on basically the night we started dating. It wasn't weird at all, we got along well, smoked some pot together, and in general to this day I still really enjoy every chance I get to see him. The odd thing was that he basically encouraged Myra to date me, but that's a whole other story not worth getting into - moral of the story was that from before Myra and I were even considering dating, I had met the guy, and it just never got weird. In any event, it was clear to me right away how much their friendship (and the relationship Myra had with his family) was something really important to both of them, and I never once ever felt threatened by him - quite the opposite actually. It felt like knowing a big part of Myra's life that it wouldn't make sense to miss out on.
Beyond that, it isn't weird at all for me when Myra sees him or has gone to dinner with him when their paths crossed, but I don't think it would be like that in every situation with every person. It's unique, and the circumstances in which I got to meet and spend time with Jim are probably not all that common. I think in most cases it would make me at least a bit uncomfortable, but it's nice to know there are situations where that doesn't have to be the case. |
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| Frenchie |
| Yeah, I don't see the reason to burn the bridge if there was a relationship there before the bf/gf label was put on. Regardless if it's because your families are tight, you were sand box babies or you just had a strong friendship before hand. You lost the BF/GF label but why lose the friend label if you don't have to? |
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