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Long distance relationships (pg. 3)
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gauss
Haha, I liked the way you used parentheses. :p
Anyway, I think it's not worth it. Three years is just too much. There is a saying "Far away from the eyes, far away from the heart." and I believe in it, especially when so much time is in question. |
hmm... I think you're on to something I've been pondering for a while.
But, what would worth mean in this case? There would be no solid gains? Given the difficulties, maybe it would be wiser to just end it all, I agree with you. In that case, I'd be doing something certain, and I would be able to meet (and get to know) more girls sooner than I would if we broke up after a couple of years. It would be the rational choice.
However, I just followed my heart on this one, and this kind of choice makes me who I am. I've always been a tenacious idealist, and trying has always meant a lot more than achieving (not that I don't like the prizes, of course I do). The simple fact that I'm trying makes this thing worth it for me.
Just a different worldview, I guess :)
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
can't wait for the pics! |
Oh, my girlfriend gave me her camera. There WILL be pics! I mean, what pics are you talking about? :p |
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| gehzumteufel |
Jake: Don't be a panzy. 30min drive is NOT long distance.
imho, anything over 1hr without traffic is too far. |
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| spanglo |
If you guys have grade A communication, then there’s always hope. Unfortunately only .003% of couples are on that level, so here’s hoping you’re one of ‘em.
Otherwise, you will miss each other dearly at first, realize how important you are to one another, and then slowly your relationship will fizzle as communication becomes less in frequency and substance as a result of adjusting to life without one another. Your only hope is that either you or her don’t meet anyone “better” during the time away, and if you don’t then you’ll probably reconnect when all is said and done. If you or her do meet someone better, then it’s game over, because then the bar will have risen and you’ll no longer be suitable.
Absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder which is good… but out of sight – out of mind. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
Jake: Don't be a panzy. 30min drive is NOT long distance.
imho, anything over 1hr without traffic is too far. |
Hence the whole "short-long" thing that Myra pointed out. Also, I questioned whether or not it would even apply to my situation. I've been driving down there every weekend for years anyway, so it's not like it makes a difference now. :p |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by idoru
Hence the whole "short-long" thing that Myra pointed out. Also, I questioned whether or not it would even apply to my situation. I've been driving down there every weekend for years anyway, so it's not like it makes a difference now. :p |
That is your commute to work. That isn't short-long at all. I think when she said short-long, she meant 1-2 hours away (Myra, correct me if I am wrong please!) and not 20-30 minutes away. Remember that is your drive to the mall.
Marcus, while I commend you for your effort, I see potential for problems. If you were each on opposite sides of the country, it wouldn't be a big deal, but you are not. You are around 7000 miles (11000km) away. You can't just take a weekend flight for USD400. It will be a much more significant event.
FBG: what were the costs for your flights? Did you fly economy or 1st class or what when you would come over so often? |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
Remember that is your drive to the mall. |
5 != 30-60 :p
But yes, I agree with what you're saying, hence (like I said) my questioning whether or not it would even apply in the first place. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by idoru
5 != 30-60 :p
But yes, I agree with what you're saying, hence (like I said) my questioning whether or not it would even apply in the first place. |
lol your mall is 5mins away!? Well aren't you lucky! :p
But yeah you pretty much live at your gfs now. |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
That's exactly how we see it. We've been together for almost 5 years now and, although I sometimes vent here about how I'm mad at one thing or another, I think there will always be some "friction" in a relationship, and I've learnt to cope with many of her differences just fine.
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Definition of a healthy relationship right there, no joke. 
I'm sure all will be well, Marcus - certainly not easy, but you're a smart chap with a level head, and if it's your prerogative you can pull it off.
Part of really loving someone is knowing when they've got to head off in their own direction and do their own thing, and still being confident that the two of you will be fine.
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| Domesticated |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
short-long, she meant 1-2 hours away (Myra, correct me if I am wrong please!) and not 20-30 minutes away. |
I believe she meant "short-long" as in a short-term but long distance relationship for a few months as opposed to "long-long"; a long-term, long distance relationship of a few years. |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Domesticated
I believe she meant "short-long" as in a short-term but long distance relationship for a few months as opposed to "long-long"; a long-term, long distance relationship of a few years. |
No, Ben was right. ;)
Edit: And it was about 2 hours and 15 minutes. :p |
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| fbgdavidson |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
FBG: what were the costs for your flights? Did you fly economy or 1st class or what when you would come over so often? |
Usually Business Class but sometimes premium economy if it was a good deal or business was a silly price. I learned how to find the best deals, bought a lot if it was cheap, held off or used miles if it was expensive.
Anywhere between £550/$1000 (cheap premium economy) to £2300/$4200 (the higher business class prices I was willing to pay) per roundtrip. British Airways liked our relationship that's for sure!
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
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I hope not. But, should that happen, I'm going to yell Thank you Mexico! as I take her bra off, and do it for your country :D |
Yeah, dude. You're screwed :p |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by fbgdavidson
Usually Business Class but sometimes premium economy if it was a good deal or business was a silly price. I learned how to find the best deals, bought a lot if it was cheap, held off or used miles if it was expensive.
Anywhere between £550/$1000 (cheap premium economy) to £2300/$4200 (the higher business class prices I was willing to pay) per roundtrip. British Airways liked our relationship that's for sure! |
:nervous: Not cheap by any means. |
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