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Long distance relationships (pg. 4)
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| jastiC |
lol after 2 weeks.. bitch gona want n will many japanese men ending in a ritual of bukkake :toothless
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by coolestrl
yes im a guy and im saying it hurts:( |
What's wrong with that? |
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| Sunsnail |
| Why hasn't rose posted in here yet? |
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| Ania_xox |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Is your loved one away? Are you in a new city, or has your significant other gone to a different state... or country, perhaps? Are you feeling lonely, but you're still reluctant to share your homemade sammich with that hot coworker/classmate that has desperately invited you to Subway for lunch so you could share your deepest sammichical secrets? You're not alone. I'm going to be with you soon.
Tomorrow, at 5 PM in Brazilian time (8PM UTC), my fiancée is flying to Nagoya (JP), and will spend at least 3 years there. I really think it's going to be hard to keep this relationship intact for so long, specially because I probably won't go to live in Nagoya even if I do go to Japan in the near future. So, I decided I'm going to do the following 3 things to cope with the distance:
- Do anything but live like a hermit: I'm friends with far more girls than guys, so if I decide to stick with my girl in spite of this new context of blooming hotness and potential epic wins because I don't think they're worth pursuing... that is a sign that this is indeed what I want;
- Keep in touch. This bit is obvious, I guess;
- Keep working on my goals. The busier the mind, the easier it is for the heart.
Any other tips? Have you ever been in a(n un)successful long distance relationship? What was it like?
edit: Ambiguous expression was ambiguous. |
Honestly... this isn't impossible.
The only thing that makes sense is to try and to be open to and ready for the possibility that things will start to get difficult - perhaps too difficult to handle. People change and grow. If that growth between the two of you is not happening together then it will become a barrier in your relationship. She will grow one way and you will grow another.
I think the notion of trying to keep things going is admirable and romantic. I think if you two can try to see eachother twice a year than it's plausible to stay together. You will have that to look forward to and to keep yourselves motivated to keep things alive.
(Phone sex and webcams will help too)
Good luck to you.
I, personally, don't think I could do it.
I'm away from my boyfriend for 4 days every week and I FLY to catch the train back home every thursday night. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing.
Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure.
I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing.
Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure.
I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it. |
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we've missed you halcyon! |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing.
Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure.
I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it. |
Never leave us again, please. :stongue: |
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| coolestrl |
| quote: | Originally posted by idoru
What's wrong with that? |
notthing rong wen i talk abt it my frenz are like thats gay bro. im like wtf gay abt it? whatever i dont care. |
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| idoru |
| Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy bro. |
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| Rose |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sunsnail
Why hasn't rose posted in here yet? |
am I suppose to? You post. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rose
am I suppose to? You post. |
"You hang up!"
"No you hang up!"
"Bye, I love you!"
"I love you more!"
"No I do!" |
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| StanVoid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing.
Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure.
I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it. |
hahah is that from a movie or something? |
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