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Long distance relationships (pg. 13)
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| Omega_Blue |
nice to hear that, lira
it's refreshing to hear that the long distance thing *can* work for the people that are willing to put the effort into it together, it makes me feel more optimistic about my own situations irl |
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| Rose |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
nice to hear that, lira
it's refreshing to hear that the long distance thing *can* work for the people that are willing to put the effort into it together, it makes me feel more optimistic about my own situations irl |
You're in a LDR? :wtf: |
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| squirrelly |
Wow it's already been a YEAR!? :wtf:
I've been on TA too long :( |
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| Akridrot |
human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures.
*waah waah* i was arbitrarily paired up with this person who would be a completely different person if i was in a different place, but since i was paired with this person for so long and have all these "memories" with them and about them, i just have to remain attached to them and force an unnecessary strain on my life and mental health because i am a ing child. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures.
*waah waah* i was arbitrarily paired up with this person who would be a completely different person if i was in a different place, but since i was paired with this person for so long and have all these "memories" with them and about them, i just have to remain attached to them and force an unnecessary strain on my life and mental health because i am a ing child. |
yea man...humans. can't live with em', can't live without em' ;) |
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| coolestrl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rose
I think the people that were in a long distance relationship when this thread first started are now single lol. (except Lira) |
lol thats would be me but hey i put up with that for 5 ing years, and like arkidot said
| quote: | human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures.
*waah waah* i was arbitrarily paired up with this person who would be a completely different person if i was in a different place, but since i was paired with this person for so long and have all these "memories" with them and about them, i just have to remain attached to them and force an unnecessary strain on my life and mental health because i am a ing child. |
my views now :p |
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| Dj Skez |
| Long distance relationships, in ha ha ha, your partner is ing the neighbor u sucker. |
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| MrJiveBoJingles |
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures.
*waah waah* i was arbitrarily paired up with this person who would be a completely different person if i was in a different place, but since i was paired with this person for so long and have all these "memories" with them and about them, i just have to remain attached to them and force an unnecessary strain on my life and mental health because i am a ing child. |
This from a person who has made his share of threads complaining about his relationships and drug habits. Yeah, man, you're so together and grown up!
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
nice to hear that, lira
it's refreshing to hear that the long distance thing *can* work for the people that are willing to put the effort into it together, it makes me feel more optimistic about my own situations irl |
I hope it works out for you as well :)
I'm not entirely sure whether this is applies to your case, but here are a few pointers I can share with you:
- Study: I know this sounds really random, but the best thing about living in society is that you can learn from the mistakes others have made. As nerdy as it sounds, the one thing that has helped us quite a lot is the fact that we've both been deeply influenced by Sartre during some of our crises. We're very aware that, rather than looking for "our other half", the fact that we came from different households (and, dare I say, cultures) meant that instead of fitting together as two halves of an orange, we're like two pieces of broken porcelain that require lots of grinding to look as just one piece. And, more importantly, we knew that we chose one another, and we're free to revert this choice any time we want.
- "Know thyself": A funny thing about long relationships is that we see ourselves much the same way our significant other sees us. This "time out" is a great opportunity to remember what you're like when you're on your own (or, more accurately, among other people). Kaoru used to be really mad about me being so absent-minded, because as a result, I come across as eccentric/rebellious in most groups (for I'm incredibly oblivious to peer pressure in general), rude (since I may completely ignore others even when I don't want to), and pretentious (due to the fact that I'm often thinking about something lofty and useless to most people). She used to warn me frequently about that, and she taught me about how important it is to pay attention to others. Sure enough, now that she's gone, I noticed her criticism was not unfounded, and the fact that she's given me all those hints throughout our relationship has helped me realise what it is about me that I can improve. While she was here, it really felt like she was picking on me for every little thing (but, granted, she also found out other people also thought she had a really bad temper).
