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Long distance relationships (pg. 7)
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| Lira |
Well... She's probably in Toronto now, waiting for her plane to head to Hong Kong and I think she will arrive in Nagoya tomorrow morning.
It was a nice day. Thanks to many of her friends, bidding farewell was a lot less tough than we had imagined, even though a fair amount of tears was shed. But I know the most difficult part is yet to come.
I'll write a proper reply as soon as I get to work :p
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
still can't wait for the pics!
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Well, this is us plus a few friends at the airport:
These girls two on the left (and the blond guy in the next pic) were her flatmates during the last couple of months. Here's a pic of a surprise party they threw for her:
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing.
Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure.
I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it. |
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| XaNaX |
| quote: | Originally posted by AMMORA
it always confuses me b/c if he doesn't think i'm worth committing to with a 4 hour distance, why does he care if i move there or not in the near future? |
this could be a red flag for you to a major personality flaw. If I was really into a girl a 4 hour drive distance would be nothing. I know guys who are so into themselves and think they are so important that they literally won't date a girl they have to drive more than 15 minutes to pick up |
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| jastiC |
| u can do better man :haha: n i dnt think u should worry about her cheating on u........ :toothless |
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| PressPLay |
| No disrespect by not reading this whole thread, but more or less the relationship is over. It's the beginning of the end. Time will allow it to fizzle away... |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by jastiC
u can do better man :haha: n i dnt think u should worry about her cheating on u........ :toothless |
First of all, "better" only makes sense within a comparison. And, personally, I don't think anything compares to her. At all.
Also, regarding fidelity and trust, not only we talk, we actually care for one another just as much as we care about ourselves. I'm not sure whether you're familiar with any of these concepts.
Thank you very much for your input anyway, though. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
this could be a red flag for you to a major personality flaw. If I was really into a girl a 4 hour drive distance would be nothing. I know guys who are so into themselves and think they are so important that they literally won't date a girl they have to drive more than 15 minutes to pick up |
Some pre-madonnas right there. lol
I would somewhat disagree though that a 4hr drive is "nothing" because it is taxing. Not only can you not just call her up and go see her for a few hours, it is now a full day thing. If it was a 1-2hr drive, it wouldn't be AS bad. |
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| Sunsnail |
| 12 hour drives are even more demanding! |
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| elFreak |
| it is not the commute that is hard, it is the time between the commutes that is the killer. |
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| squirrelly |
I don't do long distance. Trust issues always arise, and when someone is away from you too long.... that super sweet person that's always your shoulder to cry on suddenly brings a sparkle into your eye.
My bf & I were an hr apart when we first started dating and it was frustrating, and that's only an hr! Now we live together though, so I'm much happier.
Personally, I could never do it. I can't not have sex with my boyfriend for months on end. I'd go crazy. It's different if you're single and not getting laid - ENGAGED and not getting laid?! Blasphemy. |
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| XaNaX |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
I don't do long distance. Trust issues always arise, and when someone is away from you too long.... that super sweet person that's always your shoulder to cry on suddenly brings a sparkle into your eye.
My bf & I were an hr apart when we first started dating and it was frustrating, and that's only an hr! Now we live together though, so I'm much happier.
Personally, I could never do it. I can't not have sex with my boyfriend for months on end. I'd go crazy. It's different if you're single and not getting laid - ENGAGED and not getting laid?! Blasphemy. |
remember, PM me if it doesn't work out with you guys ;) |
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| elFreak |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
I don't do long distance. Trust issues always arise, and when someone is away from you too long.... that super sweet person that's always your shoulder to cry on suddenly brings a sparkle into your eye.
My bf & I were an hr apart when we first started dating and it was frustrating, and that's only an hr! Now we live together though, so I'm much happier.
Personally, I could never do it. I can't not have sex with my boyfriend for months on end. I'd go crazy. It's different if you're single and not getting laid - ENGAGED and not getting laid?! Blasphemy. |
if sex is the basis of your relationship than yes.
if you think sex is the most important thing, then you are probably not ready for one;). |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
I don't do long distance. Trust issues always arise, and when someone is away from you too long.... that super sweet person that's always your shoulder to cry on suddenly brings a sparkle into your eye. |
This is the exact thing I was referring to earlier.
| quote: | | [i]My bf & I were an hr apart when we first started dating and it was frustrating, and that's only an hr! Now we live together though, so I'm much happier. |
That is always good.
| quote: | | [i]Personally, I could never do it. I can't not have sex with my boyfriend for months on end. I'd go crazy. It's different if you're single and not getting laid - ENGAGED and not getting laid?! Blasphemy. |
Yeah I would be of the same thought if it was like 6months or more between each time, but I guess to each their own. |
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