- Talk: If you're in a relationship for more than, let's say, a couple of years, you probably know how important communication is, so I'm not going to say anything - I just wanted to stress the fact that it really really takes a lot of honesty and sincerity to cherish your commitment no matter where you are :)
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures. |
And that's, by far, the most fascinating thing about them us, reason why the following paragraph is, by far and away, the most exhilarating piece of writing I've ever laid my eyes upon (click on the cover for the whole book):
| quote: | Originally writen by Fyodor Dosta
 You see, gentlemen, reason is an excellent thing, there's no disputing that, but reason is nothing but reason and satisfies only the rational side of man's nature, while will is a manifestation of the whole life, that is, of the whole human life including reason and all the impulses. And although our life, in this manifestation of it, is often worthless, yet it is life and not simply extracting square roots. Here I, for instance, quite naturally want to live, in order to satisfy all my capacities for life, and not simply my capacity for reasoning, that is, not simply one twentieth of my capacity for life. What does reason know? Reason only knows what it has succeeded in learning (some things, perhaps, it will never learn; this is a poor comfort, but why not say so frankly?) and human nature acts as a whole, with everything that is in it, consciously or unconsciously, and, even if it goes wrong, it lives. I suspect, gentlemen, that you are looking at me with compassion; you tell me again that an enlightened and developed man, such, in short, as the future man will be, cannot consciously desire anything disadvantageous to himself, that that can be proved mathematically. I thoroughly agree, it can--by mathematics. But I repeat for the hundredth time, there is one case, one only, when man may consciously, purposely, desire what is injurious to himself, what is stupid, very stupid--simply in order to have the right to desire for himself even what is very stupid and not to be bound by an obligation to desire only what is sensible. Of course, this very stupid thing, this caprice of ours, may be in reality, gentlemen, more advantageous for us than anything else on earth, especially in certain cases. And in particular it may be more advantageous than any advantage even when it does us obvious harm, and contradicts the soundest conclusions of our reason concerning our advantage--for in any circumstances it preserves for us what is most precious and most important--that is, our personality, our individuality. Some, you see, maintain that this really is the most precious thing for mankind; choice can, of course, if it chooses, be in agreement with reason; and especially if this be not abused but kept within bounds. It is profitable and sometimes even praiseworthy. But very often, and even most often, choice is utterly and stubbornly opposed to reason ... and ... and ... do you know that that, too, is profitable, sometimes even praiseworthy? Gentlemen, let us suppose that man is not stupid. (Indeed one cannot refuse to suppose that, if only from the one consideration, that, if man is stupid, then who is wise?) But if he is not stupid, he is monstrously ungrateful! Phenomenally ungrateful. In fact, I believe that the best definition of man is the ungrateful biped. But that is not all, that is not his worst defect; his worst defect is his perpetual moral obliquity, perpetual--from the days of the Flood to the Schleswig-Holstein period. Moral obliquity and consequently lack of good sense; for it has long been accepted that lack of good sense is due to no other cause than moral obliquity. Put it to the test and cast your eyes upon the history of mankind. What will you see? Is it a grand spectacle? Grand, if you like. Take the Colossus of Rhodes, for instance, that's worth something. With good reason Mr. Anaevsky testifies of it that some say that it is the work of man's hands, while others maintain that it has been created by nature herself. Is it many-coloured? May be it is many-coloured, too: if one takes the dress uniforms, military and civilian, of all peoples in all ages--that alone is worth something, and if you take the undress uniforms you will never get to the end of it; no historian would be equal to the job. Is it monotonous? May be it's monotonous too: it's fighting and fighting; they are fighting now, they fought first and they fought last--you will admit, that it is almost too monotonous. In short, one may say anything about the history of the world--anything that might enter the most disordered imagination. The only thing one can't say is that it's rational. The very word sticks in one's throat. And, indeed, this is the odd thing that is continually happening: there are continually turning up in life moral and rational persons, sages and lovers of humanity who make it their object to live all their lives as morally and rationally as possible, to be, so to speak, a light to their neighbours simply in order to show them that it is possible to live morally and rationally in this world. And yet we all know that those very people sooner or later have been false to themselves, playing some queer trick, often a most unseemly one. Now I ask you: what can be expected of man since he is a being endowed with strange qualities? Shower upon him every earthly blessing, drown him in a sea of happiness, so that nothing but bubbles of bliss can be seen on the surface; give him economic prosperity, such that he should have nothing else to do but sleep, eat cakes and busy himself with the continuation of his species, and even then out of sheer ingratitude, sheer spite, man would play you some nasty trick. He would even risk his cakes and would deliberately desire the most fatal rubbish, the most uneconomical absurdity, simply to introduce into all this positive good sense his fatal fantastic element. It is just his fantastic dreams, his vulgar folly that he will desire to retain, simply in order to prove to himself--as though that were so necessary--that men still are men and not the keys of a piano, which the laws of nature threaten to control so completely that soon one will be able to desire nothing but by the calendar. And that is not all: even if man really were nothing but a piano-key, even if this were proved to him by natural science and mathematics, even then he would not become reasonable, but would purposely do something perverse out of simple ingratitude, simply to gain his point. And if he does not find means he will contrive destruction and chaos, will contrive sufferings of all sorts, only to gain his point! He will launch a curse upon the world, and as only man can curse (it is his privilege, the primary distinction between him and other animals), may be by his curse alone he will attain his object--that is, convince himself that he is a man and not a piano-key! If you say that all this, too, can be calculated and tabulated--chaos and darkness and curses, so that the mere possibility of calculating it all beforehand would stop it all, and reason would reassert itself, then man would purposely go mad in order to be rid of reason and gain his point! I believe in it, I answer for it, for the whole work of man really seems to consist in nothing but proving to himself every minute that he is a man and not a piano-key! It may be at the cost of his skin, it may be by cannibalism! And this being so, can one help being tempted to rejoice that it has not yet come off, and that desire still depends on something we don't know? |
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| meriter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Akridrot
human beings are such stupid, irrational creatures.
*waah waah* i was arbitrarily paired up with this person who would be a completely different person if i was in a different place, but since i was paired with this person for so long and have all these "memories" with them and about them, i just have to remain attached to them and force an unnecessary strain on my life and mental health because i am a ing child. |
Ugh. Scientists... :nervous: |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj Skez
Long distance relationships, in ha ha ha, your partner is ing the neighbor u sucker. |
Yeah, she sure is ;)
I also banged half of my students AND the waiter from the coffee shop across the street :) |
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| fbgdavidson |
| Nice work...I think. Though I think if you're banging half your stduents and the barista then you're doing something wrong ;) |
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